Friend using my netflix

[Netflix89]

Hi all

So my friend Was texting the other day & really wanted to watch a documentary that’s only available on Netflix. I offered my log in details so she could watch it.
Now found out via texting back n forth that she’s been on it every night since, it doesn’t stop me watching it but I just thinking how cheeky! When I only offered it her to watch 1 thing.

AIBU?

By the way I know there’s more pressing things going on in life just wanted another opinion.

For me it’s the not asking. OP was generous and kind and offered it for an occasion. Friend has taken advantage and hasn’t even had the manners to ask if it is ok to continue.

I also agree with PP about the security point with sharing passwords.

@caughtalightsneeze

I'm not tight fisted at all, I always pay my share, which is why I can't get my head around expecting my friends to subsidise my lifestyle. The tight fisted, non generous person in this case is the person expecting to make use of Netflix without paying for it. Particularly since the OP said that the friend is in a much better financial position than she is.

It reminds me of all those people who expect lifts to work everyday but then are outraged at the thought of contributing to the cost of the journey, because 'you have to make the journey anyway'. My best friend has a holiday home that is within driving distance. She doesn't use it every weekend. Does that mean that if she allows me to stay one weekend, I can just keep the key and use it any time she isn't there? After all, it's not inconveniencing her if she's not using it anyway.

I know the monetary values are different but it's the same sense of entitlement to something that someone else is paying for.

There was a thread quite a famous one where someone was using the OP’s holiday home when they weren’t there! IIRC they’d copied the key the one time they’d used it with the OP’s permission.

In Netflix's T+Cs it states that they may terminate an account thought to be used by members outside of the user's household. Having said that if a friend asked to use my a/c I wouldn't mind. I guess it's the principle that your friend didn't ask.

Years ago a friend I lived with passed my account dets to her cousin. I knew this as her cousin had the audacity to set herself up as one of the users. I was like who the hell is Debbie? I changed the log in pronto. Not THAT was entitled!

I mean I'm the one paying for Netflix, Disney +, and Prime, and I give my family, housemates, and a couple of friends free access.

Whilst I reiterate that the friend is cheeky and should have asked, it's not a hill I would be prepared to die on. No skin off my nose etc etc.

I let my dd and GC share my Disney+ and my sons friend use my Netflix. It makes no difference to me as I can have 4 accounts. I try to give others a hand up if I can. Why are some people so hostile to sharing with others in a less comfortable financial position?

@caringcarer

I let my dd and GC share my Disney+ and my sons friend use my Netflix. It makes no difference to me as I can have 4 accounts. I try to give others a hand up if I can. Why are some people so hostile to sharing with others in a less comfortable financial position?

The OP has stated her friend is much better off than she is!

I use my friend's Netflix, she uses my Prime. Never occured that we need to ask each other extra permissions.

Years ago a friend I lived with passed my account dets to her cousin. I knew this as her cousin had the audacity to set herself up as one of the users. I was like who the hell is Debbie? grin I changed the log in pronto. Not THAT was entitled!

😂😂😂 that made me laugh!

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest!

I'm amazed at all this sharing of accounts. I don't know the t&cs of Netflix but most things like this only allow sharing within a household.

As PP said sharing of passwords and account details is extremely bad practice. I do hope you don't use the same password for any other accounts OP. The is a thing called identify theft. If your details get passed around enough, your identity could be used assumed and used in fraudulent activity.

I'm particulary amazed at people sharing Amazon Prime because we have our payment cards on that for purchases so sharing login details around means anyone making a purchase can use any registered card on the account. That could easily go wrong either deliberately or by accident withe sharers not using their own card or resharing with further less well meaning parties.

The privacy thing would worry me.

DS left our family Netflix logged into some student accommodation he was living in whilst doing an internship one summer. It took us a while to realise. Instead the DC took turns to accuse each other of dodgy viewing choices....and the porn.

I don't give out my passwords to other people so I would change it for that reason. I think she should have asked if she wanted to keep using it and offered to pay towards it and the fact that she didn't would not make me feel inclined to let her keep using it.
Interesting that so many people share Prime. Doesn't that mean people can shop on your account too?

I can’t imagine caring about something so utterly trivial. We’re happy to share our spare log in.

It is rude & presumptuous. How I'd deal with it would depend on how she generally is as a friend. If she has form for being a CF, then I'd be logging her out & having a word with her about manners

I set up a box for & gave my log in to an old friend who was laid up on his own with Covid, he did come back to me at the end of it to say thank you, it had been a big help & he'd guessed I needed him to sign out now. Like you it has no affect on me, so I said I didn't mind either way. The difference was that he asked. Your friend doesn't know that it doesn't affect you long term, if she's using the same account/box as you for example & she watches something you watch, then it can mess up how it marks series episodes that you've watched

All the posters saying why does it bother you, I wouldn't care, what does it matter...

Firstly, OP is sharing it with her BIL, perhaps he minds that some random is logged on?
There is a limit of either 2 or 4 (depending on how much you pay) What if the BIL or the OP decides to let your sister or another member of her close family use her Netflix?

My DD shares hers with us. She pays for 2. Sometimes one of us can't go on because someone else is on.
So what happens for the OP then?
What if there are 4 watching and one is her 'friend' and she can't watch what she's paying for?

It's a cheek just to use someone's Netflix without asking night after night.

It is a bit cheeky yes.

I would change the password and tell your brother and mum. If she questions it just say your brother couldn't use it one day because too many people on it and changed the password. Tell her she can get a free 1 month trial for herself if she wants to keep watching any shows.

Job done. Move on.

To all those that share spare log ins... so you let all your friends use it? What happens when you can't get on because all these people are on it

I'm particulary amazed at people sharing Amazon Prime because we have our payment cards on that for purchases so sharing login details around means anyone making a purchase can use any registered card on the account. That could easily go wrong either deliberately or by accident withe sharers not using their own card or resharing with further less well meaning parties.

Yes, that part amazes me to. I share the prime with DD but she has her own account and password. She would be able to use my card and no way would I give access to someone who wasn't family.

You're not U for not wanting to share something that you pay for. Dont let all the angels on here make you feel pants. If she were to reciprocate with something else then maybe you'd be okay with it, as it is she has garnered access to your account for one specific occasion and is now taking the piss.

How you respond to her depends on how youve responded when she's told you she was continuing to watch Netflix also

@Roussette

To all those that share spare log ins... so you let all your friends use it? What happens when you can't get on because all these people are on it

It's ok, if you're a good friend you won't mind.

To all those that share spare log ins... so you let all your friends use it? What happens when you can't get on because all these people are on it

Nothing as it's a spare, we have 4 on Netflix & there's 3 of us, we'd never use the 4th one, so why not 🤷‍♀️

Well she should offer to pay towards it surely. That's only polite?

A friend of mine has Spotify premium family, I use it. But I pay to do so! Why should my friend pay for my entertainment?

@Roussette

To all those that share spare log ins... so you let all your friends use it? What happens when you can't get on because all these people are on it

It has never happened in the 6+ years I've had Netflix.

I think, going forward for anyone who asks it should be, "Oh yes, you can often get a free trial and it's so easy to cancel once you no longer need it." It is the price of a coffee so I don't see why people should piggyback from others. I certainly would never ask and I don't give.

My parents are always asking to use prime (when we had it) and Netflix or sky. They'd not dream of buying these services but are happy to use other people's. I got wise quickly when I found I was ordering stuff for my mum but she 'could never put her card details in the computer.' and then she'd never give me the cash. Mind you, they'd never buy a coffee out either. Or they'd buy one and share if desperate.

But you've given it now, so you're either going to have to cancel and resubscribe or have an awkward conversation, because she'll just demand the new password if you change it.

@KeepingPlain

It is. People just love to come on these threads and be contrary for shits and giggles.

I think that these people who think others aren't being cheeky are actually the ones we hear threads about every day. Cheeky people are the same after all, they only care about what they want, they have little thought or regard for anyone else.

I disagree and think it's an over simplifacation of why people don't agree with the OP. I think the OP is being a bit U, but that's because I am someone who subcribes to most of the streaming options and just shares her details around with friends/family.

In my mind, if I pay for several logins but only use one then I am 'wasting' something so think others might as well get the use. The downside (to them) is that they are subject to my streaming whims. If I decide to cancel one day, then they will be without or have to subscribe themselves.

Ditto, if the OP changes her password then the friend will just have to suck it up. Them's the breaks when you get something for nothing.

I'm also aware that the term friend is used on mn to mean a wider ranage of people than I would use it for. For me, the people I consider friends and would share this stuff with, are people who I know very well, who I love and with whom I have swapped and exchanged favours for years so would not worry about a Netflix sub. Maybe this is not the case here and the OP's friend is more of an acquantance who is always taking and never giving.