@Feagle - I have to agree with @Sarahpaula - I think that what she is describing is parents who neglect their child’s emotional and social needs - and that is mistreatment and could be abusive.
My parents moved us out to a remote village because it was their dream, and I honestly feel that I was dumped there with little or no care whatsoever for my needs. I had no friends because we were outsiders, with BBC English accents, and all the other children had grown up together, and spoke with the local accent, so dsis and I stuck out like sore thumbs. The other kids had all grown up in a rural, agricultural, outdoorsy culture, whereas we were indoorsy bookworms who knew nothing about the countryside.
It might have been OK if our parents had understood that we needed help, to build friendships and maintain them, and to fit in, but I think we were left to sink or swim. Even when I was in tears, due to the bullying, and went to mum for help, I was brushed off, and left with the feeling that I had to deal with it all on my own, at age 10 - and that, if I didn’t cope, it would be my fault.
I had a really good friend, who lived two doors down from me, before we moved, and that friendship was lost overnight. I know it would be unreasonable for me to expect that my parents shouldn’t have moved, so I could stay friends with this girl - but it is not unreasonable to expect that my parents should have helped me deal with this and make new friends.
Children need a social life, and they need friends, and if the adults in their life are going to choose to move them to somewhere where it is hard to have friends and a social life, then the adults have a responsibility to facilitate friendships/socialising. To just drop kids in a totally new, remote area, where they know no-one and may struggle to fit in, and expect that this will give them an idyllic childhood without any effort from the parents, is pretty heartless.
Why do you think it is OK to ignore a child’s emotional and social needs like my parents did?