Friend using my netflix

[Netflix89]

Hi all

So my friend Was texting the other day & really wanted to watch a documentary that’s only available on Netflix. I offered my log in details so she could watch it.
Now found out via texting back n forth that she’s been on it every night since, it doesn’t stop me watching it but I just thinking how cheeky! When I only offered it her to watch 1 thing.

AIBU?

By the way I know there’s more pressing things going on in life just wanted another opinion.

I’m guessing that some of the posters on this thread are the ones that post on the ‘I don’t have any friends’ threads.

Ask her to split the cost with you, if she is now using it regularly.

It's such a chavvy thing to do to carry on using it without asking. Never mind whether it costs the OP anything, it's a breach of trust.

It is a bit cheeky. Ask if your friend has amazon or Disney plus and wants to share their login and keep your Netflix one. Win win!

If my friend was broke and needed the entertainment for herself or dc and she's a generous sort anyway then it's fine. If it was given to wqtch one thing and then she takes rhe liberty to peruse it for other things instead of signing up for her own one then she is using you like a mug.

Expecting to use something someone else is paying for, even if it is not very much, is freeloading and cheeky. Especially so with Amazon Prime, where not everything is free to watch anyway.

It would be something if your friend bought you a bottle of wine a month in return for the favour. That wouldn’t cost her very much either. Those saying sharing your log ins is what friends do, I wouldn’t take advantage of friends in that way.

I think it is cheeky for the friend to have not asked. Presuming the OP is paying for one device at a time (and why would she pay for more than one if it is just her?), then she can't watch it if her friend is on it which is where it becomes really cheeky. Then why should she pay a further £36 a year for a 2nd device just so friend can watch it simultaneously? If already unnecessarily paying for 2 devices simultaneously then it's not a huge deal (providing the 2nd device user isn't put out), but basic manners should have prevailed by asking to continue.

We piggyback off my son’s Netflix. On a couple of occasions we have prevented them using it because too many people are online so you can be affected.
She’s a CF.
Change the password.

I can’t believe the lack of generosity some folks have to people they call friends. This is one of the very few things where it has Absolutely no impact on you at all and still some folks would object.

“She’s using you like a mug” “ask her for money towards it” “change the password and lock her out” “she’s a freeloader”

Honestly it’s really sad that people have such a lack of generosity over something so minor and inconsequential like this.

And as for the ridiculous dress comparison, 😟

And as for the ridiculous dress comparison,

Oh, for fuck's fucking sake! Which part of a one-off favour is quite different to a CF assuming entitlement to continue using this favour on an ongoing basis, without discussing it, is so hard to grasp?

I do hope said cheeky friend doesn't pass the password and so forth onto her boyfriend, (and he to his friend at the pub), as hey! Op can still use her service, until she can't.

She wanted to watch a show, one night. If she wants to keep using it, the polite thing to do was request the continuation of the favour - not place the OP in a situation where it becomes embarrassing for her to speak up, as CFs so often create.

There was a thread a while ago where the OP’s new neighbour asked if they could use the OP’s WiFi until they got their own organised and they never did - just kept right on using the OP’s. Everyone was up in arms about that. How is it any different?

DH's parents use our netflix and I know it shouldn't bother me but it does a tiny bit

Wow didn’t expect so many replies!
To clarify some points that have been made:

No friend is not short of money, earns a lot more than me!! I only work part time as a single mum.
It’s my brother & I’s account, I send him a direct debit each month for half the cost and we have 3 user spaces, his, mine & the other we made our mum one so over lockdown if she needed things to watch she could. She hasn’t used it as of yet.

Friend is going into my mums account.
Friend had Netflix but when split with partner earlier this year she cancelled it as didn’t use it much.

@SerenDippitty

There was a thread a while ago where the OP’s new neighbour asked if they could use the OP’s WiFi until they got their own organised and they never did - just kept right on using the OP’s. Everyone was up in arms about that. How is it any different?

Because you can use WiFi to do all sorts of dodgy things and the owner would be none the wiser. It can also slow your connection down if you have multiple people using it and steaming stuff at the same time.

With Netflix, it has zero impact. OP can still watch her programmes and it has no impact on her internet speeds either. Plus all the friend can do with the information is...watch Netflix.

It's not remotely comparable.

Tell her sorry your mum needs to use it now and change password. Cf

Which part of a one-off favour is quite different to a CF assuming entitlement to continue using this favour on an ongoing basis, without discussing it, is so hard to grasp?

Wow you’re really upset about making a shit comparison.

After your update, I would change the password.

I don't have Netflix and don't want to pay for it either, can someone PM me with their details please. Also can you let me borrow your;

AA Membership card
Gym Membership details
National Trust membership card
English Heritage membership card
Rail Season Ticket
Costco Wholesale card (or similar)
...oh and Student Discount card - if you have one

(only when you're not using them of course, many thanks)

It was cheeky of your friend to not ask. People shouldn't take advantage of a friendship in this way without the courtesy of checking it's ok.

I think I would mind if I hadn't offered. It does affect the number of devices that can watch at a time, and if she doesn't make her own profile it will skew your recommendations so your main page could be full of drivel and you miss things you might have liked. What if you want to watch the same series so the episode bookmarks get messed up?

By all means share if you like; my dad uses our Netflix, but make sure she has her own profile.

its called being a cheeky fucker and dam right rude

I'd have no problem with a real friend using mine. Given they're a real friend id know that it goes both ways and I want the best for my friends.

But if it's more of an aquantance then I'm not sure id want them using it.

I do find it strange you have a problem with a friend using it given it costs you nothing and has no detrimental affect on you. It's a bit territorial and unkind tbh.

Haha gave my parents my login as they were curious about it - years later it’s still logged in on their tv and they love it - pretty sure they think it’s a free service though as they’ve never had to pay anything 😂😂😂

Tbh though wit a friend I wouldn’t mind for a while but eventually she should just pay for her own - it’s a bit cheap and cheeky if it goes on long term.

Either lock her out and say your mum needs it, or ask her to set up a standing order for one third of the cost, whichever works better for you.

I have access to my neighbour’s Asda account as she let me take over an online shop she didn’t need a few months back. Does that mean I can now use it anytime I like?

It’s not earth shatteringly bad, but I do think it’s dishonest to share Netflix outside of your household on an ongoing basis.