To think the comment was completely unnecessary and frankly nasty?

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A friend's DD has just graduated.

She put a proud mom FB post up with details of this and encouragement for fantastic new grad role.

The FB post received over 100 positive responses.

Her DSIL put, and I quote "Congrats DNeice. Now. Welcome to the real world of commerce, in house politics, back stabbing and two faced 'friends'. I'd just stay on for another degree. 👏👏"

This was a couple of weeks ago, and friend is still rightly fuming, and feels it will affect all future interactions with her DSIL.

AIBU to think this reflects badly on the author?

Yup, work sucks. I'd love to be an eternal student. Sadly, I'm skint.

Don't understand what the problem is? She told the truth. Okay maybe I wouldn't comment like that but that's what I would say to anyone entering any corporate/civil roles after graduation. I wish I had known wise and experienced people like that to warn me when I first entered the workforce after uni!

If the SIL's experience of work is that everyone is backstabbing and two-faced everywhere she goes then gosh, she's had some terribly bad luck.

I think you are over analysing an obvious joke, everyone can see the humour in her comment, it doesn't mean she has been working in perpetual shit jobs or been unlucky.

It is just a tongue in cheek welcome to the world of work type comment that is made across multiple continents and has been made for generations, even if you squint hard enough you still cannot see anything other than british dark humour into it, the OP hasn't said that the Daughter took it wrong, so far we have the parent fuming after 2 weeks and a friend of the mother wanting some kind of clarification because she can't accept it as humour and looking for reasons to be offended.

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If the SIL's experience of work is that everyone is backstabbing and two-faced everywhere she goes then gosh, she's had some terribly bad luck.

I think you are over analysing an obvious joke, everyone can see the humour in her comment, it doesn't mean she has been working in perpetual shit jobs or been unlucky.

It is just a tongue in cheek welcome to the world of work type comment that is made across multiple continents and has been made for generations, even if you squint hard enough you still cannot see anything other than british dark humour into it, the OP hasn't said that the Daughter took it wrong, so far we have the parent fuming after 2 weeks and a friend of the mother wanting some kind of clarification because she can't accept it as humour and looking for reasons to be offended.

You're allowed to find it hilarious if you want to! I'm just questioning the "but it's TRUE though" people.

Yes I'm guessing it was meant as a joke, same as the people who post "haha you'll never sleep again!" on pregnancy announcements. Bit tiresome but hardly worth fuming about, unless there's a history of the SIL raining on everyone else's parade (and even then, fuming seems a bit OTT).

I think some people are just naturally sarcastic and what could come across face-to-face, with the right tone, as funny doesn’t always translate well written down. I wouldn’t be wound up by that, but I have a fairly sarcastic sense of humour.

Is it the lack of hyphens that's bothering her? That would be the only reason I would still be fuming after 2 weeks.

It was a joke - not a very imaginative one, but a joke just the same.
I don't understand anyone being even slightly upset by it?

Just an extended version of 'congrats, welcome to the world of work'.
Humour it's called.

To be fair I’m private sector and have to deal with civil servants quite regularly. The amount of people who have a superiority complex and are downright rude is off the scale. Good luck to her. It’s draining

It's a horrible thing to say and reflects what an unhappy person she really is.

On the up side your friend can remove the comment as it's her page.

If SIL comments on the removal your friend can tell her it was removed and request she not do it again as it's inappropriate.

It's a horrible thing to say and reflects what an unhappy person she really is.

Don't be so bloody ridiculous. There's nothing horrible about it. Your post on the other hand...

Sounds like a joke. Possibly not that funny, but a joke, get a grip

Slightly off key joke. Fuming about it a week later is a massive over-reaction but presumably to do with the dynamic between your friend and her SIL.

My sis in law commented of a similar nature when stepdaughter got in to nursing course at uni..she used to work in the hospital but doing a different role. It was annoying but we just shrugged and thought if you can’t say anything nice say nothing at all which would’ve been much more appropriate for our excitement of such an achievement! I’d suggest she ignores it and knows it’s a reflection on the sis in laws part - she clearly isn’t very good at being funny

he's obviously hurt by someone and was throwing shade at them on her post.Not saying its right but suppose he was emotional

Frankly I would have ignored it and moved on - within about 5 minutes.😎

Trying to be funny in the face of yet another smug mum post.

Literally nothing to be offended by.

I dont think it's a particularly nasty comment, it certainly isnt an attack on her daughter, its just a bit bitter. No idea why your friend is fuming.

I don’t understand why she would be fuming at that comment. It has nothing to do with her. What does she have to be offended or “fuming” about?

Totally irrational tesponse...Definitely a funny post and definitely a third world issue lol!

Depends what the relationship between DD and DSIL is. Maybe the havea rapport that made it nothing out of the ordinary - a private joke or similar

Well I worked for local government and it was certainly as the DSIL described. DSIL sounds like she has a rather black SOH and nothing wrong with that - maybe she’s just plain “Joe Blunt” and tells it how it is. At least it’s honest, though I might hesitate to post similar on my niece’s FB page.

Sounds like something my SIL would say. I’m expected to fawn over her sons while she’s downright rude towards mine. Latest gripe is my son doing well in the exams and hers not. It’s not my fault. She couldn’t even congratulate me on good news recently, it was just another bitchy comment.

I’ve learned to ignore and delete when she’s being an absolute fanny.

Fuming gets you nowhere. Ignore and still be proud is the best way.