To miss sex SO much

[Catandkittens]

I wanted to post in the sex section but it won't let me so apologies for posting here and mumsnet please move this to the sex section.

No sex for 7 months and I am really really struggling. I know that sounds dramatic but I really could do with some. I do sort myself out, it's just not the same at all. Does anyone have any experience with swinger type clubs as a single female? I'm in my late 20s. I worry that it would be all old men? And maybe I'd see someone I know? I have had one night stands in the past but I don't really fancy it, and I worry about the safety aspect. Help

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It's not even just the sex, it's the kissing and the anticipation and the excitement and the closeness and being held. It's all of it.

I feel you - it's been a while here, and I really, really, really do miss it

@Catandkittens

It's not even just the sex, it's the kissing and the anticipation and the excitement and the closeness and being held. It's all of it.

Well I don't know much about swingers clubs but I seriously doubt you'd get any of that there.

Can't you just hook up via Tinder or whatever?

@Catandkittens

It's not even just the sex, it's the kissing and the anticipation and the excitement and the closeness and being held. It's all of it.

You’re probably unlikely to fulfil this at sex clubs.

You can't post in the sex topic until you have been a member of MN for 90 days.

Are you new to MN?

I'm really intrigued as to why your first thought is swingers clubs lmao. For kissing and being held? Ok mate. 🤣

@YouJustDoYou no because that would be a one night stand and as I put in my original post, I don't want a one night stand because of the safety aspect. I live alone so I'd worry about having a stranger in my house and I'd worry about being in a strangers house.

@Lupellegrino wtf, why be so rude? It's basically my only option. If you've got nothing nice to say, don't post!

@anon5000 I deleted my account and then re-made it, that's why.

"I'm really intrigued as to why your first thought is swingers clubs lmao. For kissing and being held? Ok mate."

It's almost as though they just want to hear other people's stories about swingers clubs or something when they could just try online dating like everyone else.

Have you got a friend who is single and may be interested in a no-strings sexual relationship?

Just young single women's experiences I think.

If you're not into a one night stand, I don't think you'll find what you want from a swingers club. Also I think the swingers market tends to be more middle aged anyway.
I think your best bet would be to try old.

Aren't swingers always 'one night stands'?

I think the world may have passed me by.

@DeeTractor

"I'm really intrigued as to why your first thought is swingers clubs lmao. For kissing and being held? Ok mate."

It's almost as though they just want to hear other people's stories about swingers clubs or something when they could just try online dating like everyone else.

I know it's uncanny isn't it

Pop a little message on facebook, that guy from high school or friend of a friend should suffice and not a stranger so a little safer.
Or you could buy one of those boyfriend pillows.

@DeeTractor

"I'm really intrigued as to why your first thought is swingers clubs lmao. For kissing and being held? Ok mate."

It's almost as though they just want to hear other people's stories about swingers clubs or something when they could just try online dating like everyone else.

Bingo!

Hairy handed perve here, methinks

Swinging in a pandemic. Is this wise?

@TatianaBis

Swinging in a pandemic. Is this wise?

Well if they're all in gimp masks it should be safe enough.

Tinder. Go on a date, sleep with them. Say you are not looking for anything serious. Repeat.

OP, you sound lonely more than anything else. Could you join a dating website of your choice? Do you have the opportunity to go out with friends on a regular basis? Perhaps you could start by aiming to build more social structure into your week & i’m sure you’ll meet someone.

I really feel for you, it’s no fun missing intimacy. Just try and get out there a bit more. It’s not going to lead to sex straight away (well it might!) but I think you need to focus on building solid foundations for social activities, & the fun will follow.

BTW there are some meanies on MN who pop their heads up to take a pot-shot at anyone who uses this place to ask for advice & help, but ignore. They’ll get bored & go away. Heed the good advice & pass over the idiotic comments.

Best of luck to you

It's not even just the sex, it's the kissing and the anticipation and the excitement and the closeness and being held. It's all of it.

And swinging would be an improvement on a one night stand HOW?

I really wish I hadn't posted on here now. A couple of nice people and the rest just unnecessarily mocking and making me feel really stupid. Thanks a bunch guys. Hope you are nicer than this to a friend if she had this problem.

I can't help but think you've picked the wrong forum for advice on swinging, in all honesty, OP.

Surely your local Conservative Party association has a Facebook group?