For reporting large gathering

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Name changed for this because it might be outing. My neighbours are horsey and have about 30 acres of land.

I bumped into the husband this morning on a dog walk and asked him what the big marquee was for (they have all kinds of horsey events on there throughout the year - camps etc). He said it was his daughters 30th so they were having a hog roast and disco tomorrow night. He then said me and my partner would be welcome to join if we wanted, I just smiled and thanked him and then as I carried on my dog walk I got more and more irate thinking of all the people coming from all over to my neighbour for this party - I wished I'd said something but honestly I was so surprised they were doing it!
His wife then invited me via FB to the FB event - it has 120 invited with 87 marked as "going".
I'm not a fun sponge, really I'm not, but with coronavirus I think this is wholly unnecessary. I'm also not usually the sort of person to think of reporting people but we're rural, we have been blessed with low numbers, I'm angry they're doing this. WIBU to report them and if not... how?!

I'd just go if I was you - grab a butty, hang around outside for a bit and then leave. No reason not to, and I doubt that all of the facebook list will attend.

FS . Of course you report it. This is how a big cluster started in the rural area where there had been about 1 case. Party, marquee in a field, probably 1 asymptomatic spreader. Meeting in a pub is better because there are control measures in place.

I think they're being irresponsible and stupid. If it pisses with rain, all those people will be in the marquee, dancing and drinking.

I'm not sure I'd report though. In a small community, everyone would suspect it was you and that could make life unpleasant.

Mind you, a spike in Covid would be pretty unpleasant, too.

I would be annoyed too and I would report it. It is events like these that cause spikes.

I probably wouldn’t report but would be annoyed as hell. We live in an area where local lockdown just ended and it went on for several weeks precisely because people were doing things like this. And some carried on regardless. Is infuriating that the decisions of the stupid few affect so many of us who do follow the rules.

A decent person would ring them and check they are complying with the rules have thought it through if only to warn that others might report and they risk a fine.

A little snake would just report anonymously.

OP, I don't know what I'd do in our shoes but would feel as you do.

If we want schools to stay open, hospitals to be safe, and older and vulnerable people to be able to leave their homes, this sort of event should not be happening. The risks don't cancel out - they add up. They have said this over and over again - there isn't much headroom with schools going back and other things may have to stop unless we are very careful. Schools going back is not a reason to do more - quite the opposite.

@Krazynights34

I don’t know OP. I’m not crazy about the notion of reporting at all (not unless it were a rave or something). They might all be social distancing..., masks etc..?

What's the difference between a disco and a rave? Genuine question.

I think it is laughable to suggest that the hog roast and disco will be socially distanced with masks. Brings a whole new meaning to the idea of a masked ball!

No I wouldnt report them OP.

I wouldn't report it but I wouldn't go in a million years.

It’s why I explained on our street WhatsApp that our summer hol was to a non quarantine country with rate lower than ours as friend warned me that an older neighbour mentioned we would need to quarantine and didn’t want them thinking we were rule breaking and getting their knickers in a twist.

Pmsl, that's only the raves you read about in the daily mail. As far as the virus is concerned this is exactly the same anyway

Ive been to enough raves in my younger days you know and i have some people on social media who went to some of the local lockdown raves. I dont do all the daily fail frothing at the mouth, most people at raves have a great time. But they are 99% off their cake on drugs & yes they do leave LOTS of litter.

Report. Actions like this is why we’re yo-yoing in and out of lockdown.

Just leave them to it. Don't go if you don't want to. Sick of this snitching culture.

YABU. Wind your neck in.

We had a lockdown rave near us kept the whole small city awake all night 🙄 and I mean all night still going 10am next day police were too scared to break it up so it just carried on!

Like PP have said, there are two types of people on all of this. Those who want to carry on as normal and those still locked down like they were in March

Er, I think it’s a bit more nuanced than that!

@IceCreamSummer20

Something as simple as having loads of fresh air, as in not just the doors to the marquee, fewer people, and no loud disco will massively reduce the risk of a super spreader event.

This is why it would be constructive for OP to potentially either communicate with the party holders or even go along for half an hour to scout it out and see for herself.

Like you said, little things like this like ventilation will make a big difference and ime marquees are drafty.

Early on in lockdown we had the police out to our estate CONSTANTLY over things like:
A 65 year old man having a disposable BBQ in his own front yard BY HIMSELF.
Neighbours stood in the communal garden area around 3-4 metrea away having a 5 minute conversation.
Etc

It got ridiculous and created a nasty poisonous atmosphere. I still dont know a single person who has had covid. (Im not calling it a hoax or saying people haven't had it, and i believe the original lockdown was necessary, but it has gone on FAR too long now)

Can I ask all the 'OP is a fun sponge, just leave it' posters will feel if/when we all end up under some kind of lockdown around Christmas? Because that's were this kind of behaviour will take us. Worst case scenario of back to the lockdown we had in the Spring - no shopping for presents on the high street, no works Christmas party, no lovely restaurant meals with friends, no hairdressers/nails/make up artists, no Christmas dinner with extended family, no driving home for Christmas.
If it just affected the people at the party, I'd say let them crack on but it doesn't. Here, the numbers of people at house parties was probably in the 100s but the number of people affected by the new lockdown are in the 10s of thousands. I didn't go to any house parties but now I can't visit my friends or family, DS's birthday party is cancelled and it's all shit.
Report away, OP,

@Starlightstarbright1

My DS will be in a bibble if 250 at school. next week.

Leave them to it.

Unless your school evolves drinking, loud music therefore shouting to be heard, singing along to the disco and general close contact inebriated hugging and kissing how could that possibly be relevant

Current evidence seems to be suggesting that young people in party type situations are a big factor in increasing cases, that for me would be the issue here. I honestly don't know if I'd report as in my area there are next to no cases so tiny risk but I'd judge them for being irresponsible.

What's the difference between a disco and a rave? Genuine question.

MDMA 😂

How horrible, a friendly neighbour invited you to an outdoor birthday party celebration and you are seriously considering reporting him. You also just smiled and said thank you to his face and now thinking of calling the police on him?! Charming

Not sure why you said I'm not that sort of person, as though reporting a possible mass breaching of a law was a bad thing

As PPs have said, this is the reason we are still in and out of lockdowns in Britain, people not taking things seriously with a "it wont happen to me" attitude.

If you dont report it cant be stopped, if you do then you have passed the decision to others to do something or not

@KitKatastrophe

I wasnt being facetious there, that pretty much is the answer in a nutshell.

Discos tend to involve a little buffet, bit of chat, music and dancing.

Raves tend to focus more on dance music, often techno or house, dancing none stop, they're usually a lot more packed in & crowded, and you can make a best friend in the chill out or smoking area and tell each other "I LOVE YOU SO MUCH"

"We had a lockdown rave near us kept the whole small city awake all night 🙄 and I mean all night still going 10am next day police were too scared to break it up so it just carried on!"

Bollocks 😂 As if

Because that's were this kind of behaviour will take us. Worst case scenario of back to the lockdown we had in the Spring - no shopping for presents on the high street, no works Christmas party, no lovely restaurant meals with friends, no hairdressers/nails/make up artists, no Christmas dinner with extended family, no driving home for Christmas.

Sounds like a perfect Christmas to me, no whinging family to contend with!!!

Do you honestly think if we were locked down, people wouldn't go and see their family at Christmas? The last lockdown didn't stop people visiting family if they wanted to.