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This is weird right? What possible explanation could there be?

128 replies

Woofbloodywoof · 30/08/2020 21:06

Earlier today I noticed a missed FaceTime call. Because it had an email address instead of a phone number, I recognised the name and realised it was from the ex girlfriend of my ex boyfriend from years and years ago (15 years! Not in touch with him because he is a bit nuts). I never knew or met her and they had long ago split when I briefly dated my ex. I have no idea how she got my contact details. I don’t want to call her back because that would just be too weird but has anybody had this and/or got any idea why she would be contacting me?
(My DH said it must have been a pocket call but I don’t know why she would have my details.)
Obviously this is not quite a case for Jessica Fletcher but still it’s weirding me out a bit.

OP posts:
S111n20 · 31/08/2020 20:06

I would 100% message...Hi who is this ? Missed call. Curiosity would get the better of me.

BorisTheBellend · 31/08/2020 20:32

Well if it was MY ex's ex then I'd block and ignore.

BUT....

Seeing as it's YOUR ex's ex then I really think you should message and say you've a missed call and just wondering who it was/why they were ringing you.

Then come back and tell us.

Aridane · 31/08/2020 20:40

I’m with DH - bum call - wouldn’t think any more of it (but then I’m a simple soul)

HenriettaH · 31/08/2020 21:04

Why would you recognize a number of a boyfriends ex from 15 years ago...

HenriettaH · 31/08/2020 21:05

@HenriettaH

Why would you recognize a number of a boyfriends ex from 15 years ago...
or email...
Sciencebabe · 31/08/2020 21:06

Sounds like an accidental stalk call to me 😆 You were only together two months, 15yrs ago. If it's serious she will contact you again, otherwise I'd forget about it.

ShellsAndSunrises · 31/08/2020 21:19

It's weird for anyone at all that you don't know quite well to facetime randomly without messaging first.

Sadly I’m the only one I know who does this. Everyone else thinks I’m weird for it, and just calls. Husbands family, my friends... I’m still trying to make messaging first catch on! I often don’t answer the first few calls to try and get them to message, but no luck yet.

nymum · 31/08/2020 21:23

Cyberstalking habit and embarrassing, inadvertent FaceTime dial. I wouldn’t overanalyse it.

Gunpowder · 31/08/2020 21:31

One of my kids FaceTimed one of my ex
BF’s (from at least 15 years ago) at six in the morning a couple of years ago before I discovered how to do guided access on iPhone. SO EMBARRASSING. I think the number was saved to my sim as I’ve had the same number for nearly 20 years. Obviously I deleted it straight afterwards.

For whoever was doubting Facebook was around 15 years ago I’ve had mine since 2005! I think you had to be invited back in the day but have possibly remembered that wrong. We didn’t have FaceTime back in the days of yore but we did have Skype.

Gunpowder · 31/08/2020 21:34

The shame of that grocers’ apostrophe! I’m blaming autocorrect.

Ginburee · 31/08/2020 22:03

If it was facetime then send a message, did you mean to call?
She could be calling you to let you know you are a beneficiary to a will not that you need to get tested for Syphilis.
It is worth asking the question.

amispeakingenglish · 01/09/2020 02:03

maybe he has died? She is just going through his contact telling them?

SleepingStandingUp · 01/09/2020 02:06

15 years ago you dated a guy for a few months.
He dated someone else long before that.
Bit you recognize her name when she tried to call you today?
I think you knowing her name is weirder than her calling you

Rainagain72 · 01/09/2020 07:10

I’d definitely just send a message to say ‘I’ve missed a call from this email but am travelling at the moment and unable to take calls could you tell me what it was regarding please’ as it could be something serious.

AgnesCastors · 01/09/2020 07:39

Total pocket call/was trying to edit your contact details or similar! Exes ex video call rather than text message/phone call?

MrPenguin · 01/09/2020 09:39

Maybe they want to sell you Herbalife....

WhereDoesThisToiletGo · 01/09/2020 09:48

@MrPenguin

Maybe they want to sell you Herbalife....
Yup, I was about to suggest Arbonne!
Wishimaywishimight · 01/09/2020 10:21

Why does your ex-boyfriend's ex-girlfriend even have your contact details?

Coffeepot72 · 01/09/2020 10:44

OP, for heaven’s sake DO SOMETHING! 😃

IndigoApple · 01/09/2020 11:16

Agree I would want to know, but I think the longer you leave it to respond the more awkward, it will look as if you've thought about it too much!

Myotherusernamewastakenagain · 02/09/2020 20:27

How did it go OP? Have you contacted her yet?

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 02/09/2020 21:40

@anotherlovelybitofsquirrel
Same diff

Ok thicko Hmm

stovetopespresso · 02/09/2020 21:43

please tell us I'm having quite a boring evening

Kate0902900908 · 05/09/2020 03:13

Is it a common name? Could be someone else and not the ex of your ex years ago?

If not and it is her she could have been trying to tell you your ex has passed?!

We need to know!

mellowww · 05/09/2020 03:53

@icedaisy

Some kind of case against him and wanting to know if you had experienced simaler?

Health issue to make you aware of?

Death of him?

All my thoughts.

I'd call or message her.