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Friend using my netflix

253 replies

Netflix89 · 16/09/2020 21:39

Hi all

So my friend Was texting the other day & really wanted to watch a documentary that’s only available on Netflix. I offered my log in details so she could watch it.
Now found out via texting back n forth that she’s been on it every night since, it doesn’t stop me watching it but I just thinking how cheeky! When I only offered it her to watch 1 thing.

AIBU?

By the way I know there’s more pressing things going on in life just wanted another opinion.

OP posts:
ivykaty44 · 17/09/2020 07:51

you have several choices

tell friend that she needs to pay her share if she's going to continue to use it as your brother and you pay an equal share so its fine for her to send you the money

change the password

continue to let her use it for free and continue to pay for her share and reduce your brothers share

ask your brother if he ends paying for someone else share and you can continue to let her watch it for free whilst you and your brother pay for it

Summeriscancelled · 17/09/2020 07:51

My friend used my Netflix for over a year. I didn't mind too much but I talked about getting a Spotify premium. He said he wanted it too and suggested we could half in for the cost of it. I was a bit annoyed considering he'd had my Netflix for 18 months and I didn't ask him for any money.

I changed the password and now I have an arrangement with other friends. One has sky go, one has Disney plus and I have Netflix and we share.

Does your friend have prime, Disney plus or anything else you could share?

KeepingPlain · 17/09/2020 07:52

It is. People just love to come on these threads and be contrary for shits and giggles.

I think that these people who think others aren't being cheeky are actually the ones we hear threads about every day. Cheeky people are the same after all, they only care about what they want, they have little thought or regard for anyone else.

KeepingPlain · 17/09/2020 07:57

I don't have Netflix and don't want to pay for it either, can someone PM me with their details please. Also can you let me borrow your;

Ask bluntness, she apparently doesn't mind at all. Grin

standupsitdownturnaround · 17/09/2020 07:59

@KeepingPlain

It is. People just love to come on these threads and be contrary for shits and giggles.

I think that these people who think others aren't being cheeky are actually the ones we hear threads about every day. Cheeky people are the same after all, they only care about what they want, they have little thought or regard for anyone else.

Not at all. I see it like this: I've decided the value of amazon prime, Now TV and Netflix is worthwhile.

Those things provide extra value if I can give the benefits to friends or family. It's no extra cost to me and I then get the most out of the services, via other people.

I cannot understand these people saying just change the password and she's a freeloader.

I seriously doubt that, she's probably just unaware it's a big deal. Which it shouldn't be. All the comparisons on this thread include things completely unrelated.

She isn't going to use up Netflix, or wear it out, is she? There is no material difference to OP. And if, on the back of the ridiculous advice here, she passively aggressively changes the PW, the friend will probably think she's a total drama queen and very over sensitive. For all we know, the friend has a lovely bottle of wine ready to bring over to say thanks.

It's such a shame most people here reflexively think sharing is a bad thing. If you can't be generous when it doesn't actually cost you anything then you need to give your head a wobble.

Desperado24 · 17/09/2020 08:00

Meh. You have her the login details and it has zero impact on your life.

If it stresses you out, then you could have changed the password in less time than it took to post this thread.

LuckyAmy1986 · 17/09/2020 08:04

I thought Ywbu buy after your update I would tell her your mum uses it so unfortunately she won’t be able to anymore

Standrewsschool · 17/09/2020 08:09

I think it’s cheeky.

Change the password so only your mum, brother and yourself can use it again.

freeandfierce · 17/09/2020 08:14

I use the password of a work colleague, we both enjoy the same programs and films so she gave me her code to enable me to watch the same as her then we have have a chat/review of it . Bit like book club I guess. I live alone and it's useful for me at a weekend if I'm feeling a bit down. In return I buy her a coffee or a bottle of wine etc to say thank you. I always check to see if she wants payment but she's happy with our arrangement. It would be the right thing for your friend to offer some money or buy you a token of appreciation.

GreySkyClouds · 17/09/2020 08:16

@newsyoucanuse

Change the password - she’ll be locked out
If she asks say that you’ve changed plans so can only use on account. Or if you can’t face that, that you’ve cancelled as it was too expensive.
KeepingPlain · 17/09/2020 08:17

It's such a shame most people here reflexively think sharing is a bad thing. If you can't be generous when it doesn't actually cost you anything then you need to give your head a wobble.

No I just work in security. Giving passwords out is a very stupid thing to do. Imagine if this friend gives said password to someone else, or just decides she wants full access. She can change the password to it. She can also change the email, address to it. She's now got a product which you are laying for, and you've got literally no way of getting access back. Nor have you got a leg to stand on as you willingly gave the password. Netflix might be nice and get the account back, but I wouldnt count on that generosity. They don't have to after all. For all they know, you're lying.

Plus going on the fact that most people use similar passwords on multiple accounts means that said friend may have access to ops bank account, other shops etc. If someone else got it and realised that, bye bye money.

HolyForkinShirt · 17/09/2020 08:17

Everyone I know shares accounts to be honest. I pay for Netflix.
Friend A. Disney plus
Friend B. Amazing prime.

We all share and pay less than 10 per month for all the content.

cbt944 · 17/09/2020 08:18

Wow you’re really upset about making a shit comparison.

What, pray tell, would have worked better for you? The OP's spare spaceship? You are the third (sorry if I've missed any) poster who's picked on my comment; and each one complaining about it, without understanding it! Crazy-makingly dim, ie.

I'm a bit sick of people not grasping the basic principle involved, which is pretty simple - making some prim-lipped minging little reply that again fails to grasp the principle - and/or, people not having any actual principles, a pretty basic concept also, that some are finding very hard to grasp.

But do have a go, you seem to enjoy a free kick.

KeepingPlain · 17/09/2020 08:19

Paying not laying.

sapnupuas · 17/09/2020 08:20

I once let my friend/colleague use my Netflix when she'd split with her boyfriend as her evenings were suddenly free.

They got back together and she gave him my details - I could tell by what had been watched and when (he was a shift worker).

I signed out of all devices and changed my password. It was just never spoken about again.

Fairyliz · 17/09/2020 08:21

Think it depends on the friend really. I have one friend who might do this but then she is very generous with her time, money and possessions in return.
Another friend whilst great fun is always on the take. Over the years she has had lots for free from me but never offered anything in return. Only once have I asked to borrow something and she made an excuse.
So certainly not for my second friend.

canigohomenow · 17/09/2020 08:24

Change the password and never mention it. Guarantee neither will she but the message will be loudly delivered.

Original poster
Netflix89 · 17/09/2020 08:28

I do find it strange you have a problem with a friend using it given it costs you nothing and has no detrimental affect on you. It's a bit territorial and unkind tbh.

This has to be the best reply I’ve had.... it costs me nothing and I’m territorial over the Netflix account I pay for, when anyone in the UK can get it for themselves 😂 some people say the funniest things behind a keyboard.

OP posts:
caughtalightsneeze · 17/09/2020 08:29

I'm not tight fisted at all, I always pay my share, which is why I can't get my head around expecting my friends to subsidise my lifestyle. The tight fisted, non generous person in this case is the person expecting to make use of Netflix without paying for it. Particularly since the OP said that the friend is in a much better financial position than she is.

It reminds me of all those people who expect lifts to work everyday but then are outraged at the thought of contributing to the cost of the journey, because 'you have to make the journey anyway'. My best friend has a holiday home that is within driving distance. She doesn't use it every weekend. Does that mean that if she allows me to stay one weekend, I can just keep the key and use it any time she isn't there? After all, it's not inconveniencing her if she's not using it anyway.

I know the monetary values are different but it's the same sense of entitlement to something that someone else is paying for.

52andblue · 17/09/2020 08:32

This is handy for me to know, thanks.

I discovered my ds had given my exH the code for my Netflix so he could watch it when he is at his Dad's for the weekend (that's ok :)

Now, his Dad uses it daily inc. when he visited his own mother 350 miles away and they 'wanted to watch something'! Grrr...

Lexmerrie · 17/09/2020 08:38

Seeing as she is you friend OP, it shouldn't bother you so much? If it were my friend, I would make her a profile so she can watch away to her hearts content! You never know when you might need anything from her.

SerenDippitty · 17/09/2020 08:39

Because you can use WiFi to do all sorts of dodgy things and the owner would be none the wiser. It can also slow your connection down if you have multiple people using it and steaming stuff at the same time.

With Netflix, it has zero impact. OP can still watch her programmes and it has no impact on her internet speeds either. Plus all the friend can do with the information is...watch Netflix.

It's not remotely comparable.

The principle of taking advantage of someone’s good nature, the person who is paying, is the same.

Purplekitchen · 17/09/2020 08:40

Ask your mum if she still wants access, if not offer the spare profile to your friend for a third of the subscription cost.

SerenDippitty · 17/09/2020 08:41

From the replies on this thread I can only surmise that a lot of people are getting Netflix/Prime for free via their friends.

Morgan12 · 17/09/2020 08:43

Is this a big deal really?

I am on my friends Prime and my other friends SkyGo. One of my friends has my Netflix, the other has my Virgin Anywhere and two of them have my Disney Plus.

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