To think attending this wedding is a bad idea

[frillyfarmer]

Friends' wedding was postponed in May due to Covid, rearranged for end October.

I'd just sort of assumed with the general shitstorm of Covid, and with the laws surrounding gatherings of more than 30 people, this would be postponed again, but we received an email today confirming they are still going ahead.

The church service will be just them and immediate family, as per the rules. The reception is to be held privately (they're landowners) for 160 people. All of our friends are going - they're really looking forwards to a good kick back and a party after months of us not seeing one another.

I feel like we will be missing out on all the fun but I just don't think I can feel comfortable breaking the rules like that, especially considering the fines for attending illegal gatherings.

My husband has said he is happy to either go or not go depending on what I think. We are low risk, healthy in our 30s leading very isolated lifestyle by design as we're farmers. I'm a SAHM to two preschool aged children. My biggest concern is ending up on the front of the daily mail like the house parties in Manchester...

Would you go?

People saying the rules may change of more and more people are having gatherings like this the rules will change but the other way and we will be only allowed smaller gatherings not larger ones.

People should be doing everything they can to help schools stay open not help the virus rates increase.

No. 160 is a crazy amount of people.
Really bad form.

I have been to weddings half that size in non covid times! I hesitate to say it, but it's just selfishness.

There's no dilemma here surely about should/shouldn't.It's illegal. Simple as that.
And talking of simple, you clearly know some very stupid people. Not to mention selfish.

No way. Really, really selfish of them to do this. Something similar led to a local lockdown where I live and a family business losing their license to operate and invalidating their insurance (it was a family event on their premises). I think they’ve been fined a massive amount too. And they deserve it.

Imagine being the bride and groom of a wedding that caused an outbreak of covid. Nice.

The rules are there for a reason. They had two choices - either postpone or stick to the rules. I wouldn't usually say this but I hope they get reported. Is there big bash really worth the potential health consequences?

I have been going to pubs but I wouldn't fancy being crammed in a marquee with 160 other people it's not really the same.