What do your work colleagues not know about your life?

[cluelesscher]

Mine know I like my fitness/gym time but don't know just how much of a huge part of my life it is.

They don't know I was bullied out of my previous position.

They don't know that I have been home studying to further my career.

Quite a lot really but the main things are:
That I feel really insignificant and massively unappreciated and hate every shift I work.
That I actually have no real friends.
That since my mum and dad died, I no longer have any extended family and feel extremely lonely and miserable most days (despite having two wonderful dd's and a dp).

How much I’m struggling at home :,(

I don’t usually comment on here but yours made me want to let you know just how important you are. It’s easy for me to say, but where you are now is not where you will always be. I obviously don’t know your situation but I’m sure there are people in your life that would be devastated if you were gone. I too sometimes go through depressive phases but I know that life won’t remain the same, things will change, life can change. You can find your joy back. Please look at the Hickman emotional chart and try everyday to get to the next. You will get there. I don’t even know you but you matter to me. You deserve to enjoy what is already a short life, there is beauty everywhere, first look in the mirror and you’ll see. And if all else fails, just remember my username

@Grumpbum123 sorry, I didn’t @ you in my above response to you. 😘

How on earth is having sex in the boardroom ‘vile’? Not hurting anyone is it. ‘Vile’ would be pissing on your colleagues keyboard. Lighten up ffs. Hope you boardroom nymphs had a bloody good time 😁👍

Excuseforfghts do not feel embarrassed about getting divorced. I'm getting divorced after nearly 40years of marriage. I'm not embarrassed just relieved to be getting out of a relationship that died years ago. You have to live your life not theirs and if living it means without them so be it. Enjoy your new found freedom and if you do want someone in your life (I dont) then I hope the right person cones along. Goid luck. As for work colleagues I'm an open book with my close colleagues too old to hide stuff plus I like to shock😂

How shit my life actually is my family not my children I may add but my parents, brother and Nan all treat my terribly.

That I was in a horribly abusive relationship screaming inside for help and no one knew, forced to have an abortion and had to come to work the the next day, I worked in a school and one of his triggers was if my DD had a male teacher he’d start and I knew she’d have PE the following day so forced myself into work so I could collect her, I remember going into Morrison’s and crying in the disabled toilet trying to clean myself up and layer up pads so I wouldn’t leak, it was so heavy I could hardly walk. But it was better than getting a slap.

In my old job, (before abusive arsehole) life was much better. No one knew that I even though I said I wanted to be trainer for new recruits I was actually just meeting the instructor for non teaching purposes, this went on for a while.

@smilingontheinside thanks that’s good advice In theory I would love to meet someone else and have children, at the moment my self-esteem is so low. I’ve always found it hard to confide in people in RL which hasn’t helped. MN has been great for me.

@WobblyLondoner

That at home I unwind watching Buffy :)

Are you my husband? 😳

I’d be very very wary of having sex at my workplace, there are security cameras everywhere! Even if you are not actually caught you don’t know who’s watching, and even if they don’t report you they might share the footage online.

That I have an eating disorder.

I don’t admit it to anyone. It has impacted my work and I’ve had some very bad days but work hard/smart enough the rest of the time to be considered a top performer.

Honestly I bore myself with it.

That I really do not care about the organisation I work for and I am solely staying to get maternity pay.

@FrippEnos that made me giggle

@cluelesscher

Out of interest, are you being cagey about fitness etc because it’s an addiction?

@Grrrpredictivetex I'm definitely not! But glad I'm not alone.

Was once involved with a spiritual sect (not quite a cult but travelling in that direction)

That I had an abortion as a teenager.

Some members of the team know more than others, but we have worked together for about 20 years so I feel we all know a fair bit about each others' lives - very disabled partners, affairs, abusive relationships, mental/relationship breakdowns, family deaths, casual drug use (as well as happy things in life). We have all cried in front of each other. I feel its a healthier place for us being aware of our ups and downs. Its not perfect, sometimes there is a level of bitchiness, but I know if the chips were down they would be there for me and vice versa.

One colleague suggested another (who has abusive partner) secretly move into her house. Genuine offer.

Nothing. I’m actually a very open person. I can get chatting to a complete stranger at a bus stop and tell them my life story! There is no information about myself that I could imagine ever wanting to keep private.

They know nothing about me. I actually get a bit annoyed when somebody random knows my name.

That I have Bipolar 2.

It's extremely well controlled and I haven't told them, not because I'm worried what they will think of me but because I'm worried what I will think of them when they react poorly: generally when I tell people I get 1 of 2 reactions:

"Oh!" with upwards inflection and a friendly raising of eyebrows accompanied by a smile indicating a positive view "wow, how interesting tell me more".

Or "Oh" with a downwards inflection and furrowing of brow indicating "oh no, I don't like the sound of that at all".

And quite frankly I'm sick of being disappointed in people so it's easier not to tell them and risk thinking poorly of someone I actually liked.

None of them know what I wear outside of work- they assume I dress as smartly the rest of the time.
None of them know why I left my previous job before coming to my present employer.
None of them knew about a relationship I had for over two years. I was called once when I was in flagrante!

Living and working in London it is easier to keep work and the rest of life separate.

Lighthearted but true.

They don’t know that l often don’t wear knickers to work in the warm weather.

That I have no respect for the constant wokefest that is gradually turning me into someone who is slightly to the right of Genghis Khan and that I find all my colleagues boring. They probably feel the same way about me!

There is very little I don’t know about my colleagues unfortunately - they are massive oversharers! I think it’s a generational thing TBH. I am a grumpy old woman.

There seems to be a trend to share lots of information about health and sex life these days, which is probably a good thing in some ways, but there are still real taboos that are never spoken about, such as family members in prison and so on, which is very strange given is it about a third of men in this country have a criminal record?

I'm a closed book at work. I'm gay but because I have 2 children they assume I'm straight.
I had a very abusive childhood.. I have a criminal record for something my ex did and I was so frightened of him, I confessed and have lived with the shame for nearly 20 years