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What do your work colleagues not know about your life?

273 replies

cluelesscher · 26/08/2020 11:12

Mine know I like my fitness/gym time but don't know just how much of a huge part of my life it is.

They don't know I was bullied out of my previous position.

They don't know that I have been home studying to further my career.

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Redwinestillfine · 26/08/2020 23:32

Most things. Not sure why they should....

managedmis · 26/08/2020 23:36

That I'm this straight laced, vanilla English girl.

managedmis · 26/08/2020 23:38

I think some people honestly think I'm a minor royal 😂

Foghornleghorn99 · 26/08/2020 23:41

That i love porn, I'm a dirty bitch, I suffer with depression and insecurities, I hate the way I look in all aspects, i have an ASD DH, I do literally everything at home, I have a second job, my ASD son verbally abused me and I wanna emigrate abroad

managedmis · 26/08/2020 23:42

God who gives a shit about someone having sex at work!

InconvenientPeg · 26/08/2020 23:43

That I've been made redundant whilst on furlough. My redundancy isn't due to covid, and hasn't yet been announced so it's all a bit weird.

That I'm properly fed up of them thinking that I'm happy to listen to their work issues for hours when I don't manage any of them and we're supposed to be having a work meeting (obviously pre furlough, bit definitely one thing I won't miss!).

Pineapples1980 · 26/08/2020 23:47

@GrandTheftWalrus same here I’ve had two this year and none of my colleagues know, mainly due to me working all the way through with both

sitckmansladylove · 26/08/2020 23:55

I used to have a casual bit of fun Wink with a man (going on for a good while) that ended. New girl starts work taking about her wedding. Yes. It was him. I ended up at the wedding Blush.
They all think I am very boring I think but I'm not. I just keep myself to myself at work.

Histrionicz · 27/08/2020 00:04

What’s really in my bank account.

DishingOutDone · 27/08/2020 00:17

@candycane2019

That I've endured years of on/off emotional abuse from my husband and it has over time chipped away at my self confidence and self belief to the point it is now severely affecting my MH and my ability to do my job 😢
Wow @candycane2019 - are you me? Sad

I am also barely concealing an eating disorder. I work for a faith based Charity which I have a huge respect for, but I am an atheist. I have other stuff but I am concealing that from MN too and too tired to namechange.

HerRoyalNotness · 27/08/2020 00:19

In the last long term job I had a few of the young pretty staff didn’t know I was married to the semi handsome engineer down the corridor

DukeOfEarlGrey · 27/08/2020 00:21

That I hate the job they think I’m excellent at because I’m being syematically undermined by a nasty senior colleague who has openly told me that she feels threatened by me and can’t see a place for me on the team (that I am on, to be clear). That she and a couple of her cronies have made my life so damn hard for the last couple of years that I plan to leave at the first post-COVID opportunity.

LunaLoved · 27/08/2020 00:25

I have worked in the same team for 19 years. They don't know that several years ago I won 2.8m on the lottery or that my panic disorder is crippling me.

simitra · 27/08/2020 00:51

Im self employed now and no longer have work colleagues. When I did I kept my work and personal life separate. I went into the office, did the job I was paid for and came home to my real life. I was polite and civil to my work colleagues but never got involved. I very rarely went on nights out or social events. In the same way I dont get involved with neighbours. Most of mine dont even know my surname and thats ok.

Dontmakemegoback2office · 27/08/2020 00:57

That my house is untidy (I use zoom virtual backgrounds for good reason)

OMG yes. Also I have my room carefully arranged. Staged even. Everything from about desk height downwards is an absolute tip.

Dontmakemegoback2office · 27/08/2020 00:58

@simitra

Im self employed now and no longer have work colleagues. When I did I kept my work and personal life separate. I went into the office, did the job I was paid for and came home to my real life. I was polite and civil to my work colleagues but never got involved. I very rarely went on nights out or social events. In the same way I dont get involved with neighbours. Most of mine dont even know my surname and thats ok.
What do you do self employed?
PattyPan · 27/08/2020 02:44

That I want to have a baby ASAP and take a year of maternity leave followed by a year career break 🤣 but also that I have PCOS so it probably won’t be simple
Most people don’t realise I have a (fairly minor) physical disability
That I was severely depressed as a teenager and have a lot of self harm scars. I actually changed my routine of going swimming at lunchtime because my manager started going too and I didn’t want him to see although to be fair I’m sure I wouldn’t want to see him in a speedo either!

SeaMayweed · 27/08/2020 03:25

@candycane2019 and @Florial Flowers Flowers

garlictwist · 27/08/2020 05:29

I started a new job at Christmas. I share an office with two people. I tried all the usual small talk, get to know you stuff - asked them about their families, themselves etc. Got a few one word answers but no one has EVER asked me about me. So I would say the answer is nothing, other than I have a bike because I sometimes cycle to work.

BameChange123 · 27/08/2020 06:53

That I have another p/t job as well as my day job. New job is infrequent but pays well. That I plan to retire early (in the next year or so) but waiting to see whether voluntary redundancy is on the cards on the day job. I'm the scapegoat outsider in my team and of the many teams I've worked with they are the most dysfunctional EVER!

FallingOffTheBed · 27/08/2020 07:01

That I am really wealthy and work (in a low paying job) just to save money for holidays. DH inherited alot of money, and I work to prove to him that I am not just happy to take his money and his family's money. He is very frugal though and so my wages essentially go towards what I want to spend money on- trips away mostly for me and the DC as DH is a home bod.

We live in a lovely house which I never talk about and it might be that they twig a bit because DH has not worked for 15 years and our DCs go to provate school which clearly I can't afford on my salary.

I feel so grateful for our good fortune, and thank the universe every day. I dod not take it for granted but when my colleagues talk about their worries about making the mortgage or car repairs etc I feel really humbled and guilty.

Tomatoesneedtoripen · 27/08/2020 07:04

@Florial

That my husband is an alcoholic and I never can be sure what I'm going home to.
same Sad
Mummadeeze · 27/08/2020 07:15

I am a terrible over sharer so my colleagues know most things about me. I often wish I could take back some things I have told them though.

Rainbowsoup · 27/08/2020 07:15

This is crazy how much people don’t know.

Think everyone knows pretty much everything about me Blush

drspouse · 27/08/2020 07:19

How aggressive my DS can be and that he was excluded from his previous school (several of them know he has ADHD, and TBH he's a lot better than he was). I think most of them live in cloud cuckoo land where you get help from the NHS and the school system and your DCs problems are solved.
That I was fired from my second proper job in the industry (I was there very briefly - glad I didn't stay TBH - and I don't put it on my CV).

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