What do your work colleagues not know about your life?

[cluelesscher]

Mine know I like my fitness/gym time but don't know just how much of a huge part of my life it is.

They don't know I was bullied out of my previous position.

They don't know that I have been home studying to further my career.

I said we didn't wipe down, not that there were bodily fluids everywhere. The whole premises are cleaned every evening and not everyone leaks bodily fluids freely

Maybe your partner struggles sexually when you have sex but generally during sex the aim is for the man to leak bodily fluids. Hopefully you'll have a better experience next time but somewhere more appropriate.

It's even more disgusting that you left it for the cleaners to clean up.

Sex is not vile, doing it work is inappropriate, doing it without cleaning up afterwards is vile, yes.

@starfishmummy

Hotel sheets are washed between guests.

Why are you assuming that all hotel guests who have sex, have it on (?in?) the bedsheets!!

I didn't, the point that I replied to gave hotel sheets as an example so ask the PP.

@OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow It’s not mh. I’m hiv+ and live in a small town, work in a school. My head knows because I had to shield early, that’s it.

In the U.K., if your HIV is well controlled (UD) on meds, decent CD4 (or no longer taken) then there was no need to shield. There’s been nothing to show we’re any higher risk than the general population.

Guidelines were for only those with a detectable viral load, CD4

They think I'm very proper and probably a bit naive. And straight.

They also don't know all about my mental health issues.

I don't hide any of it, it's just never come up in conversation.

That I’m planning on retiring in 3 years time.
They think I’ve got 10+ years to work.

That at home I unwind watching Buffy :)

Who my husband is - which is quite surprising when you know he is another of my colleagues...(he knows he’s my husband)

he knows he’s my husband 😂😂

More seriously, they don't know quite what a car crash my early education was. I suspect many think I'm classic private school and Oxbridge whereas in reality I scraped through O levels at a comp, failed my A levels and went to a poly. Nothing I'm remotely ashamed of and something I'll happily talk about - but as someone v senior in my 50s it rarely comes up.

😉

@trodinaboris

I said we didn't wipe down, not that there were bodily fluids everywhere. The whole premises are cleaned every evening and not everyone leaks bodily fluids freely

Maybe your partner struggles sexually when you have sex but generally during sex the aim is for the man to leak bodily fluids. Hopefully you'll have a better experience next time but somewhere more appropriate.

It's even more disgusting that you left it for the cleaners to clean up.

Sex is not vile, doing it work is inappropriate, doing it without cleaning up afterwards is vile, yes.

Have you ever heard of a condom @trodinaboris?

@tangycalligrapher

Me too! But the boss, not a colleague. And no wiping down

That's truly vile. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

I guess you can’t buy class

@WobblyLondoner - quite similar here! I am very good friends with someone senior in another branch of my office. Everyone thinks we met at Oxford, when in reality I have no qualifications. I’ve even had people say what college I went to and what I studied! It’s like Chinese Whispers that got out of hand. I’ve given up correcting people because no-one will listen or believe me. I’ve even had people say that their husband remembers me from Oxford (linking me with friend in other office).

That I’m married. I don’t wear a wedding ring but married for 25 years. I just refer to him as ‘partner’.

Literally nothing. My BFF is also my business partner and she knows more about my life than I do.

@Emeraldshamrock

but I’m so embarrassed to have failed at my marriage Jez don't be embarrassed you're not alone

I manage a small team. If one was having any life changing event, I’d want to know so I could help them if Though I’d absolutely respect their decision if they choose not to mention it.

Whatever they tell me is in confidence and no judgment, just ‘how can we sort stuff so it works for all of us‘

It Certainly isnt shameful. (And as i recently found out,not always even sad. A mate mentioned he was in the middle of a divorce i was a bit surprised, as I hadn’t seen it coming and commiserated. He laughed and said, don’t be sad. It’s absolutely the right thing for us. Our lives move on)

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon

That I have Asperger's.

Same here

Mine know everything. I talk too much.

That I'm 18 weeks pregnant. Well some do, we've all been WFH since March and a few I have not really been in contact with so they don't know I'm pregnant.

That I'm an even bigger dork/nerd/geek than all of them put together (and I work in IT)

Anything at all about my sex life
Not much about my relationships
Nothing about my financial situation
My struggle with depression
My lack of confidence (imposter syndrome)
That I occasionally drink too much
I’m the boss and try to stay professional but friendly and approachable

[quote tangycalligrapher]@user1493201810

Why is it vile?

Would like to go into a meeting and sit at a table with other people's bodily fluids on it? I prefer my meetings to be in rooms without semen and vaginal discharge on the table but hey-ho, we all have different ideas of what is acceptable.[/quote]
What the eye doesn't see, the heart won't grieve over.

That I’m dyslexic. I once told someone at work and I got bullied for it. Now I just work extra hard and for extra hours so that no one knows.

That I am an incredibly anxious and shy person, who uses humour and sarcasm to mask how scared I usually am 95% of the time.
That I am dyslexic and struggle with easy tasks, time management, short term memory etc. I manage and hide it well

That I studied at a fairly prestigious drama school, and that I used to go out with a now very famous actor.