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To expect to have a hair do 'to go out with'

144 replies

Handbaghag · 30/08/2020 17:33

Is it just me or am I being unreasonable to expect that when I pay for a cut and blow that my hair should look ready to go on a night out. I have a stacked bob that I can blow dry to be big in height/volume and look ready to go out. Yesterday I paid my money for a cut and blow and the hairdresser used a small barrel brush and I left with fairly flat looking hair, even after I'd said I wanted it to look top heavy/volume etc. Am I just old fashioned (at 48) to expect to look like I've 'just come out of the hairdresser's' and feel my hair looks good or is a cut and blow nowadays basically someone just drying your hair after cutting it.
#ilikebighairandicannotlie

OP posts:
funnylittlefloozie · 30/08/2020 18:09

This is the second thread i've read this weekend grumbling about hairdressers. Some of you need to use your words and TELL your hairdressers how you want your hair to look. If you dont get the cut / colour / style you want within two visits, go somewhere else! Some hairdressers are amazing, some are rubbish, but none of them are mindreaders. Just talk to them. Also, if you're talking about your hair, then there's none of the "inane chat" that some people here appear to be so terrified of.

I love going to the hairdresser - 2 hours of just me-time. I take a book now, and its lovely.

Apolloanddaphne · 30/08/2020 18:09

Mine is always glorious and swishy when I leave the hairdresser. Not over done but the best version of my hairstyle there can be. I think my hairdresser just really understands my hair and what I like. .

FraughtwithGin · 30/08/2020 18:12

My hairdresser and I prefer to conspire so that I do not look as if I have just come from the salon! Just as well, really as I blow dry my hair better than he does, but the cut and highlights are top notch.

pictish · 30/08/2020 18:14

I’ve not met a hairdresser that did a good blow dry yet. They always seem to do these pouffy helmets using straighteners and a round brush. It’s much better when I go home, rinse their terrible dry job out, then style it myself.

SantaClaritaDiet · 30/08/2020 18:20

YANBU

Whilst I am genuinely amazed a "rough dry" is even an option (what the hell do you pay for), if that's not what you are specifically having, then there should be an effort with your hair do!

If you are not happy with the way you look when you leave, you need another salon, but it's a painful and long process to find the right one.

Worriedmutt · 30/08/2020 18:21

You don't have to get it blow dried, you can just get a cut and rough dry if you are going straight home to style it yourself. Much cheaper.

Smallsteps88 · 30/08/2020 18:21

I’ve never left the hairdressers feeling like I could go out. Firstly they always get water round my hairline so my makeup comes off. Secondly I’m always left with small hair cuttings all over my face and chest. I usually always have to wash it and style it myself again before I’m happy.

Shortandsweet20 · 30/08/2020 18:24

My hair always looks ready to go out when I leave. My hair dresser always asks how I want it styling and will do whatever I ask!

ncdtoday123 · 30/08/2020 18:24

Mines always flat and limp when I leave the salon because every time I ask for volume, they blow dry it with the nozzle so close that steam billows out and it looks half the thickness of when I do it myself. I wish they wouldn't do that, I'm sure it doesn't do the hair any good

Polly2345 · 30/08/2020 18:25

I used to have a hairdresser who would get a bit annoyed if I wasn't going out for the evening on the day of my cut and blow dry! He assumed people came up the hairdresser's partly for that reason. I think he thought he was wasting his effort if I was just gonna stay at home and watch telly!

Moonshinemisses · 30/08/2020 18:26

For me part of the package when getting my hair done is walking out with amazing hair the ' just stepped out of a salon ' look. My hairdresser always asks how I would like it styled. What the hell is going on with hairdressers I've seen so many threads & posts about crap hair. It's like they forgot how to do it during lockdown.

MyMorningHairHasItsOwnVlog · 30/08/2020 18:31

God yeah, you have to have a fab wig when you leave the salon! Whatever your tastes are, if you ask for it you should get it or you don’t go back! I did get more cut off in my first post-lockdown visit than I planned but I loved it! I was getting impatient to leave, the care my stylist was taking with my blow dry took forever! But it was well worth it.

NotEverythingIsBlackandWhite · 30/08/2020 18:35

Do you expect your hairdresser to be a mind-reader? You need to tell them what you want. For a bob, mine would cut and blow-dry it and then check to ensure it is sitting well before wetting and re-styling for how I wish to go out. If she just dried it big and bouncy, chances are a bob wouldn't fall right when you don't want the bounce.

You shouldn't have left the salon until you were happy.

pigsDOfly · 30/08/2020 18:36

All the posters saying that they don't like the way their hairdresser blowdrys it. Can't you just have it washed, cut and a quick blast with the hairdryer, so you don't go home with wet hair, rather than all the 'products' and faff of a major blowdry.

I'm not talking from personal experience here, but there was a thread on here a while ago and several posters said they never paid to have their hair blowdried.

Pukkatea · 30/08/2020 18:37

I have the opposite. They always try to blow dry mine with curls and pouf and I hate it. I don't bother paying to get it dried anymore because even done how I want, I still think it looks nicer when I do it myself.

GreyGardens88 · 30/08/2020 18:39

Is a stacked bob the "I want to speak to a manager" hairstyle?

GrumpyHoonMain · 30/08/2020 18:40

Most hairdressers I know charge extra for going out hair. If I really wanted it I would expect to pay more than a bog standard haircut. If you want extras you do need to pay for them

Staffy1 · 30/08/2020 18:42

I'm also from the big hair generation, but perhaps flat is the look now and the hairdresser is actually giving you going out hair?

Thefaceofboe · 30/08/2020 18:42

Last time I got mine done she blow dried my hair and left it without a style (it’s very thick) because she ran out of time Confused

Lifeisgenerallyfun · 30/08/2020 18:43

When you walk out a hairdressers it should look at its absolute best, they should ask how you want it finished. Mine always looks amazing (can’t repeat it myself). If it didn’t I’d change hairdressers.

blanchmange50 · 30/08/2020 18:43

I always leave my hairdresser with a going out 'blow dry', It lasts for up to 4 days. I love it as it is the only time my hair looks fab- so yes I agree with you that when leaving the hairdressers you should look going out ready

PeppersYellow · 30/08/2020 18:43

I thought hairdressers were meant to be doing minimal blowdrying at the moment because of blowing the virus around??

jolokoy · 30/08/2020 18:43

You have to ask for a blowout. It's a separate service nowadays.

EwwSprouts · 30/08/2020 18:44

YANBU Doesn't matter if anyone thinks it's old-fashioned, it's what you as the paying customer asked for. You should feel like a valued customer. Find a different hairdresser who listens.

Justgivemesomepeace · 30/08/2020 18:47

I have thin fine hair. Its shit. Hairdressers blow it for about 20 mins. I have hardly any hair. It ends up as flat as a fart. Then they ask whether I want them to finish it off with straighteners. Straighteners are the last thing that should go near my hair. I go home and finish it off myself.