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If you are overweight, what, in your opinion, made you that way?

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SistemaAddict · 19/08/2020 09:31

There's been lots of threads recently about weight inspired by the government trying to crack down on obesity yet encouraging us to eat out and posters bemoaning the lockdown lard/pandemic pounds. There has been lots of discussion about the causes of obesity or being overweight due to societal and financial factors but I wanted to ask what posters think made them either overweight or obese because reasons will vary. Certain medications and conditions can cause weight gain and/or make it harder to lose weight and the peri-menopause/menopause doesn't help.

I stopped breastfeeding a year ago and my appetite didn't return to normal after stopping so I gained weight. Then my asthma was bad from October onwards and my ability to go on bike rides was limited. Then lockdown and shielding and my 5 mile school hike up and down big hills went out of the window and I ate too many biscuits and chocolate and would eat in the evening while reading or watching tv. I gained around a stone and that took me into the overweight category.

In June I decided enough was enough and started 16:8 and limited myself to around 1250 calories a day. I bought a fitbit and started using my fitness pal. Both encouraged me to go on walks with the dc and to take more trips up and down the stairs than were necessary to meet my target of 25 flights a day. I stopped eating after dinner, watched my portion sizes and cut out most of the junk I was eating. I'm now a normal weight with a BMI of 24. I'm carrying on with my healthier lifestyle and improved habits but it's hard especially in the evenings when I want chocolate. My aim is to get to a BMI of 23 as that is where I look and feel best.

I don't want this to be a judgemental thread, or for anyone to fat shame posters, I just wanted to share my own reasons for weight gain and ask others' experiences because it's a very individual thing beyond "too many calories in vs calories out" and it can be very complex.

OP posts:
SchrodingersImmigrant · 19/08/2020 09:34

Me, myself and I.

No one made me eat the portions I did.

Justpassingthroughagain · 19/08/2020 09:36

Eating donuts to stop the influx of suicidal thoughts.

Sugar affects my mood more than ADs but has a different unfortunate set of side effects than losing sexual function....

SnuggyBuggy · 19/08/2020 09:37

For me stress eating, lack of my usual distractions during lockdown and an addiction to bad food.

It's why I'm cynical when people suggest that all we need to do is educate people. I know how to prepare healthy food and lose weight safely I'm just not motivated to do so right now.

Littlegoth · 19/08/2020 09:37

Cake and wine

HugeAckmansWife · 19/08/2020 09:37

Boredom snacking on savoury stuff late at night when the kids are in bed, alcohol and being a single parent, working full time who doesn't want to eat fishfingers at 5pm with the kids but doesn't want to buy and cook two types of dinner, hence snacking. Life basically.

Sunnydaysandsalad · 19/08/2020 09:37

After my emcs at 35 weeks pregnant I had a suspected heart attack.. Testing showed it wasn't thank goodness. Further check ups over the next year made me too scared to be as active as I have always been. Always bounced back to size 8/10 post dc.
Then a forced house move and extreme stress - and dh's cooking ! - saw me eating way too much and too late at night.
Roll on 5 years and size 12 /14 and very miserable...
Covid 19 hasn't helped as am not doing my active work...
Mentally I feel as rubbish as I look..
Sad

LimitIsUp · 19/08/2020 09:38

I've gained weight recently because I have plantar fasciitis, which means I can't weight bear on my feet for too long before my right food starts aching and hurting like a bitch

My activity levels have gone done drastically and my alcohol consumption has gone up

Here I am 28lbs later

Ifihadapoundd · 19/08/2020 09:38

I am over weight, to be the top of a healthy bmi I need to lose 5lbs but I am aiming for at least a stone.
My excuse is I had a baby, the truth is I had a baby and breast fed so told myself I could eat what ever I wanted as I needed it for my milk. I also have been having terrible trouble with my contraception so was telling my self that's why I wasn't loosing weight.
This is the second time I have done this! The first time I gained 5st in pregnancy and only lost two after giving birth. I had to work really hard and promised myself I wouldn't do it again 🤦‍♀️
I am doing the same this time as last time. Which is 1200 calories a day, and at home fitness DVD's. Also not snacking after tea and eating tea before DS's are in bed.
I get married in October so hoping I can do this 🤞

Worried74 · 19/08/2020 09:38

My father was a sexual predator, but didn't like fat girls. Being large was a protective default. Haven't seen him for over 20 years but I am still overweight, I have tried many times to lose weight but go into a panicked regression every time I try.

Bluewavescrashing · 19/08/2020 09:38

Sugar.

I'm now on day 3 of going sugar free. I'm prediabetic so needs must. It's actually fine now I've got my head round it.

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/08/2020 09:40

Yours was exactly "too many calories in vs calories out" and it’s good you’re now feeling better.

As you’ll have seen from the gazillions on weight loss lots of people have different reasons and people have shared them on those threads.

The government has been discounting eating out, not force feeding MacDonald’s into unwilling people... It’s possible to eat salad instead of chips. Always seems a strange argument.

merryhouse · 19/08/2020 09:40

I ate more and moved less. Basically.

I was mildly depressed (had no proper job, mother had died, living away from family and friends) and food is nice.

Since then it's a case of not wanting to be On A Diet and finding exercise difficult (I can walk all day, but ask me to take both feet off the floor at the same time and I'm collapsing within seconds; and my core is shot).

WeKnowFrogsGoShaLaLaLaLa · 19/08/2020 09:41

Two accidents in the space of a few years massively impacted my physical movements for a long period of time. I also separated from my long term partner and started a new relationship with someone who only ate junk food. The accidents I had no control over, but I did have control over my food intake and I obviously chose not to use it.

However, I'm free of all those limitations now and have lost almost 4 stone. I'm also doing TRE, exercising and am counting my calories. I eat better than I have ever done before - but the long term effects of my accident mean I have to. Being overweight and unable to exercise would massively limit my life as I grow older. That's been the difference for me. I've not lost weight to look good, I've lost weight to prolong my life and it's quality.

Summer41 · 19/08/2020 09:42

Lack of exercise, before Coronavirus I used to walk everywhere, since March I've been sitting in the house and the weight has piled on. I've tried going out for a daily walk but there's nowhere to go, just walking around the houses is boring!

I keep telling myself when this is all over I'll lose weight again.

GarlicSoup · 19/08/2020 09:43

Eating

SallyAlly2020 · 19/08/2020 09:44

Initially a break up that led to comfort eating and piling on pounds (from a size 12 to a 20) then just accepting my fate as a fat girl to do nothing about it for years and just being lazy.

Not being bothered to cook proper meals so eating junk, because I was eating junk, not having the energy to exercise.

Had a BMI of 39, have got it down to 30 from start of the year and now on a mission to get it to 25 by the end of the year.

Covid has been a big motivator.

Treaclepie19 · 19/08/2020 09:45

Emotional eating. Which does stem from the way my eating was as a child. My parents were very much into giving me chocolate as a cheering up device or distraction.
These days though I should know better.

bonjonbovi · 19/08/2020 09:45

I gave up smoking. I ate to mask the cravings.

Now I’m fat and want a ciggie

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 19/08/2020 09:45

Eating makes me happy.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 19/08/2020 09:45

I like food and dislike exercise.

SnuggyBuggy · 19/08/2020 09:45

Definitely lack of exercise. I don't have my own car so was always walking to take DD to her groups, parks, shops or to see friends. I did loads of exercise without having consciously plan it. If you don't enjoy exercise it makes a big difference when it's something you have to actually think about and make the effort to do.

I'm cautiously optimistic that when it cools down I'll do some more walks, I get so sweaty now.

EssentialHummus · 19/08/2020 09:46

I got a stressful job and my first home, which meant lots of nights in front of the sofa with bags of crisps and meals late at night. I have a pretty good metabolism but the weight crept up over time. An under active thyroid didn’t help, and that took time to get diagnosed. I’ve since lost the weight (24kg!) slowly and steadily using intermittent fasting.

olympicsrock · 19/08/2020 09:46

I really like food and wine. Don’t particularly enjoy exercise and have a busy stressful job.

PhilSwagielka · 19/08/2020 09:47
  • Citalopram
- Fibromyalgia - Metabolism slowing down - Emotional eating - Not exercising as much as I should
Busybusybust · 19/08/2020 09:47

I eat too much and don’t exercise enough. End of.

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