To feel irritated by posters saying this on dating threads..

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Poster comes on asking for advice/complaining about someone they are dating e.g the person is flaky, likely married whatever.

There are always a few posts saying something like:

Happily married here so no recent dating experience, if DH and I split up I'd never date

Or

So glad my dating days are over, DP feels the same

Or

Urgh modern dating sounds awful so glad I never did it

Or (my personal pet peeve)

If DH died I'd definitely just stay single.

ANYONE can find themselves single at any age and MOST do choose to date. Not all, but most. The smug married nonsense isn't helpful, it's spiteful. If you've nothing useful to say why bother commenting?

I admit I have a personal sensitivity with this, DH died when I was 33, we'd been together 14 years, I never imagined for a second I'd want anyone else. But then he died and suddenly I had to face up to the choice of being alone for 50 years or woman-ing up and facing the horror of online dating. It was pretty shit at times but now I do have a lovely DP whom my children adore. I APPLAUD all the posters out there struggling through online dating. I APLAUD all those posters choosing to remain single. But can the smug married pls STFU on those threads, unless they have something constructive to say.

Ahhhh that's better.

More helpful tales feature around how someone met their husband/partner on some sort of public transport.

Romance and furtive looks across the aisles leading to domestic bliss. Needless to say, I have had zero success in these locations.

I get told this all the time irl, I don't even mention dating. Just as soon as they find out I, single they will say it, they don't seem to give a fuck about how rude they are. Just because they're my age and married, they say it in such a superior tone. I'm not a Fucking nun, and I like sex. Pisses me off.

Oh yes, and apparently every man is either a rapist, out to use me for my (non-existent) money, wants my house/car, blah blah. Oh, and what about my children, I should just think of them, and stop being such a 'selfish desperate slut', said by someone last week.

Yanbu. I’ve noticed this and been irritated by it too!

Also, very sorry for your loss

I think people who coupled up before it was a thing are very intrigued by the world of online dating. Overwise why are they reading such threads?

But then they feel they can’t add anything so write some drivel like that

Just add to conversation or don’t

And you don’t need to be alone to find yourself even if such a thing is acquired or to be happy by yourself.

I am perfectly being happy by myself and devolving myself (I’m found thank you) in my new relationship that came from online dating. If anything being loved is a key though not the only ingredient.