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Original poster

This is weird right? What possible explanation could there be?

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Woofbloodywoof · 30/08/2020 21:06

Earlier today I noticed a missed FaceTime call. Because it had an email address instead of a phone number, I recognised the name and realised it was from the ex girlfriend of my ex boyfriend from years and years ago (15 years! Not in touch with him because he is a bit nuts). I never knew or met her and they had long ago split when I briefly dated my ex. I have no idea how she got my contact details. I don’t want to call her back because that would just be too weird but has anybody had this and/or got any idea why she would be contacting me?
(My DH said it must have been a pocket call but I don’t know why she would have my details.)
Obviously this is not quite a case for Jessica Fletcher but still it’s weirding me out a bit.

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Merename · 30/08/2020 21:08

That is a bit strange. Was he abusive to you at all?

icedaisy · 30/08/2020 21:09

Some kind of case against him and wanting to know if you had experienced simaler?

Health issue to make you aware of?

Death of him?

Smallsteps88 · 30/08/2020 21:09

has anybody had this and/or got any idea why she would be contacting me?

How, in the name of all that’s holy, could anyone on MN even begin to guess at why she would be contacting you? Grin

PatriciaBateman · 30/08/2020 21:09

They ended up being at least friends again, something happened to him (serious illness/death), and she is contacting everyone in his phone to let them know? (Best guess)

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Woofbloodywoof · 30/08/2020 21:10

@merename not abusive no but he really didn’t take our breakup well even though we only dated for a few months. I have no idea if they got back together - I can’t imagine him being abusive.

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Woofbloodywoof · 30/08/2020 21:11

@Smallsteps88 😂 I dunno there are a lot of wise owls on here.

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nanbread · 30/08/2020 21:12

When you say a bit nuts what does that actually mean

I won't if that's the key

nanbread · 30/08/2020 21:13

*wonder

thepeopleversuswork · 30/08/2020 21:17

@PatriciaBateman

They ended up being at least friends again, something happened to him (serious illness/death), and she is contacting everyone in his phone to let them know? (Best guess)
If someone had died and you wanted to inform people you wouldn't facetime them though. Would be a call or a text.

Could it be a total coincidence?

MistyGreenAndBlue · 30/08/2020 21:18

Is your number on Facebook/Twitter etc?
An ex of my ex contacted me on Facebook some years ago.
I just told her I wasn't interested in bitching about the past.

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Woofbloodywoof · 30/08/2020 21:19

@nanbread a bit obsessive - not stalker level but could not accept my breaking up with him and took to getting his friends to call me to tell me how worried they were about him and surely I should give it another go. (We went out for two months!)

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PatriciaBateman · 30/08/2020 21:19

Don't know, I think death might be one thing certain people would FaceTime for... certainly there are members of my family that would believe this should be done face-to-face (FaceTime next best option) with text or call seeming too cold. (I do not share this view!)

Merename · 30/08/2020 21:20

Abusive men can be really charming and hard to envisage them behaving badly until it’s gradually crept in - seems most likely explanation that she wants to discuss something about him with you, although wonder how she got your number. Maybe if they got back together like you say.

Or she is super suspicious and wondering why your number was still in his phone?

WhyIsItSoHardToPickAUsername · 30/08/2020 21:22

I think I'd have to call or I'd be so curious

emma6776 · 30/08/2020 21:22

I’ve managed to accidentally FaceTime someone when I was drunk stalking an ex on Facebook - just a random person from his page! 15 years and I still feel embarrassed when I think about it.

Alwaysoutofreach · 30/08/2020 21:22

Medical?

ellaandthebella · 30/08/2020 21:27

@emma6776 was facetime and facebook around 15 years ago?

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Woofbloodywoof · 30/08/2020 21:29

@WhyIsItSoHardToPickAUsername I’m sooo tempted but it could open up a whole world of weird. We dated this guy many years ago so if somethings up now after all these years I’m not sure I want to know about it. Does that make sense?

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TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 30/08/2020 21:32

Could she have been doing a little innocent stalking and clicked on your number in error? Or do you have to go out of your way to find someone on facetime?

Backtoschoolnotsoonenough · 30/08/2020 21:32

He has died and has left you everything..

MitziK · 30/08/2020 21:33

I think you might feel better knowing rather than wondering what it is she FTd you for.

I'd send a message back just saying 'Did you mean to call me?' and she can then say 'No, sorry, my mistake' or message if there is something you would be better knowing than not.

cantgetmyheadroundit · 30/08/2020 21:34

I don't know how you can resist calling her back. I would NEED to know.

Cissyandflora · 30/08/2020 21:35

It’s just an accidental call. Ignore

farmertom · 30/08/2020 21:36

Well I'm not even involved and I want to know why she called 🤷‍♀️

pumpkinpie01 · 30/08/2020 21:36

You have to call her or you'll be wondering all night !