For reporting large gathering

[specksdrugsandsausagerolls]

Name changed for this because it might be outing. My neighbours are horsey and have about 30 acres of land.

I bumped into the husband this morning on a dog walk and asked him what the big marquee was for (they have all kinds of horsey events on there throughout the year - camps etc). He said it was his daughters 30th so they were having a hog roast and disco tomorrow night. He then said me and my partner would be welcome to join if we wanted, I just smiled and thanked him and then as I carried on my dog walk I got more and more irate thinking of all the people coming from all over to my neighbour for this party - I wished I'd said something but honestly I was so surprised they were doing it!
His wife then invited me via FB to the FB event - it has 120 invited with 87 marked as "going".
I'm not a fun sponge, really I'm not, but with coronavirus I think this is wholly unnecessary. I'm also not usually the sort of person to think of reporting people but we're rural, we have been blessed with low numbers, I'm angry they're doing this. WIBU to report them and if not... how?!

@GreyShadow

I don't know there was people like you!! Wow!

Just stay in your little bubble and let people live the life they want. As PPs have said there's 2 camps. The terrified camp and those who just want to go back to normal. Just live and let live.

Unless you live in a cave how can you not know that people have been reporting other people for covid breaches for months. Are you new to life

Would you all report a "rave"?

Possibly but not because of covid. Reasons as already stated would be noise, litter & welfare concerns.

At least at legal events like Creamfields there are medical staff on hand.

You can’t possibly compare a gathering like this to pubs and restaurants which have control measures in place. Once the guests have had a few drinks, distancing will go out the window. I would report, reluctantly, but it’s vital we keep the spread down. The virus hasn’t changed or gone away, I want my life back, as we all do, these gatherings are so irresponsible.

I get you OP.

There's a huge difference between being a bit meh about the guidelines and having a whooping great unnecessary party. Whole towns are having their freedoms taken away from them because of the selfish acts of a few. If this is not a prime example of this, I'm not sure what is.

However I don't think I could bring myself to report it. I feel that we live in a democracy not a stasi state and one of the ways to differentiate that is not expecting individuals to act as quasi police officers or informants.

I hate this reporting culture that seems to be springing up. '1984' isn't a how-to manual.

@vapeinafleshlight

Why are you saying bollocks to this poster? There have been several lockdown raves in and around my city too.

Why are you sneering and laughing at any mention of anything to do with raves? Do you actually have anything constructive to say? Which raves have you been to? Instead of just sitting here scoffing at people and making assumptions please enlighten us

I'd leave them to it, it's time we all cracked on to be honest but I know I'm in a minority on here thinking that.

I agree that there is a third group: those of us who stick by and large to the guidelines whatever they are at any given time. So at the moment there is quite a lot of freedom but you still can't do whatever the hell you like.

Celebrating a 30th birthday party in that style isn't great and it's a shame the family hasn't made more adjustments. I think there is just a lot of this around: Parents in my son's class are organising parent drinks because apparently we deserve it. I find this really irritating as with a few adjustments you could probably be within the guidelines (organising separate groups of six etc) but there is a part of the population which seems to have given up, which is a shame.

I would not report though and also not say anything. But I certainly would not participate and hope that the third group is the silent majority and that this is enough to help make a difference regarding spreading the virus more.

YABU I can’t understand the mentality of people snitching on private gatherings when pub & restaurants are open, none of it makes sense to me at all.

If you are in Scotland I’d say report it.

300 fines issued by the police last week here for just this. Schools, pubs, restaurants etc have some social distancing in place, house parties do not. I’m not behaving like we’re still in lockdown, but I’m also not behaving the way I did pre-lockdown. The rules are there for a reason and loads of people are missing out on parties they wanted to have - what makes your neighbours so special that they can break the rules?

When you can have thousands at a theme park all packed in together, 87 doesn't seem so bad...

@Wavescrashingonthebeach you believe the police allowed a whole city to be kept awake by an illegal rave until 10am because they were too scared to break it up?

Yeah, I'll scoff at that if I like. As I said, that's utter bollocks.

I feel so sorry for young people right now. They have done their bit, mine have been sat at home since March while govt advisers were enjoying nice trips to castles.
One has lost out on his uni place, only to have his grades upped but oh wait! Someone else was given his place instead.
The death rates are in single figures, we are at much more risk from cardiac conditions now.
I'd let em get on with their outdoor raves.
The elderly and vulnerable can still continue to shield.

you believe the police allowed a whole city to be kept awake by an illegal rave until 10am because they were tooscaredto break it up?

No, i dont believe the police were too scared. I personally believe the police chose to not give a fuck and it was easier for them to just wait for people to naturally disperse.

A whole city being kept awake is also an exaggeration, but a major noise problem affecting multiple households is and has been a very real issue.

As a pp mentioned, schools can only open while community transmission is low. Cases are rising pretty rapidly at the moment, and things like this are part of the reason why. People think it is fine to go back to normal, but unless we all keep taking precautions then levels will rise again ( v swiftly in areas that were less affected pre lockdown) . That means schools closing, and people dying. I would report it. Covid kills people, and leaves others permanently impaired. I know someone with heart problems now, and someone still at uni who is struggling with long term Covid effects. To risk increasing community spread is incredibly selfish and uncaring.

@Serin

I agree. Im just more concerned that the illegal events have no medical or security staff. Hundreds of people dancing in a forest is all fine and well until a girl gets raped or someones fitting off a dodgy pill.

Bring back the legal events for the young ones ASAP.

I say that as a boring old preggo woman who hung up her raving shoes years ago.

But 18 year old me would have been at these events.

"No, i dont believe the police were too scared. I personally believe the police chose to not give a fuck and it was easier for them to just wait for people to naturally disperse.

A whole city being kept awake is also an exaggeration, but a major noise problem affecting multiple households is and has been a very real issue."

@Wavescrashingonthebeach ok, so if you agree with me what exactly is your problem?

To the people who are still asking the same questions (and granted I had a NC fail in my first response)

We are in the north. The weather forecast this weekend doesn't scream garden party. It's not an overly large marquee - if everyone is inside there won't be any effective social distancing. The bar and the tables are all set up inside (I'm not being nosey, it's very clearly visible from my house). The catering tent is also inside, attached to the main marquee. It is not "an outdoor event" - it's in a marquee.

I don't know what I meant by "I'm not that kind of person" (to report). I'm usually very live and let live, I wouldn't have dreamed of reporting neighbours who had SD meetings with their family in gardens during lockdown but this is so much more than this isn't it? It's not the same as in a pub, I've been to a million and one marquee parties and I'm fairly sure once the wine starts flowing, any SD will be long gone.

@specksdrugsandsausagerolls the hog roast will be outside. If it's that close to your house I'd go and accept a butty. You're invited after all

@Wavescrashingonthebeachok, so if you agree with me what exactly is your problem?

My problem was you compared me to a tabloid reader who doesnt use critical thinking or have life experience.

I also dont think the prev posters post was bollocks. Exaggerated, perhaps, but not bollocks.

Ive actually gone and confronted gangs of youths in my local area doing balloons and screamed at them to clear their mess up. There is no rage like pregnancy rage .
To be fair, they all shit a brick and started putting stuff in the bin. Sorry. Waffling off topic. Il let yous crack on now

I won't report them because you're right, I'm not "that" sort of person

Yeah, I've no idea what that means. I'd report it

vapeinafleshlight if that poster is in Bath, it's quite true. Police didn't break it up as concerns about the dangers of so many wrecked people walking along roads at night if they broke it up mid-party.

I would report it. At a party, people will be merry and lots of contact such as hugging. You can’t compare it to the work place or school where there is social distance measures. I highly doubt there will be a glass screen in between each and every seat, that everyone will wear masks etc. People will be dancing with each other.

People might say well it doesn’t affect me, let them do what they want. But that’s how the problem started. That party guest may go and infect someone vulnerable. It’s not fair on other people.

I would report it , sick of people who seem to think they are exempt from the rules
The rule is no big gatherings

OP, if you feel strongly about it why don't you tell the neighbour that what he is planning to do is illegal and if he intends to proceed you are going to be reporting him to police? Any decent human being would inform a friendly neighbour rather than throw him under the bus behind his back.