To think the comment was completely unnecessary and frankly nasty?

[CrooksAndNannies]

A friend's DD has just graduated.

She put a proud mom FB post up with details of this and encouragement for fantastic new grad role.

The FB post received over 100 positive responses.

Her DSIL put, and I quote "Congrats DNeice. Now. Welcome to the real world of commerce, in house politics, back stabbing and two faced 'friends'. I'd just stay on for another degree. 👏👏"

This was a couple of weeks ago, and friend is still rightly fuming, and feels it will affect all future interactions with her DSIL.

AIBU to think this reflects badly on the author?

The comment does have truth in it.

Not the most appropriate time or place though.

But that's online posting for you- surprised there was only one comment to take issue with.

Your friend is being WAY OTT about this!
Sheesh.

@thepeopleversuswork

I think your reaction (and the friend's reaction) is waaaaay over the top tbh. Fuming after two weeks?

It's a slightly heavy-handed and slightly dark joke but not offensive to anyone in particular and designed to make the DD feel part of the club. I wouldn't give it a second thought.

And if the DD is that offended by a well-meaning joke like that she won't last long in the workplace!

I think my reaction is aligned to my friend's because that's how it's been presented tome, and I care for her and her feelings. Perhaps if I'd read the post first, I'd have read it in a sarcastic tone, too. Just realised friend did completely gloss over the congrats at the start of the post, and only focus on the negative. To the effect that I hadn't really noticed the positive tone at the start.

Well what was said wasn't exactly incorrect was it!

I think your friend likes having her arse kissed.

This was a couple of weeks ago, and friend is still rightly fuming, and feels it will affect all future interactions with her DSIL.

AIBU to think this reflects badly on the author?

How is she "rightly fuming"? She sounds batshit insane. Are you encouraging her?

Nice to see that even a global pandemic hasn't helped some people develop a sense of perspective.

Still fuming weeks later and thinks it will sour future relations?
Huge over-reaction if that's all there is to it!
Sounds like a joke that hasn't come across well in the written form.
Which is why I do so much or lol to make sure people don't take my sense of humour as being sniffy

Fuming? I'd have laughed!!

Meh. It's just a joke. Your friend is fuming about it weeks later and expects that it will negatively affect their entire relationship forever and ever? That is a huge overreaction to a social media post that seems intended to be funny. If anything in this situation reflects badly on anyone, it is your friend's massive overreaction.

It's a joke

I would take this as a wiry joke

At worse it is a joke that has landed badly. You need to tell your friend to give her head a wobble because to still be fuming and think it will affect all future interactions with her SIL is crazy

Of course everyone here will defend the SIL as just telling the truth.

It was a shitty comment on a happy post. It only reflects on the SIL. Tell your friend to forget about it.

Ma hed esplode.

It was a joke.

bit of rain on her parade.
is she really still fuming?

I think OP is the Mother?
Why give a flying fruck about what someone commented otherwise?

Farcebook is ghastly. Come off it, and don't post personal stuff, except to family and very close friends.

It's the sort of thing that my kids all write to each other when one of them gets a new job; a kind of 'well done, mate, welcome to the real world!'.

Fuming? Seriously? There's absolutely nothing personally derogatory in there at all, just a darkly humorous comment on life outside academe. Your friend needs someone to have a quiet word with her.

Your mate is seeing offence where others see humour. She needs to calm down.

Fucking hell. Imagine reacting to a sarcastic jokey comment on Facebook with 2 weeks worth of being "fuming" and allowing it to "affect all future interactions" with her SIL. How does this woman cope with life if she reacts like this to literally nothing? What a drama llama.

There is nothing insulting or personal or nasty in the remark whatsoever. It's just a bit of a sarcastic observation of the world of work. I'm bewildered at the huge overreaction.

I think if she struggles with someone making this kind of joke she likely will struggle in the world of commerce. Sense of humour bypass or what!

@IWantT0BreakFree

Fucking hell. Imagine reacting to a sarcastic jokey comment on Facebook with 2 weeks worth of being "fuming" and allowing it to "affect all future interactions" with her SIL. How does this woman cope with life if she reacts like this to literally nothing? What a drama llama.

There is nothing insulting or personal or nasty in the remark whatsoever. It's just a bit of a sarcastic observation of the world of work. I'm bewildered at the huge overreaction.

And then getting a ‘friend’ involved and posting it on MN.

It almost beggars belief...

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Omg you are the friend, aren't you😂

😎 I think so. To be ''Fuming'' is nutsoid, especially as it is true...Education is fun and easy... Work isn't.

Are you fuming because your friend is ‘rightly fuming?’ Do you always fume together? I think it was meant as a joke.....no idea why you’d still be fuming ( I hate that word!) two whole weeks later!! 🤷‍♀️

Raging weeks after a bad joke posted on social media, eh a bit precious. Complete over reaction by your friend and also you to garner some sort of support for her. I’ve no idea why anyone pays any heed to FB comments anyway unless an insult is directed at someone, which in this case it was not.