What has been the lowest point of your life?

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Could be anything - money, job, relationships

I'm feeling low about the way my life has gone since the coronavirus. Job will be over end of September and i'm worried about money and competition to find another job with the recession.

I've come from an abusive home; Child protection and all that. But when I lost my daughter at 19weeks, giving birth to her and doc performing a D&C without pain relief (or explaining what they were doing) because the placenta didnt come away, then almost bleeding to death. Has to be the most challenging time of my life!

@Awfullysaddm

Nc for this. The day my dd disclosed her db had been sexually abusing her. Having to ring the police knowing I had lost my ds forever.. Taking her with the police for video interview, having the driver stop the car every few miles so I could vomit on the roadside.. Not knowing or being able to know what exactly had happened until after the trial. Watching my dd's video statement after the trial haunts me still.. Living 10 years now without my ds... I wish he had died. At least I could grieve in public for my precious boy..

What an awful thing to happen

Being told there was nothing else they could do for my triplets.
After I traveled to the other end of the country in one days notice to have fetal surgery. After I did everything I possibly could to keep them safe. I went into early labour a few days later and they were born to early.

Took me 3 very dark years to come back from that.

My mum dying. All time low and everything else pales into insignificance.

Name change and sending love to all, such strength and endurance displayed here

Finding out my ex husband is a paedophile. Such a peculiar and overwhelming range of emotions, the darkness that unravels from one short conversation with a police woman.

I had breezed through financial hardships, marriage ending etc with ease and considered myself fairly resilient. Nope.

I think my biggest issue was, unlike other struggles in life, I didn't know anyone who had been through the same. No advice, nobody who could relate. I was faced with others' panic and their (almost but not quite hidden) revulsion, I felt tarnished by him.

I've come a really long way and back to being almost the same person. But I have a very much pre and post view of my life now.

@Awfullysaddm I cannot tell you how very sorry I am, I hope you are able to find peace

PND, which left me suicidal (I had planned how I would end my life) I've never been the same again, by god it really knocked me about. I have a 7 year old now and to think I nearly left my child motherless.
I crawled out of it and although I still suffer depression it's nowhere near what it was.

Exh breaking my arm, but that was the day I finally pick up baby dd and found the courage to run away from him, so I lost my home my husband and well everything really but I was safe.

Name changed for this.

Finding out my brother is a child sex abuser. He has huge mental health issues that he masked for years.

He also lied to cover up what he'd done. First time it was not long after I'd had DC1 and I tipped into PND, not that my parents noticed. I was so low, I contemplating driving my car at a tree.

Second time, a few years later he went to jail. He's now out but I can't visit my parents overnight with the kids any more as he lives with them.

I'm civil on the phone for the sake of peace but he has no idea what he has done in the bigger picture. I'm still so f*cking angry.

I probably need counselling.

Weirdly, because I have been through a lot, I think the last 12 months have been my lowest point.
I started a new job, which I absolutely hate. In reality it is nothing like it was sold to me. None of the benefits apply in reality. It is mind numbingly boring. Worse again we moved to the main location, giving me a commute of 2 to 3 hours every day. The main office has a horrible atmosphere. I spend my day in silence sitting at a desk wishing the day away.
I'm a lone parent and my job is not flexible at all and the commute makes my parenting life very difficult.
During this past year my ex brought me to court for parental alienation, accused me of abuse and all sorts. Absolute nightmare. Eventually ended in my favour. I have developed two autoimmune conditions. My ex told me that I deserve them.
Since covid I've been working from home and I see the immense positive impact on my life. On my children's lives too.
I've come out of my lowest point but I'm still quite low. I feel stuck. I cant return to my job but i need to live too. My health has been irreparably damaged.

First trimester.

Got pregnant sooner than I thought and covid happened at the same time. Our lives changed in a week. I was convinced I was gonna die. Spent all my day playing games and crying.

As time went on I felt better. Made an effort to take care of myself and started working out. Still terrified of birth and covid (combined) but I try to remain hopeful.

Finding out my partner had been having an affair whilst I was in hospital with our child who had been dx with cancer. I was struggling to hold down a job as had had no sleep for 4 years. I felt abandoned and isolated.

Mother and brother dying when I was 14, she was late 30s. And all the stuff that comes with it, the stuff she has missed out on etc. I know I'll never be truly happy but I have accepted that.

@Awfullysaddm That's so awful, my heart goes out to you

21 years ago. I nearly died giving birth to DS due to severe pre eclampsia and Hellp syndrome. Emergency c section. In hospital almost 7 weeks. Severely abusive DH who refused to help even change a nappy and would scream in my face if baby was crying or his food wasnt ready. I was in so much pain i couldnt even stand up and baby never slept and screamed all night. I begged family for help and was told i had to get on with it. Developed serious PND and was so exhausted i was hallucinating. I used to go days not speaking to anyone as DH would leave at 7 and come home at 8 and wanted to unwind so wouldnt speak to me. He then had an affair and that was my fault as i was always so miserable. I planned my death every single day and if my lovely HV hadnt spotted me sobbing in a waiting room i have no doubt i would be dead now.
This year. Dad constantly in and out of hospital at end of life. Died in March. Mum took all her pain and anger out on me while making sure nothing upset my brother or sister
Legal battle with garage after they broke our car, all this while dad in hospital
Adult ds lost his job and behaved so badly at home i had to get him to move in with his dad.
Diagnosed with grade 3 cancer, had all treatment, op, radiotherapy etc alone due to covid restrictions
Had very bad reactions to surgery and radiotherapy and was very ill indeed
During treatment DH ( who has bipolar) was made redundant and had a massive breakdown.
Enormous financial pressures. We cannot survive on sick pay so i have to go back to work even though im still very ill indeed.
All the way through my rehabilitation the house next door has been door a major refurb. Hammering and drilling constantly with no let up from 8-5 5 days a week. Im utterly exhausted but cannot sleep and alone with the noise all day.

About 4 months after my daughter was stillborn following a cord prolapse, I had a miscarriage and I got the news that it was likely to happen again because my husband has a chromosomal abnormality. For a long time, having a good day meant that I decided not to kill myself that day. A normal day would be thinking about how I would kill myself, and a really bad one involved more detailed plans and gathering the things I needed.

A very kind and understanding priest helped me through it. It took two years for me to feel just "normal" and several more to feel anything like I was getting some sense of self back and becoming able to make plans.

Working for friends who were treating me extremely badly and under-paying me, too. My fella dumped me over the phone from abroad. My mum being admitted for emergency surgery, for which the survival-rate was 20% (my sister’s a nurse). All in the same week. I thought I was going to die from the stress and the misery

@LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood

wise advice

@ODFOkaren bloody hell that sounds pretty horrendous. Did you re-marry? Hope your'e not in a shit show now.

My divorce
My mother dying
My baby dying in the womb

Time, talking, tears and acceptance that this too shall pass.

Wow reading these comments makes.me realise how minor my problems seem in comparison to others,
I send love to everyone

Where do I start let’s just say my life turned around after I hit 40 things got much better.

When I was in a weird limbo after ending my marriage.I found it scary to be alone with noone to look after me iykwim.It took a while to pull myself out of that,I felt very vulnerable.

This year hasn't been too special tbqh. Lost my Dad in April (16 months after my Mum). Having to try and sort everything out in the depths of lockdown. Realising just how much he and Mum hadn't been coping. Just wish they'd bloody SAID SOMETHING but it's far too late now obviously. Clearing 45 years' accumulated family stuff out of the house because why throw anything out when you can put more shelves up? 😣

My mum dying, she was diagnosed with cancer and died 7 weeks later, it was truly awful and I don't know how I'm ever going to move on from it.

Sending hugs to people with similar stories xx

Your problems are not minor. You have every reason to feel down. The difference between your situation and some others is that the issues you are dealing with are capable of being turned around. It is possible to say with some confidence that you have better times ahead.

When I realised my son has Autism. 8 years ago now but I will never forget the overwhelming feeling of despair. I never want to feel like that again.
He is 10 now, non verbal with severe learning difficulties. Lockdown has been hard with no school or respite and I still have bad days but nothing compares to that time.