What has been the lowest point of your life?

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Could be anything - money, job, relationships

I'm feeling low about the way my life has gone since the coronavirus. Job will be over end of September and i'm worried about money and competition to find another job with the recession.

When I was fired from a job I loved aged 22 due to my own stupidity - when my mental health was already in tatters.

I made a couple of mistakes at work which the company thought was very serious - long story short I was suspended and fired for gross misconduct.

I was naive enough to think I would return to work after being suspended. All for a couple of discounts given that apparently shouldn't have been given. I should have asked for "help" at the time, guidance etc rather than making these decisions myself. It was a painful but necessary lesson to learn.

But I got a new job and life goes on. To everyone else this might not seem like the worst thing to happen, of course worse things happen. But the humiliation, the scrutiny, the stigma of being fired, plus the poor mental health was... tough. It took me a while to get over it because I loved that job. But things worked out for the best... I'm sure it will for you too OP.

Had a relationship break down, he cleared the joint bank account and our house was repossessed as I couldn't afford it on my own. Went to my Mum's for a bit, got a splendid new job as I had to move far away from mine and now all ok.

PTSD, pnd and suicide attempts after difficult birth.

Obviously sad in itself, but also because it robbed me of such a happy time.

What made it better: counselling, therapy, an amazing GP, medication, a much better second birth. Sadly my DH wasn't much help with my recovery upon reflection.

Such a dark time when I look back on it.

TFMR at 22 weeks pregnant, handing my precious baby to a stranger and saying goodbye forever and coming home with my body telling me it had just given birth but having empty arms.

Shefliesonherownwings I cannot imagine

My baby girl being in NICU far away from maternity ward. I’d had a C Section so couldn’t walk as legs still numb and her father (ex DP) had gone home. Staff were too busy to take me but eventually someone said they would wheel me if I got off the bed. I dragged myself off. I was so alone and so frightened.

Custody battle for same child. Ex DP had called her a monster and said I’d ruined his life by having her and had nothing to do with her but the day I left him he demanded 50/50 and wouldn’t back down. Family court was terrifying.

I’ve had one very sad bereavement which was also awful but a different sort of awful.

Unmumsnetty hugs to the pp here who have lost children.

Seeing my young daughter hooked up to life support for weeks in intensive care after an infection almost took her life. Those smells, those bleeps still haunt me. It was like being in a nightmare situation where you expect to wake up but you don’t. She did wake up but has been left with a life-long condition which is managed with medication and a transplant.
Saying that, despite everything she is the light of my life along with my other kiddies.
I’m very very grateful for them because I also struggled with infertility which is another heart breaking situation I’ve lived, as a few on here know too well.
Love and light to everyone on here

To those who have lost a child, my heart goes out to you. I stood on the precipice of that cliff and it was utter hell looking down.

Now, dh 39 is dying of stage 4 terminal bowel cancer that came from nowhere last year, no symptoms or warning signs. Watching the man who owns my heart and soul suffering is heartbreaking, knowing our 3 children won't have their amazing daddy for much longer. He is and always be the very best person I know. I'm terrified of how I'm going to continue living without him. We have been together very happily for 25 years, we were childhood sweethearts and he will be the only man I will ever love.

Probably the day I had to close down and vacate the boutique I had lovingly built up from scratch after going into administration. It was such a wrench and I felt so disappointed in myself for failing. But that cloud had a silver lining. Running my own business was ten times more stressful and hard than being employed and I am now happily and successfully working in a good job with a regular salary. I look back on my shop owner days and shudder now at the uncertainty and problems I faced every day. Hopefully you will go on to bigger and better things too.

I'm going through it right now. Can't even bring myself to talk about it and am putting on a brave face but I'm broken.

Wow reading these comments makes.me realise how minor my problems seem in comparison to others,

I’m sorry but what did you expect? Just look at all the other threads on Mumsnet- domestic abuse, bereavement etc. You’re worried about your job and recession. Not dismissing it but there is always going to be someone worse off than you. You don’t need to ask people for their low points. It’s everywhere! There’s going to be parents who have lost their children.

The worst for me was my young cousin dying. Them not being here is incredibly sad but I’m more upset for my aunt and uncle who’s lost there son. I can’t imagine their pain. Not to mention my uncle is very ill, my aunt brother died young, her mum (grandma) also died young and her dad died as a child. I’m sure nothing trumps the loss of her son.

My life seems to be an endless amount of suffering. Bullying, strained relationships, bereavement. I get so angry when people who were very nasty to me have none of these problems. But it doesn’t take a second to think what it must be like for others. And whatever your problems are you will get through it I’m sure.

@loubieloo4
oh sweetheart my heart goes out to you. I can’t imagine how devastating it is. If it was my darling husband I’d be lost too. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Lost my ddad as a child. He was my best friend and understood me much more than my mum. It was horrendous at the time but I have led such a wonderful life as a grown up. I can’t help but think he is watching over me in some small way. I still miss him but I feel very lucky to have had such a great dad, even if it was for a short period.

Being bullied at 14-15 and the resulting school phobia.
Long term Ex dying suddenly at 30 of a heart attack.
When my Dad was diagnosed with Huntington’s disease, knowing it’s genetic, my DS was 1yo.
My stepfather committed suicide last year, it’s become apparent my DM has early stages of Alzheimer’s but is in denial. I think my carefree days are over tbh.

@Abendintheriver

Right now I'd have to say today. DH has left, I'm drinking way too much and drowning in debt. I also hate my job. I've made a GP appointment to address my drinking though and I'll work from there. And reading some of your stories has made me realise how lucky I am hoping it can only get better from here

I was you. Drowning in debt and drowning my misery and loneliness in cheap supermarket wine every night until I passed out. Please if you do one thing tonight, google Christians Against Poverty. They literally saved me, pardon the pun. It took a few years but I’m debt free and sober. Please look them up, it’s free, they’re a charity and the emotional/practical support is amazing.

Being cheater on and walked out on when my ex moved in with the other woman. Left to raise a 2 year old alone with no one to have him so couldn't even go to work the next day. Felt like I couldn't cope and seriously considered adoption as I was having a breakdown and my ex just disapeared. Had to sell by stuff to pay for nappies and not eat so my son could. Literally had to count how many slices of bread I had to make sure he could have a sandwich. Ex didn't see my son for 10 years. I survived it but am quite hard faced now where as before I was very timid. Mines not as bad as most of yours you lot are so strong.

The break up of my first proper adult relationship around age 22 and my dad dying just a few months later. I felt truly awful. Alone. Really bleak, rock bottom kind of feeling. Later that year I quit my job and went travelling, and came back in a much better frame of mind. I got an interesting new job, bought a house, threw myself into getting fit and things began to get better. I wouldn’t have wished those feelings on anybody. It taught me though that I can survive a lot of shit. And to not give up even though you feel absolutely like nothing will ever be good again. It will be.

So much pain that I could barely walk, had to sleep downstairs because I couldn't climb the stairs. Still having to work and try to be a wife and mother. When it was at it's worse, even morphine wasn't helping, I seriously thought about ending it and that my family would be happier without me

Starting college to the excitement and happiness of my family, not handing in any of the work on time, and the glorious conclusion in which I was booted out and spent the next two months wandering Glasgow in a mental fog instead of telling the truth to my parents.

Dating awful men and doing things I wouldn't normally do with people after my brother took his own life. Just thought "fuck it". Luckily I didn't get hurt

My dad dying suddenly in my 20s was a fairly low point. But I think the lowest has been now. 4 years of ttc with no success combined with a diagnosis of rheumatoid arthritis and spending most days in pain, struggling to do basic every day tasks.
Yeah. I feel pretty low most days.

While waiting for surgery to have a (thankfully benign) tumour removed, one of my team had a near-fatal accident, and a dear friend committed suicide. Two days after his funeral I came home from work to find my ‘D’P had packed up and moved out.
I survived by getting up in the morning and going to work, if I hadn’t had my job and a team to look after then I’d have got under the duvet and probably not come out for months. I still don’t remember huge chunks of that year.

Marriage had broken down, house was being sold and I was about to move into rented. I was lying in a blow up bed with a vomiting bug while the kids ran around downstairs - the phone rang to say the house sale was falling through. It did go through eventually!!
Or more recently.. husband and i has sat by MILs bedside as she died one evening. Came out into the hospital carpark to find we had a puncture.
Both spectacularly shit days.

for everyone who's having a hard time at the moment.

For me, there have been two really bad times.

The first was when my horrible, abusive ex got mad because our pets made a mess in the house. We were away at the time and he ditched me at the hotel, and drove home to "deal with" the pets. He shut them in the garden and told me he would kill them.

When I got home the next day, he had let them back in the house. I begged him to forgive me / them and, like the spineless fool that I am, stayed with him for another whole year.

Honestly cannot believe I did that. I feel like if he'd told me he'd murdered someone I would have said "right, okay then, what do we do next?" It horrifies me how much I was totally under the thumb.

The second is, several years after I finally left the guy, he got himself hired at the company I worked for. Rocked up to the office one day and there he was. Unbelievable. Can't believe it wasn't deliberately planned, but can't prove it. Brought all the unprocessed trauma right back to the surface.

After that I quit, re-thought my whole career plan and did a whole load of therapy. I'm actually happily married and looking forward to the future now, so things can better.