What do your work colleagues not know about your life?

[cluelesscher]

Mine know I like my fitness/gym time but don't know just how much of a huge part of my life it is.

They don't know I was bullied out of my previous position.

They don't know that I have been home studying to further my career.

That we, a staid unremarkable middle-aged couple, go to naturist beaches in the UK and Spain. We would never say so.

also fascinated by those whose colleagues don't know they have kids

I’m pretty open but there’s a lot that people don’t know:

The amount of times I’ve tried to commit suicide when I was younger
How much I have to stop myself from hurting myself now
How crappy my childhood actually was (some know little bits but don’t I don’t go into detail of how bad it was)
That my husband and I haven’t had sex for 8 months (I have an extremely dirty sense of humour and some of my comments would suggest otherwise)
My thoughts on monogamy
That I have my eyes on a guy at work for no strings one off sex

That they make me cry every single day. It’s so hard being ignored when you come in and say good morning/hello. Then having to listen to the friendly greetings to everyone else.

I never knew it would be so hard to keep up my facade. It’s killing me a little bit more every day.

@Florial mine isn’t my husband. I often think if just one area of my life was happy and stable I’d have the strength to leave.

Roll on a lottery win. Just enough for a small home and peace.

They know most things about my life now. I am a middle aged married mother of 2 young children and my life pretty much revolves around them.

However my wilder youth I keep to myself. I think they would be pretty shocked at some of the things I got up to.

They assume I’m straight because I have 3 DD’s.
In actual fact I’m bisexual and have only been in relationships with women since my marriage ended.
They also don’t know that the reason our boss who everyone loved so much left was because we got into a relationship!

That I’m a former sex worker. I was a stripper for several years, would occasionally take up offers for paid sex for enough money- maybe ten times total? All strippers do, the only difference is that some cost more than others.

Not me - but a close relative can’t tell work she has Tourette syndrome - because of the stigma and misunderstanding of the condition, she probably wouldn’t even get to interview.
Her tics are not as bad now as when she was younger - she suppresses them in public.
I think it’s pretty poor she feels she can’t be honest in this day and age, but I totally get why. People would be very surprised if they knew.

That I suffer from crushing anxiety and panic attacks. They know I've been through hideous trauma but not how bad it really is. I'm very good at putting on the work face.

That I am a closet geek and gamer. They know I game, but not how much I enjoy it.

That I can sing and play guitar and violin. I'd be pounced on for concerts (education here) and that doesn't sit well with my first point re anxiety.

That I have a statistical post grad but struggle with maths, I hate teaching upper stage maths.

That I'm considering a new career......

They know more than they used to! Zoom calls mean we have all seen each other’s home work spaces, met various pets and children etc.

How miserable I am.

For me I've never mentioned i had children and I don't talk about them at work. Most people never ask and presume I dont

I work in a couple of places. In one, we all know each other quite well, not so much in the other... I was recently asked out by a colleague who had taken it upon himself to assume that I was, single, childless and incredibly lonely and had decided to save me from spinster-hood. Apparently quite a few people there think the same thing. So:

• That I'm married
• That, between DH and I, we have 8 children
• I was adopted and brought up by an ex nun (to be fair, they have no reason to know this).

@trodinaboris

I said we didn't wipe down, not that there were bodily fluids everywhere. The whole premises are cleaned every evening and not everyone leaks bodily fluids freely

Maybe your partner struggles sexually when you have sex but generally during sex the aim is for the man to leak bodily fluids. Hopefully you'll have a better experience next time but somewhere more appropriate.

It's even more disgusting that you left it for the cleaners to clean up.

Sex is not vile, doing it work is inappropriate, doing it without cleaning up afterwards is vile, yes.

What a truly bitchy post. Well done.

I came in to money not too long ago. I inherited it but was comfortable before this. Work is 45 minutes away by train and I don't wear anything expensive. I enjoy my work. I have nice colleagues. My name is definitely a give away, but I'm not 😊

I’m not going back after my mat leave.

That I am only pretending that I know what I am doing, that I am barely coping with life, that all those bruises weren't accidents, how close I have come to panic attacks at work, what my house looks like because we don't WFH (fortunately, because my house is an absolute tip), that at home I am terrified of making and answering phone calls but somehow manage at work. My manager knows some of this and is supporting me, but my other colleagues apparently think I am capable and competent. I laugh a lot and tell 'funny' stories about life which hides the reality.

They don't know I have a child, or that I'm related (by marriage) to my boss.

My colleagues know about my life. Im actually really boring and dont have any exciting secrets.

My child's name despite having met her!

That I have social anxiety so I never go to the Xmas or Summer party.

That their lack of support meant I'm talking to someone about a opportunity elsewhere.

How wild I was in my younger days... you'd not guess now but I was mental!

My colleagues don't know how very very grateful I am to work in my team.

In all of my previous jobs I was either micromanaged, bullied or in a dysfunctional team. I didn't realise how bad each of those workplaces were until I worked with my current colleagues. They are genuinely nice people and we look out for each other, work hard, get shit done and have a laugh in the process.

I thought that being 'professional' meant having to keep your head down, laugh off passive aggressive comments and do the best you could to avoid any blame.

I had zero work confidence before and my team have saved my self esteem and my career.

Perhaps I should tell them. It would be tricky without sounding like I was drunk at a work though

That I had a wild life in my teens and early twenties. They know I drink, but have no idea what I used to put away on a night out. They know I met DH, got engaged quickly and was married by 23, they don’t know about my relationships before then.

I work in a faith academy and seem very sensible and probably a little unadventurous. I don’t need to do that any more- already been there!

My OH is an alcoholic too 😪