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Disabled Child Window Stickers

121 replies

muddymommy · 30/08/2020 17:52

Ok, might sound nasty but my neigbour has a 12 year old daughter and has just bought and applied a huge sticker/decal to her car that states "Epileptic child on board, may stop suddenly".
I am a little horrified that she would need to advertise this.
Am I unreasonable?
I have a son with medical conditons but would just pull over in an emergency and not wish for the world to know that he has anything going on. Or for the whole street to know when I am parked up.

OP posts:
Lockheart · 30/08/2020 17:53

It's her car and her child, I don't think it's any of your business.

Leaannb · 30/08/2020 17:57

Why does this bother you? Why does this horrify you?

Dugsbollox · 30/08/2020 17:58

Why are you horrified? YABU to give it this much thought.

Scrumptiousbears · 30/08/2020 17:59

I personally don't like the "little monkey on board" or "little princess on board" stickers. For me I believe no one takes any notice so I don't see the point in having them. Same probably goes for this sticker. 🤷🏼‍♀️

originalusernamefail · 30/08/2020 18:01

I presume it means she may have to do an emergency stop if her child has a seizure and begins choking in the back seat.

weightedpunch · 30/08/2020 18:02

YABU. She isn't "advertising" her daughter's epilepsy she's making other drivers aware in case she suddenly has do to what could be considered a dangerous move.

If there were less people like yourself being "horrified" by this then maybe invisible illnesses wouldn't have such a stigma.

MaskingForIt · 30/08/2020 18:02

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Coconutmeg · 30/08/2020 18:04

I don’t like it
Same reasons as the naught person/little princess
It’s not how I would like to be identified and it’s unnecessary

ErickBroch · 30/08/2020 18:05

YABVU. Not sure why it's even bothering you.

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muddymommy · 30/08/2020 18:05

I just think to advertise that her child has Epliepsy in huge letters on the rear of her car is a bit weird. It may also impact on her child when being dropped off at school if this is emblazoned across the back of a car!

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ErickBroch · 30/08/2020 18:07

My sibling is non-verbal autistic and if we had an accident he would try and run away and not communicate if he was hurt or not. We have something on our car to make it clear in case that happens - not to 'advertise' autism but to make people aware in a dangerous situation.

minnieok · 30/08/2020 18:07

Dp's dd is severely epileptic and thinks this is ridiculous, however violent the seizure, you pull over safely.

Original poster
muddymommy · 30/08/2020 18:08

And as I said, my son has health conditions but I would not advertise them to the street, school, neighbourhood, world. I would just pull over and deal with it if needed.

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MaskingForIt · 30/08/2020 18:11

@minnieok

Dp's dd is severely epileptic and thinks this is ridiculous, however violent the seizure, you pull over safely.
Quite. The Highway Code and law apply whether you have a special needs child or not. Anyone expecting to be able to drive like a twat just because they have a sticker on their car is very entitled.
Oysterbabe · 30/08/2020 18:12

I can't understand why you would give a shit about this.

Etihad · 30/08/2020 18:13

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Thisisworsethananticpated · 30/08/2020 18:16

So your sister has a child with a serious health condition , and your main concern is her car sticker ? You need to rethink this OP

FunTimes2020 · 30/08/2020 18:17

@minnieok

Dp's dd is severely epileptic and thinks this is ridiculous, however violent the seizure, you pull over safely.
Agreed. Regardless of occupant's medical conditions, the driver has a duty to drive safely and not endanger other road users. They sound entitled Hmm
dudsville · 30/08/2020 18:19

Don't look at her sticker. I think that will help.

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 30/08/2020 18:20

YANBU

And the 12 year old, being the age she is, is probably mortified at having her medical information plastered up the family car

cricketballs3 · 30/08/2020 18:22

We have a sticker stating that not all disabilities are visible on our car given the amount of tutting, dirty looks etc we have when parking in a disabled space (my DS does have a blue badge).

In terms of the 'advertising medical conditions'; school, friends etc will already know and I'm guessing that your neighbours DC will have a medi alert bracelet/card which is also an 'advert'

Sleepyblueocean · 30/08/2020 18:32

We have a wheelchair access sticker on the back window next to where ds sits to encourage people not to park inches from his door.
We also have a seat belt cover with nonverbal may not cooperate in case of of an accident.

GhostCurry · 30/08/2020 18:35

To be clear - do you think epilepsy is something to be ashamed of?

For better or worse, epilepsy is a condition that can’t really be hidden, so why are you so concerned about people knowing?

yawnsvillex · 30/08/2020 18:37

Report her. Outrageous behaviour

ivfdreaming · 30/08/2020 18:39

Well if her child has an epileptic seizure in the the back of the car she IS going to stop suddenly so actually I thinks it's perfectly reasonable to display it? Perhaps she has previously been in a dangerous situation where this has happened 🤷‍♀️
No different to displaying a blue badge personally
I don't think it's any of your business what she sticks to her car?!