It's about so much more than the fucking cupcake

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I went out today, by myself! A rare occurrence with 2 small children but nevertheless I went out and DH stayed at home with the kids

Having done a bit of shopping (all stuff for the kids and an impromptu purchase of an item of clothing for DH) I decided to treat myself to a cupcake from a posh bakery-it's one of those that is enormous and is literally baked diabetes but being a rare thing I thought I'd get one....I had visions of getting home, sitting down with a cuppa after the kids had gone to bed, and tucking in to the delicious cakey goodness
DH does not like cakes, he doesn't like cupcakes, but I text him anyway to check just in case but no, he did not want one.

Reader, I think you probably know what's coming next...

Kids are in bed, and downstairs I come to find a scene of crumby destruction in front of me. Half the cupcake has gone.
When questioned, he said he 'thought it was leftover because I thought you ate yours when you were out'
I said to him 'You don't even like cupcakes'
And do you know what the bastard said?
'That's why I only ate half'

THATS. WHY. I. ONLY. ATE. HALF.

I have now been accused of making a big deal about it, but in eating half that cupcake I almost feel like he has dropped another crumb on what is a growing pile of moudly yeasty smelly grot.

Sort of lighthearted....but also sort of not

AIBU?

he definitely needs to replace it
Or maybe 'he definitely needs replacing'!

Here we go op and
And this for your husband 💩

Replace the husband after he replaces the cake ... defo grounds for divorce

He needs to replace the cupcake.

Not a like for like replacement. A tray of them. A tray of whole ones, totally untouched. Only for you, until you've had enough, then he's welcome to the crumbs.

And he needs to bring them to you in bed, with a cup of tea.

Then leave you to enjoy in peace!

What an arsehole. Redeeming qualities?

@ForeverRedSkinhead

He owes you a cupcake.

And a proper apology.

I'd be really cross too.

@BloggersBlog it was one of these, with pink icing

hummingbirdbakery.com/collections/cupcakes/products/vanilla-cupcakes

Not like the most special cupcake in the world I grant you but it was MINE

@Gazelda he ate one side so taking half of the sponge and half of the icing.

Greedy pig

Hmm you are right it's about so much more than a fucking cupcake.

You rarely have a day to yourself, he doesn't do his fair share but today he had to parent his children whilst you did something for you. Why did he think you'd bought a cupcake home if he thought you'd eaten yours whilst you were out and he'd declined? He mentioned you having lunch out as if he was keeping score.

I think sometimes we excuse men for thoughtless behaviour when it's anything but. Call me a cynic but I'd bet he knew that cupcake was your and ate half as a PA way of expressing how pissed off he was about you going out.

Greedy pig. He ate it just to be greedy, he doesn't even like it. And god forbid you eat lunch, what a luxury, one of your three basic meals a day.
He owes you a cupcake and an apology.
Why would he not ask you if it was leftover? Why would you have a whole leftover cupcake?! How many does he think you ate if one is leftovers?!

When he's at work, order yourself a load from Kaspas and send him the picture of you scoffing it all.

I'm actually half tempted to just return the item of clothing I bought for him, and when he asks just say 'oh I thought you didn't want it'

I'm actually half tempted to just return the item of clothing I bought for him, and when he asks just say 'oh I thought you didn't want it'

I like to mentally indulge perverse extremes so I'd fantasise about cutting it in half and pretending I thought it was leftover

You need a new patio op.
Alibi's galore here.

I could not stay married to that man.

Pillow to the face tonight.

He sounds childish and mean-spirited, which would be a massive turn-off for me. He doesn't even like the thing he stole, ffs.

DH would have made me a cuppa to go with it, not pinched half of it just to make a point

I would definitely not let this crime go unpunished.

Even if he thought it was leftover, why would he eat it when he doesn't like it, rather than, say, leave it to you for tomorrow, since you do actually like it?

Yummmm.... thanks for the picture, delicious - definitely grounds for LTB I feel.

If it had been a red velvet cupcake however then yes, an under the patio job for sure.

A sugar laden way of reminding you you might get a day out but he can still rein you in. Bastard.

@MyHeadOverfloweth

I'm actually half tempted to just return the item of clothing I bought for him, and when he asks just say 'oh I thought you didn't want it'

Do.

I know you said this was a bit light hearted but I actually think this shows a tremendous amount of disregard for you.

I would be genuinely furious at this and if I didn't receive a proper apology this would be one of those things that would push me away from him...... Divorce is often a series of smaller disregards and this would be one of them.

This reminds me of Ross's sandwich in 'Friends.' Just had to drop that in there.

How is he still in the house?!? How have you not already divorced him?!? He is not a nice man!