To ask what you find the hardest thing about being a mum

[violetmakesarainbow]

First time mum to 6 month old baby.

I love it, but wow, it's hard and so much harder than I expected.

I thought the baby would feed, sleep repeat. Wishful thinking.

It's so tiring. The lack of sleep is a killer, little time alone, little time alone with husband. Little time to wind down.
Constant worry about your baby, are they well & safe.
The worry of wether you are doing things right, is your baby doing what it "should"
The worry of if you're a good mum, are you as good as other mums.

Of course all of this is completely worth it when your baby smiles at you, laughs at you and their little face just lights up when you enter the room!!!

I may be completely alone in my feelings (in which case, I will start to panic)
But what does every one else find hard about being a parent?

Children have died in my family so that fear is always there. That he will have my mental health issues. His dad is shite too so I do all the leg work

I think the hardest thing is when you're really sick and need to stay in bed, but the kids need you so you have to get up anyway.

There was one day when ds2 was 4 months old, I had a vomiting bug. It came on during the night and just wouldnt stop. I really needed to stay in bed that day and wake up when it was all over but had nobody at all that could help with dbaby so still had to get up and do bottles, burping, nappies - it felt like one of the hardest and longest days of my life.

A couple of weeks ago on ds first day back to school, I woke up with a massive migraine that was so severe I was vomiting and found it hard to even open my eyes. Ds was so so excited to be going back to school and I had to get up and try to share in the excitement, I didnt want to ruin it for him. I stayed downstairs with the kids for about half an hour before having to leave them downstairs on their own and going up to bed to close my eyes for half an hour. Luckily the half hour and the tablets helped but I felt like I had ruined ds morning.

@SideAfries

Hope this helps OP. It’s universal. You’re not alone!

I have a black cynical heart, but that genuinely made me burst into tears...

@Ameanstreakamilewide - me too!

Having to cook a decent meal every single day, 24x7x365

As a baby DD was a screamer, I mean, it was fucking horrendous. Until about 18 months she screamed for most of the day. We had no life as she wouldn’t go in her pram/ the car. She hated being a baby and was incredibly active, the physical exhaustion/ mental took its toll massively.

She’s 2 years and 3 months now, and oh my gosh she is just a dream. She tells me she loves me so much about 10 times a day. She is the most kind, caring girl. I look at her and cry because I don’t know how I got so lucky.

So for me the hardest thing were the baby days, and she broke us in so nicely that I honestly don’t feel like anything else is difficult now. DH and I came out stronger, we’re even crazy enough to be planning a second!