Neighbour leaned out of the window to look at me?

[Aqua2468]

I was vaping in the garden standing by my back door, had short shorts and a vest top on (I'm obese so would be very uncomfortable being seen) as no one can see into my garden otherwise.

My neighbour opened her upstairs window and leaned out of the window to look at me, I was on the phone so stared back, she looked very embarrassed and closed the window again.

Would you bring it up with her? I found it really strange she would even want to do that as she really has to stretch to see me.

"If my neighbour did that to me i'd be round there like a shot to punch her fucking lights out!"

This is one of those posts where I can't work out if it's sarcasm or not

Bloody hell, @isabellerossignol, where do you live?!?

How fucking dare they look at you.
Don't waste anymore time, get round there now and have it out with them
I would feel violated
The bastard

Where you're vaping is probably blowing the smell and smoke right into her house, no wonder she looked out. You should vape further away from her house. You're the inconsiderate ndn in this situation.

I wonder if the OP is one of those people who when in the playground used to come up to others and go "what you looking at?"

I sense the whiff of wind-em-up-and-wstch-em-go of which there have been many over the last few days. Dunno, the tickbox of smoking, neighbours, fat shaming inferred. The OP missed the "elderly" neighbour bit for the full house though.

Bloody hell, @isabellerossignol, where do you live?!?

My neighbours are lovely, and I live in the sort of place where a neighbour having a chat with you or asking you to take in a parcel is not intrusive or terrifying or cheeky.

But some of the posts on Mumsnet (not this thread, but in general) make me wonder if I'm the one who lives somewhere strange and the rest of the country are constantly actually screaming at each other and fighting with their neighbours!

Look, we're treating it like a big joke, but OP is actually going out of her way to discourage people from looking out of the window to see what smoke and vapour (which can look similar to smoke from a distance) are. Even if OP is not sincere in her post, she could indirectly do a lot of harm. House fires happen. Arson aside, almost none of them start off small. Children die in house fires. It's reasonable to suppose that some of them could have been rescued if someone was alert to the fire a bit earlier.
And I am quite fat and very, very ugly OP. I accept however that I don't have a right to invisibility, however much I might wish to actually be invisible.

What time were you in the garden talking on your phone, was it late at night or early in the morning. I sometimes glare out of the window at my neighbours when they're stood out on the street having loud conversations at stupid o'clock in the morning or late at night, it makes them feel uncomfortable and they fuck off then!

Yes I think you should bring it up with her and then report back to how that conversation went.