Neighbour leaned out of the window to look at me?

[Aqua2468]

I was vaping in the garden standing by my back door, had short shorts and a vest top on (I'm obese so would be very uncomfortable being seen) as no one can see into my garden otherwise.

My neighbour opened her upstairs window and leaned out of the window to look at me, I was on the phone so stared back, she looked very embarrassed and closed the window again.

Would you bring it up with her? I found it really strange she would even want to do that as she really has to stretch to see me.

At least log it with the police and keep a diary

Wot no diagram, OP?

Be glad, she either smelt your vaping or heard you talking so she checked what it was, at least she bothered, if there was a thief etc in your garden she could have raised the alarm. I think your post is because you are uncomfortable with the idea that she seen you in your shorts and vest top, if you had been dressed in trousers and shirt would her looking out have bothered you?

OP, is it possible that she was going to talk to you and then realised you were on the phone?

Why do YOU think she was looking at you?

Hahaha are you ok OP

@QueenArseClangers

Have you logged it with 111?

Why would she log it with the NHS?!

I’m a proper nosey bugger - sorry!

So.... She opened her window and leaned out because she wanted some cooler air, maybe she felt hot with the window closed??

*Aqua2468

😂 pathetic*

I'm guessing you forgot to name change before commenting on your own troll thread. Who's being pathetic now?

@KrisAkabusi I think OP meant we are all somehow pathetic for the sarcy replies

My neighbour regularly hangs out of her window to look into our garden. I still can’t work out what’s so interesting but she isn’t embarrassed when she’s ‘caught’ so I know how frustrating it is feeling there are eyes on you in your own private space. I’m sure she won’t do it again now she’s been seen so just avoid looking in her direction in future.

I think OP meant we are all somehow pathetic for the sarcy replies

Unlike the utterly non-pathetic OP, who is freaking out because someone looked out of a window at her.

You would be making a non-issue an issue by bringing it up with her OP, and I dare say would embarrass yourself.

A bit of curiosity and a look out her own window is hardly a problem, she hardly stayed there watching. Why would you 'stare' at her as opposed to just minding your own business? I dare say she probably wondered what the distasteful smell was as I so often do when he neighbours vape/smoke/whatever and lack the courtesy to do it at the bottom of rhe garden away from others windows. We don't all want our houses and curtains smelling like a chemical spill in a poundland perfume factory or an ashtray (for the smokers) because of someone elses life choices. Not do we want to breathe in second hand anything.

Good grief this is the most MN problem ever.
She was looking to see where the smell or the chattering was coming from. She probably just got a big a shock as you.

I see that the OP hasn't been back

shock. Horror.

I see that the OP hasn't been back

WHY WERE YOU EVEN LOOKING AT THE OP, THAT'S SO UNREASONABLE!

Gosh, pooopy.

I would move ASAP if I were you OP.
Looking today, tomorrow it will be hello and before you know it she will be asking to borrow a cup of sugar.
Who knows where it will end.

If my neighbour did that to me i'd be round there like a shot to punch her fucking lights out!

I’m so confused

Op, really. Being an intrusive starer is being like my former late fifties male neighbour. He sat by our wall which was on a hill, around 100 metres from his own home, looking into our garden and kitchen window. He only ever wore tiny shorts. Just yuk. Final straw was when my girls stopped using their own garden because of him.

I was going to have a word but before I could they turned the hose on him. I was expecting him or his wife to come round and furiously berate us. But nothing. They worked out how it looked.

Have you called 999 yet?

I was brought up living in a terrace with tiny gardens with VERY high walls. You would have to go to incredible lengths to see anyone in their garden. However, about 15 years after we left, I ran into the son of my next door neighbour who was about 8 years older than me. We were in the pub and he was quite drunk, so he told be that his favourite thing on a sunny day was to watch me in the garden in my bikini. He went on to describe this bikini in great detail, along with other worryingly specific information. Really creepy because we moved from that house when I was quite young.

I suppose the lesson here is that you should always assume that you can be seen. Don't wear shorts and a tank top in the garden.

@NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1

If my neighbour did that to me i'd be round there like a shot to punch her fucking lights out!

This is one of those posts where I can't work out if it's sarcasm or not.

D'you know, OP - thinking about it, most of my neighbours have had their windows open recently too.

I naively assumed that they just wanted some fresh air, but after reading about your ordeal and the campaign of harassment your neighbours have subjected you to, I'm now not so sure.