What do your work colleagues not know about your life?

[cluelesscher]

Mine know I like my fitness/gym time but don't know just how much of a huge part of my life it is.

They don't know I was bullied out of my previous position.

They don't know that I have been home studying to further my career.

They know the main facts and goings on but not really the nitty gritty - e.g. how I feel about things/if something bothers me. For example, a little while ago I had the afternoon as annual leave because I needed a lump removed/biopsied. I was a bit concerned because the doctor didn't seem too optimistic and the procedure was not too pleasant. But that didn't really come up at work - it was either just a medical appointment or an afternoon off for the people who needed to know I wouldn't be there.

I’m a recovering alcoholic. They think I don’t drink because it gives me horrendous headaches after half a glass of wine.

Not currently working, but looking back I realise how little anyone actually knew about me.

They didn’t know my family background (titled).
Knew about one degree but not the other two.
That I attempted suicide because of the stress of the job. I was able to pass off the attempt as an accident/narrow escape and even returned to work that afternoon.
That I intensely dislike kids.
That I never watched television and actually didn’t own a TV for about 3 years. The ancient one I had chucked it and I just never bothered replacing it. Only got another one when OH moved in.
That I’m a classically trained singer.
That I read insanely quickly.
That I failed my driving test six times.
That I have knackered lungs and may well need a transplant in the future and take a cocktail of pills and inhalers to keep me functional.
That I have god-awful hallucinating nightmares almost every night.

In fact, they knew my name and the fact I was married and not much else!

That although I'm white, I'm not British and that my family still live in my home country.
Or that I'm married ( to a British man ) with kids and have been for the last 36 years.

The extent of my mental health issues. That I’m sometimes popping propranolol like smarties. They don’t know how much weight I have put on during lockdown. They also don’t know that I sued my previous employer for discrimination (and won!)

That I am currently having CBT due to OCD. I'm not embarrassed about the CBT but the OCD can be debilitating at times but I hide it very well and some of the things I can't hide I act as if it's an eccentricity of mine. It can be exhausting.

That my ex is serving life in prison for a double murder.

That I have cancer, that I know my H has cheated on me twice with a work colleague (she doesn't know that I know)

They are nice enough people but I am a very private person and choose not to be the subject of gossip or pity.

That I've just been made redundant. I'm. On furlough so not sure the company will even bother to tell anyone there...

In a previous role I went through cancer treatment without anyone knowing. Surgery and follow up treatments all done with holiday time booked off. I couldn't bear the pity. I'm clear now and no regrets how I handled it

That i'm a functioning stoner, pretty much during every work call.

And it's really no big deal having sex at work (unless your work in a prison).

That I’m in so much pain some days, I go to the loo to cry. That I have MH issues.

That I'm still married. They've assumed I'm not and that OH is useless (the last bit is true)

That I was unmarried when I had my daughter. I have lied about the date I married.
That's how messed up my mother made me over the shameful thing I had done.

That my MH is worse than people realise and I struggle every day with the most mundane of tasks, also that it makes me feel quite ashamed of how weak I am 😔

I can sympathise MaMisled

Having repeated this on an earlier thread, a colleague is someone you work with so ‘work colleague’ is a tautology!
Some of mine know lots, others next to nothing....

@MaMisled

That my house is a shithole. I'm in a senior position, smart, clean, fairly well groomed and professional.

I can totally sympathise MaMisled

Depends on the colleague. Some know just the basics about me, some know a bit more. One is one of my best friends so knows pretty much everything there is to know about me.

Most of my colleagues don’t know that I was pregnant and had a stillborn. I returned to work after 6 weeks and people kept asking me if I had a nice “holiday” assuming I’d been off on a long trip. Very bizarre but ultimately easier than telling people the truth.

That my husband lost his job during lockdown

That a colleague 17 years younger has been trying to have sex with me for 5 years (maybe he doesn’t know my true age!)

That I grew up in a council flat

That their pleasant, middle aged, sensible colleague is actually shagging someone young enough to be her son!

They don’t know that the reason I’m constantly having my nails and feet done is because I sell feet pics, worn socks, stockings and panties and that’s how I paid for my new car.

That I'm a gender critical feminist who knows that trans women are men.

I'm fairly open and quite eccentric, I think people give away more than they realise.

Everyone at my work knows I had PND, I didn't work for eight years and told them in my interview.

Also I had a ruptured ectopic, it happened at work and I collapsed and paramedics came to the office, I was in and out of consciousness in a meting room with internal bleeding. Thank goodness I had told a woman in HR I was pregnant, she called the ambulance and told them I was pregnant and I had a full blood transfusion. Since then I've not been to bothered about revealing my personal details.