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This is weird right? What possible explanation could there be?

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Woofbloodywoof · 30/08/2020 21:06

Earlier today I noticed a missed FaceTime call. Because it had an email address instead of a phone number, I recognised the name and realised it was from the ex girlfriend of my ex boyfriend from years and years ago (15 years! Not in touch with him because he is a bit nuts). I never knew or met her and they had long ago split when I briefly dated my ex. I have no idea how she got my contact details. I don’t want to call her back because that would just be too weird but has anybody had this and/or got any idea why she would be contacting me?
(My DH said it must have been a pocket call but I don’t know why she would have my details.)
Obviously this is not quite a case for Jessica Fletcher but still it’s weirding me out a bit.

OP posts:
calipo · 30/08/2020 23:08

Maybe when she was dating him she used to stalk your FB because she knew you were an ex and then today she was just bored having a nose on your FB because she remembered your name and wanted to see what you're doing now and accidentally called you via FaceTime

DontBeShelfish · 30/08/2020 23:19

Or worse it's a technical glitch and she doesn't know she's rung you. So if you ring back, YOU become the weirdo. 😂

toomuchtimes · 30/08/2020 23:38

I think she's been stalking you on social media. Maybe the ex popped into her head and from there she's had a little stalk of you to see what your doing. I have to say I'd probably email though and ask if she meant to FaceTime you.

squee123 · 30/08/2020 23:44

could it be someone else with the same name?

Enough4me · 30/08/2020 23:46

Sorry OP, this is unlikely but what if she has found out she has an infection and it can lie dormant (herpes), and wondering if it was from him, but as he is crazy is asking you?

I would have to send a message and just say hi are you trying to contact me? As it would be better to know!

sycamorecottage · 30/08/2020 23:48

You've got the same name as someone else she knows, and she clicked on you by mistake?

Years ago we got a wrong number call. By sheer coincidence this random person was phoning a friend of ours, who actually happened to be in our house at the time.

Weird things happen. They do to me anyway Grin

bellinique · 30/08/2020 23:54

Could you send an email in response saying you had a missed call and asking what they wanted? You could feign ignorance over recognising the name?

Attitude84 · 31/08/2020 17:58

Takemedowntopotatocity makes a good point. We all have done it at some point... just not as obvious as this ex gf!!!

Florencex · 31/08/2020 18:02

I sometimes google people from school, just to be nosy see what they are up to. I think maybe she did something like that and accidentally called. I would ignore it.

Wilkie1956mog · 31/08/2020 18:21

If you don't message her back you will always wonder. If it's something weird or that you don't want to get involved with, just block her after that.

SurroundedByIdiotsEverywhere · 31/08/2020 18:29

Steer well clear of her regardless of her intentions! I'd block her too...

SummerPoppies · 31/08/2020 18:35

You dated someone around 15 years ago and they still have your number?
Ok.

Lovaduck74 · 31/08/2020 18:44

I would call to quell the wave of curiosity... But then I am incredibly nosy and would rather find out than get myself at it all night wondering 😊

MimsyBorogroves · 31/08/2020 18:45

You're going to have to message back, we all need to know now.

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 31/08/2020 18:46

You dated someone around 15 years ago and they still have your number?Ok

It was a FaceTime call
GrinGrinGrin

Jack80 · 31/08/2020 18:47

2 things come to mind he could have passed away or she wants to something about him. I would call her back out of curiosity.

Winniewonka · 31/08/2020 18:48

I would email her back and say "Your name looks vaguely familiar, how do I know you and did you mean to Facetime me?"

Only do this if you're really curious.

tiredanddangerous · 31/08/2020 19:06

I'd have to message and find out...it's big me forever otherwise! "Hi, I've got a missed call from you - everything ok?"

tiredanddangerous · 31/08/2020 19:06

*it'd bug not its big Confused

Histrionicz · 31/08/2020 19:13

Oh bugger. I thought there was an up date from @Woofbloodywoof!

ThunderSpuds · 31/08/2020 19:17

Are you sure it's not just someone with the same name as this person? Do you definitely know it's her email address because they have an unusual name? If it's Emma Smith or something I'd be thinking it's a random with the same name.

2bazookas · 31/08/2020 19:18

Maybe she has some news about him,and is contacting all his list.

SummerPoppies · 31/08/2020 19:21

@anotherlovelybitofsquirrel
Same diff.

queueueue · 31/08/2020 19:24

It's weird for anyone at all that you don't know quite well to facetime randomly without messaging first. In fact, even my family and close friends would message first and say "are you free? can I facetime you?" beforehand.

NiceGerbil · 31/08/2020 19:29

Emailing is good idea.

I wouldn't be able to not know!

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