To think the comment was completely unnecessary and frankly nasty?

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A friend's DD has just graduated.

She put a proud mom FB post up with details of this and encouragement for fantastic new grad role.

The FB post received over 100 positive responses.

Her DSIL put, and I quote "Congrats DNeice. Now. Welcome to the real world of commerce, in house politics, back stabbing and two faced 'friends'. I'd just stay on for another degree. 👏👏"

This was a couple of weeks ago, and friend is still rightly fuming, and feels it will affect all future interactions with her DSIL.

AIBU to think this reflects badly on the author?

It's probably an in joke between them. There has to be context for this. No idea why you are wound up over this

Why is she fuming? Did she think it's about her? I don't get why else would she fume

There’s always one person who sees a happy post on Facebook and has to shit all over it disguised as humour. I think it’s really rude and shows that the person commenting wanted to spoil the persons happiness.

I'd have just took it in jest.

Cant understand this either, it’s just a jokey comment. Why is she possibly fuming and even worse still fuming, that’s very odd.

Is there some back story in terms of her mental health?

Either an attempt at a joke or DSIL is struggling and let her negativity prevent her from putting a nice congratulatory message for your friend's dd. If I were the friend I would try and persuade dd that the former was the intention. No need for fuming. The DSIL might need some support atm.

Yeah that's just a joke/truth. I would have laughed. No reason for anyone to be offended especially when most workforces are just like that

I would've taken it as a joke. I certainly wouldn't be fuming about it two weeks later.

It was a bit ott and sounded more bitter than funny but it’s not nasty.

It’s like those who greet pregnancy announcements with “welcome to no sleep” or “welcome to the world of dirty nappies” It’s a bit tedious but not nasty.

She's absolutely spot on though isn't she?

Also think it's a joke

Exactly the sort of shite I'd write too

I think your friend is overreacting. It's meant in a jokey/sarcastic way that really does tell it like it is. Its a little like the "congrats on your pregnancy, get sleep in now because there's none after" or those "get ready to lose your freedom" type comments.

Some people don't "get" social media. Like the posts you see with grandma's starting a conversation in response to a post like "How's your day, are you eating right?"

Sounds like someone making a joke, or someone who has a slightly bitter perspective on life and no concept of when it isn't appropriate to express that. She'd doubtless be the same in person.

(my mum has quite weird personal reactions to things, mercifully not on Facebook, but my sister gets wound up about it pointlessly)

It's a joke. Also, it's true in my experience.

This was a couple of weeks ago, and friend is still rightly fuming, and feels it will affect all future interactions with her DSIL.

This is a complete overreaction. Rightly fuming?

It’s probably something I’d write, the DD is probably not as easily upset as her Mum

There’s always one person who sees a happy post on Facebook and has to shit all over it disguised as humour. I think it’s really rude and shows that the person commenting wanted to spoil the persons happiness.

Or they just have a darker sense of humour!

I don't understand, what is she fuming about?

It is a bit of an odd thing to write, unless SIL works at the same place and then it’s a bit late for a warning. But not really worth fuming over.

Probably the niece has met arseholish people before by this point in her life? It’s not like uni is blissfully free of them. Unless you think the only awful backstabby people in offices are the ones who didn’t go to uni which is not my experience!

Really? I don't see what anyone would be fuming about?? Just a different sense of humour...

It’s a bit dour but I wouldn’t be fuming.
She congratulates her niece, and the negativity that follows in no way reflects on her niece.

I would lay money on your friend already disliking her DSIL and so capitalising on a very minor misjudgement of tone.
So many possibilities for your friend! She could have been offended by DSIL failing to comment on her post; if DSIL referenced her working hard, it could have been a slight on her natural ability...
When you go looking for offence, you can usually find it.

I hope your friend isn’t sharing her “fuming” with her daughter and casting a shadow over the whole thing and causing drama. Because that would be far worse than anything DSIL has done.
I suspect your friend is a PITA.

I think that's funny. If that was on my dd on fb I'd have given it a "haha".

I suppose I can think of someone for whom if I saw that written on then I'd suspect the writer had worked for them and was describing them.

It's like when a baby is born and someone writes "welcome to the world of sleepless nights and Pepper Pig."

oops it's the sort of thing I'd probably write too (especially if we had a bantering type of relationship )

If there were a hundred positive posts and this other one, I think she needs to get over it. It wasn't insulting about the person or their achievement, the criticism was of the world they are moving into. Person will also have to be able to learn to deal with such negativity in the workplace.

'Nasty' seems an overreaction, unless your friend works with her SIL!