how old were you when you had your children

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I had ds1 at 21 ds2 24 ds3 at 28. Did you feel too old or too young? Or was the age just right for you. I feel that it would have been better for me if I had had my first at 28.

39 DS1
40 DS2
43 DD1

With the right person, at the right time.

28 and 32, might go for one more at 35/6.
Perfect time and age for me. Although If I could guarantee the exact DC again, I wouldn't have minded say 26/30 or 27/31 as I feel 35/36 is a bit old for me.

Had DD at 18, and DS at 23.

I'm 38 now, and they are 15 and 20. My daughters uni friends have commented to her about having a young Mum, she has replied she doesn't know any different. The majority of her closest friends parents are late 50's, early 60's.

18 & 28 for me. I don't regret my ds by any stretch but gave up amazing education opportunities when I found out I was pregnant. His dad is a complete waste of space even to this day. I always say to my younger siblings live your life young first as its hard. Go and travel. Make mistakes. Live a bit 1st. I felt much more prepared at 28 and was in the right relationship.

28

I was 31 when I had DS and currently pregnant again at 33. I started trying for DS at 28 and although I certainly wouldn't have asked for the miscarriages that make it take that long, I'm actually glad I was 31 not 28 - life changed a lot in those three years as friends moved out of the city, settled down, etc. At 28 we were still having wild nights out and texting each other saying 'pub? 15 mins?', by 31 that had really fizzled out. I think if I'd had him at 28 I'd have felt like it was motherhood that ended those carefree days while by 31 it was clear life was changing anyway.

32 and 35. Bang on average amongst my friends and felt good timing. Career well established for both me and DH so I could go back to a job that more than covered the cost of childcare. My only regret is that DDad died when DS2 was 1 (comparatively young at 69). But he would have been quietly horrified if I’d had DC much younger...and was a similar age when I was born.

30, 31 and I'm now 35 expecting another. I always wanted to have children at a young age, I ended having my first older than I'd expected but now I realise it was a good age, I was more ready and settled and I had enjoyed my twenties being child free

22 and 28. Still very happy about it. Don't need to explain or elaborate.

45 A surprise but no less welcome.

Ds is 12 now. I feel fine, no problems so far but I have consciously worked hard to stay fit so I don't get tired, and can keep up with cycling and running around.

I don't have a mortgage anymore which helps.

27 and 30. Too young for me- felt like a teen mum and just wasn’t ready- so suffered badly with anxiety and PND. Would’ve waited until after 30 to have my first if I could do it again. But only a minor regret.

26 and 28. At the time I felt I was old enough to but looking back I wish I had waited until 30ish

35 and 40. I wish I’d had them early 30s, but I’d only just met DP and probably wasn’t ready anyway. I’m one of the older mums at school but not the oldest. I’m quite a regretful person though, so I’d probably also have regrets about my twenties and career being affected if I’d had them then.

Either have them youngish or have them oldish.

In your 20's and you will loads of time child free once you pass 45ish.

In your mids 30's to mid 40's you would have have loads of time child free in your 20's.

Personally I'd hate to have an under 10 Yr old at my age (46). Mine are now 30 and 18.

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Was going as none of my friends were having babies. But equally now, I’m mid 40s and they’re either adults, or almost adults and that’s great. I wouldn’t have changed anything

I was mid 20s with both of mine. So I can kick them out in my 40s to travel the world

Yeah i agree @onceuponalorry

I'm 38 and often think, wow, if I'd had my DC when I was 20, they'd be adults now. I still feel really young and my social circle definitely does so I don't think it would have been awful.

I also wouldn't want to be in my late forties with primary aged DC. Mine will be 19 and 17 when I'm 45.

Different strokes for different folks I guess.

The one thing I'm always about is women who have children when they're very young ie late teens or early twenties then have more children in their thirties or forties. This always seems like madness to me. I mean, the DC had grown up, you were free and now you're back at square one. I wouldn't want to spend my twenties, thirties, forties and fifties with young children to look after. I know a woman who had DC when she was a teen, in her twenties, thirties and has had two more at 42. Seems hellish to me.

29 and 33. Just right.

Had DD at 26 last year. All the women in my family have had children in their 20s, which is lovely as it means DD has a relatively young doting great-grandma! Hoping by my 40s I will be able to go travelling, take fancy holidays etc and that I will be a young grandparent myself (if the time comes).

I do understand people that want to do travelling, holidays etc first, but I think you pay a heavy price down the line - it must be knackering having small children at 45, plus elderly parents that are too old to really help out etc.

But everyone is different and has different priorities.

22 and 26. No regrets, I was broody for as long as i can remember. I'm 28 now and would still love more DC.

30 with DD and ttc no 2 at 32. I'm definitely glad I enjoyed my 20's first and think it was good for DH and I as a couple to have some us time before kids but wouldn't of wanted to leave it much later than 30.

29 and 31

24 and 29. Glad I got it all out of the way young ! I worked much harder at my career after having DC1 (retrained) as she gave me that motivation. It's quite nice to know I can now go for FT, promotions etc whilst lots of the women in my workplace who have waited until my age now (early 30s) are now having to look at PT / coping on sleepless nights so I'm sneakily overtaking them 😂. I feel being a younger parent is tough at the time but comes into it's own later on. I love being the "young mum" at the school gates . But there is no right or wrong I have a fabulous group of mum friends of all ages and we have all had our children at different times and there are pros and cons to each.

18, 23 and pregnant now will still be 30 when I have her. Far too young with the first.

18 - Too Young, currently 30 and hoping for 2 closer together by the time I’m 35.