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Friend using my netflix

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Netflix89 · 16/09/2020 21:39

Hi all

So my friend Was texting the other day & really wanted to watch a documentary that’s only available on Netflix. I offered my log in details so she could watch it.
Now found out via texting back n forth that she’s been on it every night since, it doesn’t stop me watching it but I just thinking how cheeky! When I only offered it her to watch 1 thing.

AIBU?

By the way I know there’s more pressing things going on in life just wanted another opinion.

OP posts:
Bluntness100 · 16/09/2020 21:52

Maybe it’s because if it was the other way round I would have watched the one thing then if I wanted to continue I would have asked if it was ok too

Why? It makes zero difference to you. Absolutely zero.

I gave my daughter our log on when she was at uni and let her flat mates use it, it literally made zero difference to me. I loose nothing and am impacted in no way.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/09/2020 21:54

It's cheeky op and she should have asked.

However, what is she like as a friend? Is she the sort who would have given you GET log in details if the situation was reversed? Does she take your feelings into consideration and care about you? Or does she regularly use you for what she wants?

If she's generally a nice person is probably make a joke about it but otherwise wouldn't care

snappyoldfart · 16/09/2020 21:54

Just set her up her own setting and let her crack on? That's what "friends" do!!

The word friends differs so much from people on here, I'd pay for my friends Netflix if they were needing a boost.

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 16/09/2020 21:55

People just love to come on these threads and be contrary for shits and giggles

Agreed.
In the real world, of course it's rude. Why should OP have to pay and her friend doesn't? She could always offer to go halves or if she can't afford it she should bloody ask.

lavenderlove · 16/09/2020 21:55

I think it's fine but I would probably just get her to make her own profile on the account so when you go back to programmes it's still at the same point you left it at etc. I would've probably asked if it was ok but if she's a good friend and a nice person it wouldn't bother me really. If she's one of those freeloader friends and had form for cheeky behaviour I would say you have the max amount of people on your account, I wouldn't just change your password without saying though

Bluntness100 · 16/09/2020 21:56

@PickwickThePlockingDodo

People just love to come on these threads and be contrary for shits and giggles

Agreed.
In the real world, of course it's rude. Why should OP have to pay and her friend doesn't? She could always offer to go halves or if she can't afford it she should bloody ask.

In the real world no one gives a shit or would ask their mate for a couple of quid a month for something they were paying for and using anyway.

Bloody hell. No wonder there is so many lonely people with no mates in the world when they behave like this.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/09/2020 21:58

It's rude but you are on a website where someone told landlord they should give the house to tenants. I am surprised this thread doesn't have a suggestion you give her your tv too😂

It's about a princip. She didn't ask. Just kept it. It's rude, simple as that.

standupsitdownturnaround · 16/09/2020 21:59

What! I cannot believe this is a problem? I share my Netflix, audible and amazon prime with some family and friends because.... I care about their resources and I don't care about amazon or Netflix.

How can people from outside your friendship judge this? If she's someone who always takes and never gives, that's not nice. If she's generous and easygoing then she's just expecting you to be the same.

Am really surprised by the people who think this is a problem.

forrestgreen · 16/09/2020 21:59

Has she offered half your payment for this month?
If not then log out of all devices

ProudAuntie76 · 16/09/2020 22:01

Of course it’s rude and if everyone ends up doing this the costs are going to go up for those of us who actually do pay. She should have just signed up for a free trial or payed £5.99 a month for her own account.
I hate dishonesty. I know Netflix is a big company but still...pay your fair share people!

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 16/09/2020 22:01

In the real world no one gives a shit or would ask their mate for a couple of quid a month for something they were paying for and using anyway.

In the real world a friend should ask for something that isn't theirs not just take it.

Oysterbabe · 16/09/2020 22:03

I couldn't get worked up about this.

cyclingmad · 16/09/2020 22:03

Well it will matter IF Netflix decide to crack down on this and aince last year they have been, they have an algorithm that looks for patterns and behavioirs and location of logins etc and if they decide your in breach of your subscription contract they can suspend your account or make you then take their premium account.

It also won't be a simple fine ill just register again as your IP address wont change.

I know most will say they won't do this and its unlikely to happen and that might be true however best be careful who you share details with.

Just change your password, simple.

Ontheboardwalk · 16/09/2020 22:04

It is cheeky she should have asked to continue to use it. What would you have said if she’d asked?

If you’ve got a spare screen and she does actually ask I’d let her use it.

I did kick a friend out using one of my screens as she kept using my icon to check out what I was watching. I'd get really confused that my previously watched episode 10 was going back to episode 3 with her watching it or even worse was on episode 20 when I started watching it

My friend was kicked out for an hour or two as just punishment

Bingowin · 16/09/2020 22:04

I think she's being cheeky.

I let my friend watch something on my Netflix and the same thing happened. On it every night! I changed the password.

Lockheart · 16/09/2020 22:05

She hasn't taken anything in truth. OP gave her access to everything on Netflix for an indefinite period of time by giving her the log in details.

It doesn't affect OP - she is not losing out.

The friend is being cheeky and it would have been polite to ask, but she's not taking anything. Just using what has been given.

It's a bit like lending your friend your lawnmower to do their front garden and then being annoyed they did the back as well.

WitchesNStuff · 16/09/2020 22:05

It is really rude. My friend and my parents use my netflix log in whenever they want, the difference is that I offered. My brother uses my sky go so he can watch sky sports.

The only thing is that I think I would have just offered for her to use it whenever rather for just that one thing but it is still rude that she has used it without asking.

HoneysuckIejasmine · 16/09/2020 22:05

Ask her to share the cost. My brother gives me half the cost as we upgraded at his request because his TV has much higher definition than ours and faster internet. No skin off my nose. 🤷🏻‍♀️

wildcherries · 16/09/2020 22:06

I share my Netflix, audible and amazon prime with some family and friends because.... I care about their resources and I don't care about amazon or Netflix.

Pretty much.

Pikachubaby · 16/09/2020 22:06

I think it’s cheeky

Why should you pay for her Netflix?

Some people are just users

whattodo2019 · 16/09/2020 22:06

As lots of people have said, change the password

Pobblebonk · 16/09/2020 22:07

@Pinkchocolate

I honestly wouldn’t care, like you said it doesn’t stop you watching it and she’s not being sneaky about it so I don’t see the issue.
Don't be dim. She must have known that OP offered her access to enable her to see one programme. She must know that OP has had to pay for the service, so it's the height of bad manners just to assume she can carry on without asking for permission.
SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/09/2020 22:10

It's lovely people share, but I highly doubt they started sharing by someone using the stuff without proper permission or conversation about it...

Ontheboardwalk · 16/09/2020 22:10

@cyclingmad

Well it will matter IF Netflix decide to crack down on this and aince last year they have been, they have an algorithm that looks for patterns and behavioirs and location of logins etc and if they decide your in breach of your subscription contract they can suspend your account or make you then take their premium account.

It also won't be a simple fine ill just register again as your IP address wont change.

I know most will say they won't do this and its unlikely to happen and that might be true however best be careful who you share details with.

Just change your password, simple.

So I do myself watch Netflix at my friends, my mums or travelling (pre Covid) around the country using the hotels WiFi

What are Netflix going to do! Ban me from using the service from only my home. Good luck if they try to suspend me based on my IP address

WildAboutMyPlanet · 16/09/2020 22:11

I let friends use my account, but I do understand that she hasn’t asked if it’s okay and that makes it a bit cheeky. If she had asked then that would have been different, and I’m sure you wouldn’t have minded. So totally get the principle.

If you want her off then you can log her out and change your password, if not then I wouldn’t bother saying anything as it’s a pointless argument.