To think attending this wedding is a bad idea

[frillyfarmer]

Friends' wedding was postponed in May due to Covid, rearranged for end October.

I'd just sort of assumed with the general shitstorm of Covid, and with the laws surrounding gatherings of more than 30 people, this would be postponed again, but we received an email today confirming they are still going ahead.

The church service will be just them and immediate family, as per the rules. The reception is to be held privately (they're landowners) for 160 people. All of our friends are going - they're really looking forwards to a good kick back and a party after months of us not seeing one another.

I feel like we will be missing out on all the fun but I just don't think I can feel comfortable breaking the rules like that, especially considering the fines for attending illegal gatherings.

My husband has said he is happy to either go or not go depending on what I think. We are low risk, healthy in our 30s leading very isolated lifestyle by design as we're farmers. I'm a SAHM to two preschool aged children. My biggest concern is ending up on the front of the daily mail like the house parties in Manchester...

Would you go?

I’d probably go

Absolutely not.

160 people?? I’m lax but I’d prob be reluctant

I wouldn’t, no.
It that even legal at the moment? Even on private land. Genuinely don’t know, not being facetious.
I am 32 and had Covid in April. I have no risk factors and a have never felt more unwell in my life. I narrowly avoided hospital admission and to be honest I still don’t feel quite right. I was really shocked how awful it was and I’m worried by people becoming so lax about the recommendations tbh.

Nope. 160 is far too many people.

I don’t think it being private land means the rules don’t apply. Will it be indoors or outdoors? If close enough I would probably go for a while but not hang about. Unless it was outdoors in which case I would wrap up warm and enjoy.

Definitely wouldn’t go.

Nope.

I would wait until nearer the time to decide but if it was next week as in with the current situation I wouldn’t but who knows what things will be like in 2 months.

Sorry - I was stating it was on private land to prevent the "what sort of venue would even allow that" comments.

From what I understand, it would constitute an illegal gathering as it's over 30 people, regardless of it being on private land. So basically the organiser and everyone who attends can be fined? It's outside and in a marquee.

Congregating on your own land doesn't change the guidance/rules
I doubt it'll go ahead.

No way.

No I wouldn't.

Not even slightly. There's just been an upsurge near us based around a funeral party, ffs.

No

Nope. Not worth it.

You clearly don’t want to go... so don’t

Nope. This is how shit spreads.

No...

The email we have received basically acknowledged that is wasn't within guidance and it wasn't really allowed, but had a light hearted jokey "fuck it" tone to it. I suppose even though it's on private land, it only takes one phone call from one person from the village (a mile away) for the police to be alerted.
I'm notoriously not a rule breaker. I'm just wondering whether I'm being a bit precious as all of our friends are still going.

Absolutely not. It's not just the risk to you, its anyone you subsequently come in to contact with. I wouldn't feel OK going to the supermarket or seeing other friends or relatives knowing that I'd exposed myself to that level of risk.

I'm feeling reasonably confident that the uk is through the worst and I still wouldn't go.

I wouldn't go. 160 is just too many people. Especially people drinking and unlikely to be sensible.

Just go and have a great time. FFS.

No I wouldnt.