Friend using my netflix

[Netflix89]

Hi all

So my friend Was texting the other day & really wanted to watch a documentary that’s only available on Netflix. I offered my log in details so she could watch it.
Now found out via texting back n forth that she’s been on it every night since, it doesn’t stop me watching it but I just thinking how cheeky! When I only offered it her to watch 1 thing.

AIBU?

By the way I know there’s more pressing things going on in life just wanted another opinion.

@Belladonna12

To me this is similar to a friend borrowing anything without asking. Just because you lend something to somebody once doesn't mean that they are free to use it again as much as they want without asking. It doesn't really matter if you aren't using it anyway. It's very cheeky.

Maybe this is the crux.

For me, it's like lending someone some hair straighteners for a party, leaving them at their house and then getting grumpy that they've straightened their hair with them more than once.

i.e. the account details were handed over and not then removed in any way, so are still part of the same loan.

Is how I see it, anyway,

Haven't RTFT in the hope that "change the password" has become the new "cancel the check". But yeah, change the password OP!

For me, it's like lending someone some hair straighteners for a party, leaving them at their house and then getting grumpy that they've straightened their hair with them more than once.

i.e. the account details were handed over and not then removed in any way, so are still part of the same loan.

Is how I see it, anyway,

I don’t think it’s the same. If you’ve borrowed something from someone as a one off it’s your responsibility to give it back when you were meant to have finished with it, not keep it and keep using it until the lender asks for it back. That is cheeky.

It doesn't cost you anymore so I wouldn't worry about it, she probably assumes that you were happy for her to use it whenever as you had shared it.

mn is obsessed with what's "cheeky" instead of just being clear with people about what you are prepared to do, put up with etc.

Either this 'friend' has always been on the take - in which case being much clearer about boundaries in the future might help. Or they've been a fair and balanced friend that has done something minor to upset you, OP. In which case, tell them. Or don't and let it go. As you wish.

I couldn’t be arsed to worry about something that I’m only paying £3 a month for but I do appreciate the principle of taking advantage of something beyond what was agreed. If I was OP and this was my friend I would have offered her the access as the fourth person until such time as I needed it back for my DM but there we are.

OP if you want to have fun just change her profile picture. You could change it to the masked bank robber one.

I am still on XH’s Netflix and, Republican that he is, I occasionally enjoy winding him up by changing his profile picture to Olivia Colman in the Crown.

2 of my friends have my Netflix password. I really don't see the issue as it doesn't affect me at all. Pointless them paying when mine is available!

@SerenDippitty Yes of course, if I'm not going in or coming home at the same time due to leave, meetings, sickness or whatever she just makes her own way instead.

I realise that it saves her the bus fares, but it doesn't cost me anything more than I'm already paying in petrol to commute, so I'm not interested in benefiting from it. It's just nice to be nice

@HowFastIsTooFast

Honestly she’s being cheeky. She asked for the log in to watch one program and now assumes she is free to keep using it whenever she likes. If she had asked or you had offered

@ThanksForAllTheFish Try reading the OP again. The login was offered, not requested.

There seems to be a lot of people on MN who are either a) tighter than a gnats snatch, b) gobsmackingly selfish or c) don't understand the terms of Netflix. If you pay for a 4 device log-in, any 4 people on any 4 IP addresses can use those details regularly. What they object to/try and crack down on is where log-ins are given to all and sundry and the users log in and out to allow others to watch. Like the PP with a Sis in the UK and folks in Oz using the same log-in at different times of day.

You are going out your way to mis quote me by only using part of it. If you read my whole message in context I am saying - if she had asked to continue using the account. You cut off mid point to make it look like I am saying all would have been fine if the OP had offered the log it. No I’m saying if OP had offered for her to keep using it - not the log in for one time use.

Yes op did offer the log in (it’s irrelevant if OP offered or was asked - it was just to watch one show and this was made clear).

We have 3 people in our house and we all have separate profiles. Our 4th isn’t free for anyone who fancies using it and not paying. I would be happy for my mum or PIL to use it. I would be annoyed if I let a friend log in to watch one show and they claimed the profile as their own without asking if it was ok.

I don’t know how the other poster has managed to get on the same account as people in Australia. They must have a very, very good VPN. Netflix is regional, we can’t watch the same shows as the USA or other parts of the world due to licensing issues. We have tried to change our VPN to watch American Netflix as they had a few movies we didn’t and it doesn’t work at all. You get to the titles but when you click on it to watch it says something like ‘not available in your region and asks you to log in’
Disney + is the same.

It’s not about being tight. It’s about common curtesy. Just because the profile isn’t being used at that moment doesn’t make it ok. It’s cheeky to assume it does. As I said you can tell who all the spongers are on this thread as they are all the ones saying OP shouldn’t be bothered by it.

@ThanksForAllTheFish If you're insinuating that because I just can't see why the OP is arsed I'm a 'sponger' perhaps you should read the post directly above yours.

At it happens the only thing I use of anyone else's is a profile on DP's Disney+, but I do share my Now TV, my Spotify and my daily commute with non-family members, without any want for or suggestion of redress, because it makes absolutely no difference whatsoever to me to do so and I just can't get my head around people being so bloody uptight about sharing or doing kindnesses for others, no matter how much anyone earns! I just couldn't live my life being so desperately self-important.

I hardly ever watch tv..... it is not worth having the licence, really. But the TV license people are such bullying bastards.. They harass and hound people. The sooner BBC is self funded, the better.

You just report online that you don't need one and they leave you alone for 2 years then repeat once that runs out. There's no hounding!

It is. People just love to come on these threads and be contrary for shits and giggles.

Or it's possible some people have actual different opinions and different friendship dynamics. Personally I'm happy for my good friends to use my log ins. I'm sure they will reciprocate in some way at some point - not that I keep tabs and not wound they.

I don’t know how the other poster has managed to get on the same account as people in Australia. They must have a very, very good VPN. Netflix is regional, we can’t watch the same shows as the USA or other parts of the world due to licensing issues. We have tried to change our VPN to watch American Netflix as they had a few movies we didn’t and it doesn’t work at all. You get to the titles but when you click on it to watch it says something like ‘not available in your region and asks you to log in’
Disney + is the same.

My brother uses American Netflix. No idea how but he can only use one or the other and chose the American one as it suited him better. Personally I like British dramas so not enquired exactly how he does it

I can see why it annoys you! It also really annoys me that my DP has given our Netflix account to 3 other people who all use it all the time, 2 other people have our Disney+ account and 5 people use our SkyGo login which they log into on their xbox' and other devices so they can watch it on their teles etc.. This means we are paying around £1150 a year for these subscriptions whilst all DPs friends/family get to save over £1000 a year to use ours! It's absolutely infuriates me because we are the least better off out of all of them! Our sky is a very expensive package because we have everything on it so they're literally getting the best package aswell! I have been tempted multiple times to remove them all but I would look like a meany wouldn't I 😒

Petty

I would instinctively think it was cheeky and then I would think ‘but it doesn’t really matter’. I think it would take me a little time to get to the second.

@Canyanot

Haha. I gave my friend my Netflix log in and my Now TV log in without thought. She's my friend and makes zero odds to me. If I was logged in to someone's Netflix I probably use it too! It was only the other day I realised my TV is still logged in to my mum's ex husbands prime but I have it so it slipped my mind!

Same here, my friend has my now tv password so she can watch films, i have her netflix password so if everyone in my house is watching it plus my mum who has my password and ive run out of screens on my account i can watch hers.

It depends on the friend. Some friendships are very give and take and I’d have no problems with a friend doing it if that were the case.
If it’s a friend who generally takes without giving, Id just get annoyed too and change the password.

I just cannot imagine asking for a friend's Netflix login for a one off particular show. Then just assuming I could use it forever and not asking or thanking or querying.

We have 3 people in our house and we all have separate profiles. Our 4th isn’t free for anyone who fancies using it and not paying. I would be happy for my mum or PIL to use it. I would be annoyed if I let a friend log in to watch one show and they claimed the profile as their own without asking if it was ok

^^ This. My DD has the 2 people Netflix. She shares it with her sibling and us. That's 3 of us for a 2 person subscription.
I can't imagine just giving our passwords to friends unless it was a one off, that we'd then change the p/w. I have close family I would much rather benefit from it.

Netflix will be tightening up on this, they said so end of last year. I think Covid stopped them taking action for now what with lockdown and more viewings.

@Collaborate

The point is that you can have 3 users. If she's using your mum's profile then it's harder for your mum to ever use it. The purpose of profiles is so that you can watch something at your own pace not a family member's.

As you pay half with your brother maybe change the password and say your brother felt uneasy someone else using the profile set aside for your mum.

i thought you could have unlimited users/profiles.

But, you can only WATCH (or have downloaded) shows on 1 or 2 or 4 devices at same time (depending on sub)

(yes checked with Netflix, that are the options)

I really hope that someone at Netflix is watching this thread and will pass this on to their lawyers.
Clearly Netflix has missed a trick here .

I'd be furious if I offered an online subscription service to watch me watching paint dry or whatever and discovered that the only subscriber that I had , who was my main source of income, had shared their log in details to twenty other people.

They have algorithms that look for patterns in behaviours and no doubt if revenue falls they will tighten up on this

To be honest I think the service providers are well aware logins get shared. They do limit the number of devices you can access through so you can't share with a high number of people. Netflix is pretty cheap but Nowtv keeps bumping up the prices on the basis so many people just continue to let the payments run continously each month. I do spend possibly 10mins or so of my time looking around for offer codes when one is up for renewal. Plus if you go into your online account to cancel they'll offer you a decent discount everytime. These companies are making so much money it's worth them letting the extra revenue slide when it's a consumers market and there's plenty of free things to watch. They also rake in money by having the big releases as pay per view. Disney+ isn't expensive but they've currently got Mulan on at a whopping £19.99! And there will be plenty of people who pay for it.

I used my ex's for about 2 years after he left. It was mostly for the kids anyway. Then one day he randomly changed the password to be petty. I think he's the CF!

Of course Netflix bloody know about this. They choose to ignore it because most people don't share...SOME do...and they can do so if they want. It's no different to letting someone use your cash and carry card. Which I know loads of people do.

But to the poster who was frothing at the idea of big business losing revenue to someone's low income Auntie...well, why don't you think of something more worthy to get het up about? Wars and poverty are a good place to begin.

I think Netflix originally chose to ignore it because they wanted to grow market share so they could be the dominant streaming platform. They then threatened to clamp down but Amazon Prime came along, with lots of money to invest in content.

Netflix apparently had a great lockdown but is going through a dodgy patch since. Presumably they have calculated that clamping down will mean an overall reduction in the number of subscribers, as some people would switch to Prime. And they need subscribers to buy content.

The real loser is the BBC. Just as shopping on Amazon is killing the high street. streaming services are killing terrestrial broadcasters. People are choosing not to renew their licence and rely on streaming instead. Really cheap if you borrow someone else’s login. However one day they willl clamp down, and the terrestrial alternative will be gone, or be of greatly reduced quality.