What has been the lowest point of your life?

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Could be anything - money, job, relationships

I'm feeling low about the way my life has gone since the coronavirus. Job will be over end of September and i'm worried about money and competition to find another job with the recession.

Sending hugs to all PPs. Mine was 23 years ago, pregnant and working overseas. Forced to choose between my fiancé or keeping the baby. Obviously chose the baby, then my father telling me I wasn't welcome back home in the UK as a single parent, so felt I had to stay overseas and keep working after six weeks' maternity leave.

Everything is great now but I will never really trust a man again.

I suffered a breakdown after my mother died. I couldn’t get out of bed, developed agoraphobia, quit my job. After 18 months I bought a ticket to travel and never returned. It just takes times.

When one of my children was depressed.

When my children were 5 and 2. My ex was cheating, he was spending every penny of family money on drinking, gambling and other women, he was verbally, financially, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive. He point blank refused to leave the family home and there was nothing I could do to make him as he never went far enough physically for the police to be justified in removing him. I came home from my parents one weekend and all our electrical goods had gone from the home - the TV, play station etc, also my eternity and engagement rings. I remember in that moment it was if I felt something in my mind go. I had a mental breakdown where I couldn't leave him as I wasn't capable of looking after my children. I was agoraphobic, couldn't sleep for more than twenty minutes at a time, couldn't eat, was was in a constant state of adrenaline surges, panic attacks and turmoil. I honestly didn't think I would survive it. There was a tiny part of my mind that was still me though and I remember saying to myself "on the day that I feel better, if I ever feel better, on that day, I will get him out of the family home". I did too.

April this year in lockdown. Single parent, stuck in a flat with no garden trying to entertain DS, furloughed with no idea if I would have a job to go back to. I'm back at work now, we can see friends and we've moved to a house with garden so life has improved a lot.

I've been lucky not to experience much death. My grandmother died a few years ago but not prematurely. I have been divorced but I was no longer in love with him so it was more a relief than anything.

An accident when I thought I was drowning

Having a abortion at 19. In retrospect I was talked into it. I will always regret it.

Subsequently my son nearly dying.

Realising my father didn't love his kids at all. I was quite young, but didn't accept it until into my 20s, when a lot of damage had been done.

Nearly going bankrupt 9 months after I left dh. He refused me maintenance.

Only a gift from a charity of £500 saved my skin eg o/draft limit £3k but over it and c/card with £10800k limit at over £11k.

Eleven years ago I was fired from my job, had horrendous housemates who had stolen from me, no friends, and was dumped by my boyfriend. I had to move back in with my parents who I didn’t get along with. I had no career, no work experience, no prospects, no boyfriend, no friends, and a lot of debt.

I applied for every job under the sun. Eventually I went for an interview, was spotted by someone hiring for a different, extremely interesting and surprisingly well paid role, which they offered to me. I moved for the job, made new friends, and met my now husband through them.

Ten years later I’m senior within my industry, have one DD and another on the way. A lovely husband, large group of friends, I couldn’t be happier.

I wouldn’t have any of this had I not gone through the lowest point of my life. It has also made me more resilient. I know if I can survive that I can survive anything.

When my son was 10 and he suddenly stopped coping at school, turns out he is autistic and couldn't mask any longer. He couldn't express himself and he was treated as a naughty child for not wanting to be at school rather than adults realising there must be something seriously wrong.

Life was so difficult for him that he tried to kill himself by running away and trying to throw himself in front of a moving vehicle.

Life is still challenging. It is hard being the parent of children with SEN, people don't get it and often don't want to get it and see it as parents indulging their children.

Leaving my violent, emotionally abusive exH 20 years ago. I had nowhere to go and only a few quid to my name but was so desperate I left anyway. I was homeless for a while, sleeping rough and I got TB. Eventually I got a place in a refuge and it was the first step towards the life I have now. Unfortunately my ex continued to make life hell for me for years (he always promised he'd never let me walk away and for a long time he was true to his word). In those years I was also diagnosed with a chronic illness and both my parents died. ExH also promised he would make sure all my friends and family would hate me if I left and because of his manipulation, he did just that, so I was incredibly lonely. I attempted suicide twice.

However also in that period I met DH. You know that bit in Titanic where Old Rose says Jack saved her in every way it was possible to save a person? That. Totally naff and vom inducing perhaps but it's true. I still have bad days but almost 20 years on I'm incredibly grateful for the lovely life I have.

Nc for this.
The day my dd disclosed her db had been sexually abusing her. Having to ring the police knowing I had lost my ds forever..
Taking her with the police for video interview, having the driver stop the car every few miles so I could vomit on the roadside..
Not knowing or being able to know what exactly had happened until after the trial.
Watching my dd's video statement after the trial haunts me still..
Living 10 years now without my ds...
I wish he had died.

At least I could grieve in public for my precious boy..

The sudden death of dd1 last year. I’m not sure how we survived the first few months, although I do know that DH dragged us both through. EMDR and lots of counselling also helped. I still have bad days but know that surviving this experience has made me realise I can cope with almost anything.

When somebody in my family threatened to burn down the house with my daughter and I in it.

Now. Elderly parents frail and very ill (I've just been looking after them for a fortnight and am currently on my way home to remind my own family what I look like).

I got made redundant during lockdown at the age of 54. The job market is bleak so I am feeling as if I may be on the scrapheap.

It has been a bruising few months.

The sudden death of my son. The police knocking on my door will stay with me forever. 2 years later my GP was ‘surprised’ that I still hadn’t got over it-I never will. Just heartbreaking.

Severe ptsd after dd1 was born. I was violently assaulted by a doctor during her birth. I was very very unwell for a year. Prayers and therapy helped me. Had a miscarriage after that and now have dd2 since start of lockdown.

I feel a million miles better and more resilient now. Feel a bit down about lockdown sometimes but it's better than the ptsd lockdown I was in last time.

Hope things turn around for you soon OP.

My cat died and i was sad

Then i had a miscarriage and i was broken hearted

Then my mum died and i was broken hearted and im still sad

They all happened over the Course of about 6 months And i just thought maybe i was being punished for making such a fuss over the cat dying

Which I appreciate is very very stupid

(Similar happened with a child leaving home, mil dying and dd being diagnosed with ME ...within a fortnight a few years ago, whats with the 3s!)

Oh fuck and my best friend dying and i blamed myself...felt very low

I’m really quite a positive person, bad things rarely happen to me

💐💐💐💐💐💐

@Awfullysaddm my heart breaks for you and everything that you've been through. Must be truly truly awful.

Ectopic pregnancy after several unsuccessful rounds of fertility treatments. That was the closest I got to motherhood. Subsequent attempts were also unsuccessful. I spent 20 years TTC and nothing. I’m just about getting over it now. I’m finding new pleasures on the simple things in life: a sunny day, flowers in the garden, we recently got a dog, travel to new places even if it’s just a few hours by car, trying new recipes and restaurants (when they are open!).

@Awfullysaddm

Nc for this. The day my dd disclosed her db had been sexually abusing her. Having to ring the police knowing I had lost my ds forever.. Taking her with the police for video interview, having the driver stop the car every few miles so I could vomit on the roadside.. Not knowing or being able to know what exactly had happened until after the trial. Watching my dd's video statement after the trial haunts me still.. Living 10 years now without my ds... I wish he had died. At least I could grieve in public for my precious boy..

You can grieve here, maybe in OTBT?

So sorry saddm

Hi op, mine was 18months ago. I was in the grips of dihydrocodeine addiction and had run up thousamds of pounds of payday loans funding my habit. I was also deaperatelh looking for a job at the time, as living at home was horrid and y parents abusive

I had a call from an interviewer who had told me id been unsuccessful, who said he liked me and there was a job for me in another location and i said yes which caused arguments at home. Buy3more than that was the very real possibility i couldnt go. This brillisnt new life was within my reacb - and because of my own stupid actions i might not have been able to tske it.

I was so low. I was in the midst of applying for a iva, mam was being cruel and i was trying not to use.if not for some fab work feiends holding my hand i dont know what would have happened. I went to an interview in torquay for another job, i didnt interview but id booked tickets snd hotel anyhow so went and stayed over fora night and honestly waling up the next morning with no fear from mam was amazing.

Somehow i did it. I saved and saved and saved, i got a consolidation loan, and i stopped using for 5 months. As soon as i moved i used again, but lyckily have never gotten that far in again. I love mg life now. The trauma is still there but i no longer freeze when the front door opens, i no longer cringe when i hear a loud noise

Im qualified in my job, after 2 attempts st the examination, and am loving it. I love helping my service users and my confidence has improved. This time i last year i hesitated telling a serice user to put their phone away. Yesterday a servicr user scared me in a 1 to 1 appt and i am amazed at how i responded - calm, in control, and told him the interview was now over. We managed to sit down and resolve it and im proud of myself (my manager said so but i am anyway!) I honestly thought instinct would be freeze but when it came to it i was fine