To think attending this wedding is a bad idea

[frillyfarmer]

Friends' wedding was postponed in May due to Covid, rearranged for end October.

I'd just sort of assumed with the general shitstorm of Covid, and with the laws surrounding gatherings of more than 30 people, this would be postponed again, but we received an email today confirming they are still going ahead.

The church service will be just them and immediate family, as per the rules. The reception is to be held privately (they're landowners) for 160 people. All of our friends are going - they're really looking forwards to a good kick back and a party after months of us not seeing one another.

I feel like we will be missing out on all the fun but I just don't think I can feel comfortable breaking the rules like that, especially considering the fines for attending illegal gatherings.

My husband has said he is happy to either go or not go depending on what I think. We are low risk, healthy in our 30s leading very isolated lifestyle by design as we're farmers. I'm a SAHM to two preschool aged children. My biggest concern is ending up on the front of the daily mail like the house parties in Manchester...

Would you go?

I would defo go! Have fun

If rules remain the same and the r rate, then I'd consider the ceremony, but sitting as far away from others as possible, obviously with a mask. But not the reception.

If the situation worsens or rules change to the contrary then no to both.

"" "I notoriously not a rule breaker. I'm just wondering whether I'm being a bit precious as all of our friends are still going" ""

Abit precious

Imagine if the virsus comes into that environment and all them people then spread it outwards over and over.
That's how local areas get locked down.

Ffs....

Its people like the bride and groom and visitors why this virus will keep doing the rounds..

I hope someone calls the police within the first 10 minutes and they make everyone go home

So selfish

I’d go. I haven’t isolated in the slightest since the beginning

I'd reply with a maybe depending on what the guidance is by then: it's over 2 months away.
But realistically by the end of Oct it's going to be cold and a marquee big enough for any chance of distancing for 160 people will be the size of a village!

No, I wouldn't go. From a purely selfish point of view, I just wouldn't enjoy myself. I'd be thinking about Covid any time someone came up too close to me.

I doubt you'll be the only ones not attending, even if many do.

I’ve had it and have antibodies, and am pretty blase about getting on buses etc, and I still wouldn’t go to a gathering of 160 people.

If you don’t fancy it, I don’t think you need to have any qualms about bowing out. Send them a nice card and a bottle of fizz.

I wouldn’t be too heavy-handed with the “it’s against the law”, because of somebody does report them they will think it’s you, even if it wasn’t.

No i wouldnt go, in fact i hope someone reports them. Im sure the Police and courts will be looking tohand out the £10,000 fines to make a point...could prove to be a very expensive wedding.

I wouldn't even consider going as it's against the rules although I may leave it until closer to the time before decking in, in case the rules change as I'd really want to go!!

Nope.

*declining, not decking in!

No I wouldn't. I'd send a nice present, good wishes and a bottle of bubbly and if pushed profess that I just feel I'm not ready to attend a large gathering yet.

No, definitely not.

160 people!

Fucks sake, no I wouldn't

@Itsjustabitofbanter

I’d go. I haven’t isolated in the slightest since the beginning

People like you are the problem People can't go to weddings or funerals, can't visit in hospital, can't attend school, can't see the people they love Grow up , you are a disgrace

It’s a no from me.

No I wouldn’t. What are the chances that it’s the only village in the country without a resident nosey parker that’s not going to notice 160 people turning up to the local farm? No matter how popular this family thinks they are there will be someone who reports if they get wind of it.

Blimey it’s a lot of people! I don’t think I’d go. But on the other hand I can see why they feel like this - while you can’t have a gathering of more than 30 - you can go to a large pub or whatever with say 200 so I can imagine how the B&g feel.

Well young people are expected to go to school in 'bubbles' of 260, and teachers to teach multiple 'bubbles' of 260 and apparently this is all perfectly fine so I'm surprised so many people are saying no don't go it's too dangerous.

Nope wouldn’t go, I cant believe with everything going on they are prepared to blatantly break current guidelines, max 30 outside.

Tbh October is a while off my guess we will be in lockdown again as it’s winter and it will start rising again

I know people that have died from covid , so no sorry I wouldn't.

I suppose that's my counter whenever I think I've made a decision @Scentsandsensible

I've been going to pubs and restaurants, so the magical number of 30 seems a bit of a red herring.

But thank you for everyone's opinions. We will most likely not go because like someone has said, I wouldn't enjoy it whilst worrying. I will probably just sulk at home that day instead!

No, I wouldn’t go.
I think it’s incredibly selfish of the couple to go ahead when so many couples (myself included) are playing by the rules even though we’d love to have a big celebration.
Also agree there’s a high chance it gets reported, wouldn’t be surprised that they get busted/fined if they do even get to go ahead. Is that the wedding memory they’ll treasure?

No way I’d break the law just for a wedding

For me it would depend on what sort of risk I specifically would be - to myself and others.

I have no vulnerable friends/relatives. I work from home. I don't use public transport. I get my shopping delivered. I am not vulnerable myself.

If I got it, id probably be fine. Same as flu or pneumonia. If I got it I wouldn't spread it far.