Worked my day off for colleague who's had a party

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So, shift workers and key workers .
A few months ago my colleague asked if anyone could/would cover their shift as husband was going on a "hobby" weekend and parents couldn't visit to look after child due to covid.

I offered , breaking up my long weekend to work the Sunday . I am working Monday but we work 2 weekends and then have one long weekend off .

I checked earlier this month, as to if I was still needed as covid restrictions have changed and family have been together, to find out "parents had plans"
Which obviously was not covid restriction related.

Their social media today is a load of photos of the big birthday celebration, clearly with relatives in the photos , cake , the works .

It's not the child's birthday today , in fact it's several days away.

AIBU ?

So your agreed to swoop shifts a few months ago, and you expected that gave you the right to decide they couldn't cook anything fun on their day off? Yes, you are very unreasonable. Nobody has took answer to you about what they do when not in work. If you didn't want to swoop, you shouldn't have agreed. What their circumstances might have been a few months ago may have liked very different to now.

It wouldn't have bothered me, especially as so many things keep changing re COVID and restrictions.

Plus if I'd planned two weeks ago to cover the shift, I wouldn't have made any other plans anyway.

You agreed to cover the shift. Your co-workers reasons for taking the day off are irrelevant. YABU.

Yabu. You agreed to cover the shift no one made you do it. They shouldn't have lied, but probably knew no one would cover if they didn't. In future don't offer.

Do you think they lied to get someone to cover their shift?

I wouldn’t ever offer to cover their shift again if so.

Does it matter what they were doing, really?

Are you being unreasonable for what, exactly?

I think you’re being a bit unfair, you weren’t forced to cover the shift.

Sorry but I think YABU. If you didn't want to swap the shift, you shouldn't have. Maybe the relatives at the party are still keeping a distance from the children.

If someone lied to get you to cover their shift, then yes I would be annoyed. Lesson learnt, don't ever cover their shifts again

Are we supposed to assume you are pissed off? Is that what you think you are/are not being unreasonable about?

@Aquamarine1029
The agreement was to cover as parents could not look after child due to covid. That is no longer relevant as parents have visited and covid restrictions have changed .

Parents have visited for the party , so yes , I have given up my long weekend to help out under covid restrictions and now there's a party ?

If you consider that's unreasonable then I'm glad I don't know you .

Not sure what difference it makes to you whether it was for her husbands hobby or to have a party? Both are things that could have been avoided if you didn’t want to swap and not an emergency.

However your colleague is unreasonable to have had a party with the current Covid restrictions in place so yanbu to be annoyed at that.

If you only agreed to cover a shift and break up a long weekend for a specific reason...hell yea you have every reason to be well pissed off if that reason turns out not to have been the truth..

Are people on drugs here...you broke up a long weekend and came back to work for this person??

I'd be well pissed off and would never entertain them again.

CF and a user.

I'd be annoyed because I'd feel like she hadn't been honest with me.

If you want me to cover a shift because you're planning a party at least tell me the truth. Don't pretend that it's because of childcare and/or DH's random hobby weekend.

My response would probably be the same - either I can help or I can't but don't pretend it's a childcare issue if it's not.

I'd be less willing to help out next time.

Yanbu, I'd be annoyed too. You agreed to help as she put on the poor mouth and pretended she had no childcare...while all along she was planning a party.

Oh well, just don't help her out again. If she legitimately needs childcare next time, too bad.

She asked, you agreed, you will get paid.

Their plans changed, she had already arranged to swap shifts, so they had a/went to a party.

It’s not terrible.

I'd be be very upset I'd been lied to by a colleague so she could enjoy the August BH weekend whilst getting me to work.

So I can see where you're coming from, but I'm not really sure why her husbands hobby is any better a reason for you to give up the long weekend than a party. In fact I think I'd prefer to accommodate a family party.

You agreed a few months ago.
Things have changed. "Earlier this month", maybe they hadn't decided to have a party. Maybe it was a last minute thing. Who knows?
I don't think I would be pissed off. I assume she will work one of your shifts as a swap anyway, so it's not an "extra" shift as such?

I don't blame you for being angry - she deliberately lied, and then lied again, to get you to cover out of the kindness of your heart so she didn't have to work that day.

I think YANBU and she was well out of order.

Can’t believe the responses you are getting!

Of course yanbu.

She manipulated you into taking her shift. That’s not on.

YANBU. You agreed to a swap to your detriment to help out a colleague in specific circumstances.

YANBU - she's basically lied to you so that you would work August bank holiday and she didn't have to.

An awful lot of people seem to be very comfortable lying these days - almost as if they don't actually know that lying is wrong, it's bizare.

Don't do her another favour.

no your not bu it was for child care reasons and turned into a party with everyone there

thats not a desprate peron who needs time off

Think about this: when you’re dying, will you think ‘fucking hell remember that time I covered a shift for someone and they lied’

Or will it not cross your mind at all?

Honestly. Life is short. People lie, people are selfish. Don’t get bogged down so much you need to post things on mumsnet for validation.