Two months to decide or never have another baby

[Whatnext2018]

Hi all,

After 9 years struggling to conceive, miscarriages and an emergency ectopic right tube loss) on the third round of ivf I fell pregnant at age 39.
We now have a gorgeous 2 year old Dd.
We had one remaining embryo frozen from my cycle at 39, they keep it for us until the end of November.
I have to decide (quickly) if we will try again by implanting it in the next couple of months.
I’d be 42 when i got pregnant, 43 when the baby was born.
I’m just really unsure, I’m thinking it would be unlikely to work anyway as we failed so many other cycles and our girl is a miracle, but I feel sad at her being an only child.
I’m also not sure I’m too old..! The egg would be from when I was 39, so not ‘As’ bad, but still...what would you do?

I think I would have to go for it.

I'm not quite in the same boat yet but at first I agonised about not having enough blastocysts frozen but am now pregnant with twins (this will be my last pregnancy) I know I will agonise over destroying the remaining 2 blastocysts we have frozen. We went through 5 rounds to get these and after multiple miscarriages and ectopics i can't imagine destroying what we fought so hard to make

If I could transfer them I would but there is no way DH will agree!

You need to do what's Right for your family but given you just have the one child at the moment I would definitely do the transfer

Why do you only have until November to decide? I thought freezing and storage was for 10 years or do you not want to pay for additional storage costs?

Go for it... I had my first child when I was 40 and my second when I was 46. X

I'd go for it. A friend of mine had all but given up, they had one embryo left and she was already in her 40s, she thought 'What the hell?' and had it implanted. That is her DS. He's now 12. You'll always wonder 'What if?' if you don't go for it and if it doesn't work out, well at least you gave it a chance.

I would. I always wanted 2 and even though I’m an older mum I cherish the moments with my boy. I knew he was my last and it made it more special (to me). Being older is harder. DS is 2 and my DH is nearing 50. DS has a medical condition that made the first year hellish for lack of sleep and constant treatment (at home).
Even knowing everything I know now I’m so glad we had our second.

Go for it, if it works - amazing, if not it wasn't meant to be and you'll never think "what if?". Good luck OP

You want it and thats that!, you just need a bit of approval I reckon's

And no reason why not to either, so its a GO from me!

Hope the child to be brings you as much joy as the little one you have:)

Bless you!

I'd go for it.

Good luck. At the same time, congratulations on your two year old who must be a delight to you both.

I’d go for it. We’ve just had a second IVF baby from the last frozen embryo we had left. I’m near 40 so understand the age concern but you won’t regret it. In terms of the embryo they work off the age you were when the egg was frozen but the mothers age is also taking into account I think when looking at risk factors. I don’t believe the embryos are screened- though that maybe depends on the clinic. We like you only had one embryo so couldn’t have not used it I don’t think. Good luck with your decision!

I would go for it

"We only regret the chances we didn't take"

Those ‘what ifs’ will only go away if you go for it.

Good luck whatever you decide x

You will always wonder if you dont xx

Absolutely go for it. If it doesn't happen you tried. You might regret not trying. Hope it works out.

I would transfer it, if it is meant to be then it is meant to be. That way you will never wonder if.

I’d go for it! You don’t want to spend the rest of your life wondering what if xx

Could you cope with a teenager at 56? How does your partner feel about that.At 61 just as people are getting more fun out of life you would be looking at funding a university student.

Do it.

Go for it.I had my second Ds at 43.

Go for it! And remember that there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an only xx

I'd definitely try. Then there would be no regret. Good luck!

I'd go for it. It's your last chance, and if it doesn't work at least you tried.
If you don't try you'll never know!

Don't be sad at having an only child. Your child doesn't know any different, so no siblings is their normal.

I have embraced having one, and consider myself blessed with one. It's how you look at it, isn't it?

Having said that, I think you should try and use the last embryo, nothing ventured nothing gained. Good luck!

I would, and that’s said from someone who had hers with no issues at 28 and 31.

If it doesn’t happen you tried and there’s no what ifs, equally you have admitted you are happy with your lot so if it doesn’t then no hard feelings.

If it does, I doubt you will regret it.

I have an ivf baby and tried naturally for a second but if it never happened. If I'd had Frosties I'd have had to use them but it's a big decision. A word of warning - a friend used her last frostie never expecting it to take as it had taken several rounds to get her baby. It did take. And split - ta-dah identical twins.