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Original poster

to think that this woman was very selfish

392 replies

littlemsattitude · 19/09/2020 17:28

This morning at the petrol station she was in the shop with her husband, they walked round several of the aisles without buying anything and then she went with him to pay for the petrol, he was wearing a mask and she didn't. He paid for the petrol and they didn't buy anything else.

She should have waited in the car, there was no reason for them both to be in the shop Angry

OP posts:
WitchQueenofDarkness · 19/09/2020 18:34

What would annoy me more is them blocking a pump whilst they ambled around browsing whilst I was waiting outside for a pump to come free.

i try to avoid petrol stations with shops attached for just this reason.

laidbacklife · 19/09/2020 18:37

I think it's odder that you stood there spying on them and then wrote about it on a public forum. You clearly don't have much going on in your life!

redcarbluecar · 19/09/2020 18:37

I think you may cause yourself unnecessary stress if you react like this every time you see someone not wearing a mask. Just do what you personally can to stay safe.

Original poster
littlemsattitude · 19/09/2020 18:37

[quote BoggledBudgie]@littlemsattitude or maybe you should be locked away? Sounds a much better solution.[/quote]
Why? For doing the right thing myself and expecting other people to do the same ? She had no reason to need to go for a walk in a small shop, they had a car they could go to a larger supermarket.

OP posts:
WokesFromHome · 19/09/2020 18:39

You must be loads of fun to be around OP.

vodkaredbullgirl · 19/09/2020 18:39

How old were they?

YellowNotRed · 19/09/2020 18:40

How on earth do you know what she was looking for or what they were able to do?

Maybe stop judging people so harshly and mind your own business.

YellowNotRed · 19/09/2020 18:40

@vodkaredbullgirl

How old were they?
Why does this matter?
jessstan2 · 19/09/2020 18:40

You really are observant, op. I'm quite sure I would never have noticed.

She may have had some ideas of what she wanted but the shop didn't sell it, however that is her business.

There are people who are exempt from wearing masks.

Mind your own business.

Undomesticgodde55 · 19/09/2020 18:41

What if she had a mental disability you couldn't see? Autism? Dementia? Or could have been her one chance to get out the house with her husband for a mooch.

You don't know why she wasn't wearing a mask so stop pre judging.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 19/09/2020 18:41

She had no reason to need to go for a walk in a small shop

How on earth would you know Confused

You're wrong here op, just let it go and chill out in future.

vodkaredbullgirl · 19/09/2020 18:42

It doenst really, but she could have had dementia. She couldnt have been left in the car by herself.

Chestergirl39 · 19/09/2020 18:42

To be fair to OP, you don’t know what’s going on in her life at the moment either, and the reason why she felt like this.

There is a lot of anxiety around at the moment, especially health anxiety, and she may be in the more high risk category.

There do seem to be a lot of exemptions, as someone else has mentioned, but the fact remains it does put you at higher risk when someone doesn’t wear one.

In our hospital department, we only allow the patient into the appointment, not anyone accompanying them (unless a carer), and ask them to put on a mask. If they refuse or are exempt, we complete what we need to do at 2m or virtually. This is for our own safety.

Vilifying someone for highlighting something that made them anxious makes you as bad as you think the OP is.

SquashedSpring · 19/09/2020 18:42

I know someone who's husband has early onset dementia, she can't leave him on his own so they go everywhere together. You don't know what is going on in other people's lives.

MsTSwift · 19/09/2020 18:42

Sorry I also think get a life. What has this done to us? Brought out the small minded judgemental busybodies. What will they do when this is over? How will they channel all that judgemental curtain twitching energy?

AndNowItsHappeningInMine · 19/09/2020 18:44

I'd struggle to give a fuck tbh, much less start a post about it.

TitianaTitsling · 19/09/2020 18:44

It's very noticeable when you want to go down an aisle and can't because somebody is not wearing a mask and is going to be within a metre of you did you have a mask on? Youre going to be on a sticky wicket if you react like this every time you come into contact with some one not wearing a mask!

CatSmith · 19/09/2020 18:45

Why was she selfish op? She has just as much right to be in that shop as you do!

Maybe she wanted something. Maybe she needed San-pro and her husband wouldn’t leave her side (some people are still shy). Maybe she wanted to buy a mask.
Maybe she’d just got her test results and was given 3 months to live and they were both in shock!

Either way I agree with po, you should have picked up a life whilst you was in there!

Settleandcalm · 19/09/2020 18:45

My mum doesn’t get out much, she often goes with my dad to just go to the local small shop/Asda/garage/whatever because to her that is a trip out. She doesn’t like to go further but little trips cheer her up.

She does wear a mask but she probably shouldn’t as she has asthma.

Stop being a sad judgey bitch.

I despair of this increasingly Stasi state

InFiveMins · 19/09/2020 18:48

YABU - mind your own business, and get a life.

HesterShaw1 · 19/09/2020 18:49

Here we go again...

The MN Judgement Police are back to April levels of judginess and nosiness and pettiness. "Selfish" is the mot du jour.

Get. A. Life.

Blackberrycream · 19/09/2020 18:50

This is a bit of a pile on and really symptomatic of the mess we find ourselves in. Actually, I think you are right. It is selfish. It is putting others at risk and is a peculiarly British ( and also American seemingly) attitude to individual autonomy at the expense of concern and empathy for fellow citizens and community.
Yes, exemptions exist but really thinking about others and not yourself seems to be increasingly seen as optional. This looks certainly like an example of this. This makes light of very real reasons for exemptions. Nobody is exempt from concern for others.

ultrablue · 19/09/2020 18:50

Perhaps she was looking for some medication or something her husband wasn't sure what to buy

BritWifeinUSA · 19/09/2020 18:51

The vulnerable? She might be the most vulnerable of us all. She might be terminally ill. Maybe she was looking for something specific in the shop and couldn’t find it and that’s why she didn’t buy anything. It’s absolutely none of your business. If you’ve really bought into this “deadly virus” crap then stay at home. Let others go to a petrol station in peace.

Gods knows what you are going to do when you find out that there are people committing far worse crimes in your town right now than browsing the sweets in a petrol station without a mask that is as effective as stopping a virus as a lattice fence is at keeping wasps out of your back garden.

pollylocketpickedapocket · 19/09/2020 18:51

@Smallsteps88

You should have purchased a life while you were in the shop OP. You’re in urgent need of one.
Brilliant!!
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