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For reporting large gathering

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specksdrugsandsausagerolls · 03/09/2020 21:04

Name changed for this because it might be outing. My neighbours are horsey and have about 30 acres of land.

I bumped into the husband this morning on a dog walk and asked him what the big marquee was for (they have all kinds of horsey events on there throughout the year - camps etc). He said it was his daughters 30th so they were having a hog roast and disco tomorrow night. He then said me and my partner would be welcome to join if we wanted, I just smiled and thanked him and then as I carried on my dog walk I got more and more irate thinking of all the people coming from all over to my neighbour for this party - I wished I'd said something but honestly I was so surprised they were doing it!
His wife then invited me via FB to the FB event - it has 120 invited with 87 marked as "going".
I'm not a fun sponge, really I'm not, but with coronavirus I think this is wholly unnecessary. I'm also not usually the sort of person to think of reporting people but we're rural, we have been blessed with low numbers, I'm angry they're doing this. WIBU to report them and if not... how?!

OP posts:
FluffytheGoldfish · 04/09/2020 06:57

As for schools I personally am wearing a mask most off the time (I have some hearing impaired students) and taking all the precautions I can but think it is just a matter of time till there is an outbreak in my school.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 04/09/2020 06:59

For Christs sake dont report it the police have got more important things to be getting on with.

Its a 30th birthday not a rave.

ineedaholidaynow · 04/09/2020 07:01

As they have a marquee it’s not outside

Manolin · 04/09/2020 07:03

There is no point in reporting as it is not illegal.

Rollmopsrule · 04/09/2020 07:04

Yabu

Manolin · 04/09/2020 07:04

If you want to do something effective lobby your MP to close the loophole. Reporting to the police is ineffective.

larrygrylls · 04/09/2020 07:07

Yes, report them.

I don’t get why this is ‘none of your business’ but I suspect that most would want you to report any other criminal behaviour which potentially endangered lives in a flash.

Yes, it is only ‘statistical’ risk but statistical risk is real risk. If 100 people have large indoor gatherings like that, it is virtually guaranteed that at least one will lead to an outbreak of Corona.

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 04/09/2020 07:10

The thing is more ppl than this are in pub gardens under cover etc. all over the country every day.
It is a bit all over the place with what is ok.
It sounds like it is legal so I don't think there is any point reporting.
Assuming you are not going OP?

larrygrylls · 04/09/2020 07:14

In a pub garden they should be seated and it will be open air. There will certainly not be a disco.

Given what the OP said, if there is one positive case in that marquee it will lead to double figures within 7 days. A disco party in a marquee is the ideal way to spread a virus.

TitsOutForHarambe · 04/09/2020 07:14

I wouldn't go, but I wouldn't report it. I'm not 100% sure that it would go against the rules anyway, depending on their exact set up.

DalzielandPaxo · 04/09/2020 07:14

I’d leave them well alone. You have no idea how they may plan to distance, anyway.

Also, as a PP said, kids are back at school mixing with hundreds of kids and then going home, pubs are open, people are back at work, life is pretty much back to normal for many. Someone wanting to have a birthday party - something nice after months and months of shit - is pretty understandable.

This alone will not cause a spike in your nice rural area.

dryoldparty · 04/09/2020 07:15

Did all the people saying "it's not inside" miss the bit on marquee.

Such a contrasting views on this thread to the one about the wedding last week which was an almost identical situation.

DalzielandPaxo · 04/09/2020 07:15

Plus does anyone have the figures on how many fines for large gatherings have been issued?

Tootletum · 04/09/2020 07:18

Knock yourself out. Just don't expect pleasantness from them in future. You're such a fine upstanding citizen, I'm sure there's a medal for you somewhere in the GDR.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 04/09/2020 07:19

Don’t report them, leave them to it and mind your business

iskwobel · 04/09/2020 07:19

How will you feel if you don't report it and there's a spike in cases traced to that party? Hopefully the police will pay a visit beforehand and caution the neighbours then they could still have a gathering just not in the marquee and with a smaller number.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 04/09/2020 07:24

@Mindymomo

I wouldn’t report it, as it’s outside, but I wouldn’t want to go at the moment either. At the moment we seem to have 2 groups of people, those carrying on as if nothing has happened and those like me and my family who are still very cautious and not going out except for exercise and a bit of shopping.
Unless I am some sort of weird group of just one person, there is a third group - those who aren't back to normal, who are still following the guidelines, but who are doing more than just exercise and a bit of shopping, because the guidelines allow for us to do more than that. I do feel rather stuck in the middle and not belonging to either side when lots of people on MN talk about it as if everyone is at one of two extremes.
longwayoff · 04/09/2020 07:25

How will you feel if your neighbour receives a £10k fine? Your neighbour in a rural area. You may need their neighbourliness one day. You have to go on living there. Leave them alone.

iskwobel · 04/09/2020 07:29

@longwayoff the party people don't seem to have a very neighbourly attitude ...

ineedaholidaynow · 04/09/2020 07:32

I think I would rather the neighbour got a fine than there is a spike in cases

larrygrylls · 04/09/2020 07:33

For this saying ‘none of your business’ and ‘leave them alone’, would you never report your neighbour for anything?

Would you report them for large scale benefit or tax fraud?

Would you support them for a marijuana farm on their land?

Would you report them for a full scale rave with thousands of people?

I am curious as to where people draw the line and why.

toomanypillows · 04/09/2020 07:33

I hear people saying that as schools are going back then it doesn't matter because everyone is mixing anyway and crack on.

My understanding was that schools could ONLY open effectively (ie be allowed to freely mix in their giant bubbles) if measures were taken elsewhere to ensure that community transmission is reduced meaning the risk of kids/schoolstaff being exposed outside of school is much lower- and therefore they won't bring it into school.

Having huge gatherings, justified by the fact that schools are all bunched in together makes no sense and is likely to contribute to localised lockdown. I would contact 101 and ask their advice rather than report them. (same thing, but info gathering 😊)

BojoKilledMyMojo · 04/09/2020 07:35

I wouldn't. But honestly I'm past caring about it all. We're under local restrictions where I live because 0.05% of our local population have tested positive. And more people are being tested so it's presented as a jump in cases.

An average of 7 people a day are dying from it. I just can't get worked up over that.

Liverbird77 · 04/09/2020 07:35

Maybe they should all meet up "coincidentally" in a pub?
Just leave them alone.

MadameMeursault · 04/09/2020 07:36

I’d report it. A second wave is coming and it’s thanks to idiots like that.

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