To think anyone TTC now is mad?

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Given the GDP fall-economy disaster, rising unemployment, coronavirus, does it seem bloody mad to be TTC now?

I’ve got mates and family who are TTC or already upduffed and it seems absolutely mad to me. Why does RIGHT NOW feel like a good time to TTC? AIBU?

(Nc for this!)

To someone up thread- pregnancy offers no additional protection against redundancy.

The world has been halted enough. Why wouldn't people want to conceive?

@Trufflepuffpuff please try not to let it upset you, yes it's a scary time but l know lots of people who have become pregnant, given birth and are TTC at the moment, it's scary and unusual but things have gone well. Unmumsnetty hugs to you.

I was already 13w pregnant when we went into lockdown. If I hadn’t been pregnant already, we would most likely have carried on TTC. Yeah, the pandemic has made it stressful but in some ways for me, it’s been easier.

Mine and my husband’s jobs are stable, we own our own house and we were desperate for another DC.

You are being a little unreasonable OP because while you are entitled to your own opinion, everyone has their own reasons for the choices they make in life and you can’t possibly know every single person’s individual circumstances .
Nobody knows what the future holds and people are entitled to live the best life that they can.If having children is a part of their life plan then they are entitled to that choice.
If everyone stopped procreating what would the outcome be?

If you do have kids already OP, you're a bit of a prick tbh with this post

Any time could turn into a bad time to TTC. Anything could happen to make life more difficult at any time. Assuming you're not going to end up financially responsible for any of these babies, I really can't understand why you would care either way. I'm not trying to get pregnant, but I can't bring myself to mind what other people are getting up to!

Maybe for some it will be easier as may be able to be at home more than usual circumstances.

Because I’ve been trying for over a year now with a mmc and then my son died shortly after his birth. Would you like me to hold off until you feel
More comfortable?

What a stupid thread

I don’t get it either. The economy is in a bad state, health resources are scarce and the virus is still very much with us. We don’t know who it will affect badly or the long term effects.

I hope that you’re not expressing this opinion to those whose are pregnant or trying to conceive. Babies have continued to be born during wars etc. People are right not to put their lives on hold. If you already have a family (as do I) it’s very easy for you to be expressing this opinion. Keep it to yourself, though, out of thoughtfulness for others.

We were going to start trying in March, decided against given the situation, got careless in May (and figured it would probably take more than one unprotected shag, since DS took us 20 months) - and now I'm 14 weeks pregnant and we couldn't be happier about it. I do occasionally wonder whether people will judge me for getting pregnant in a pandemic when we tell them, and then I remember that I don't really care if they do.

I think there are more sensitive ways to put it but YANBU. I was pregnant when this mess started. I lost the baby soon after. Although I was and am hugely upset about the miscarriage a small part of me also breathed a sigh of relief at not going through pregnancy and birth in the middle of an epidemic. But I'm relatively young and already have a child. A friend conceived shortly afterwards, both partners significantly older... in their shoes I'd not have waited either.

Thanks @TitianaTitsling

No of course not life has to go on.
Also we could be living with cv for years.

I am TTC, both in secure jobs with rental income on top. I am over 35, my DH is struggling with his mental health and needs to start retaking medication that affects his fertility. So we are hoping it happens soon so he can feel better.

Everyone has their reasons, its not always straight forward

There are always loads of people on MN who had exactly the number of children they wanted but pontificate that they wouldn't do so now for various reasons - climate change, over population, the economy, now Covid. These are all real and serious issues but it's very easy to give up something in theory, much harder in reality especially when it's something as precious as your dream of a family.

I'm pregnant with a 'lockdown baby'. DH and I both have Covid secure jobs. It's not our first DC either, but we wanted another child and we can afford it.

I feel like this is going to be a post and run... Come on OP, do you have kids already?

I'm childfree and will remain so for many reasons other than the pandemic/recession, but I don't judge my friends for wanting a child in the current climate if that's what they want and they are able to provide a loving, secure home for upbringing.

So many stirring posts on here lately!

How long are people supposed to wait.
Are things going to be any better next year? The year after?

You could say that TTC at any timeis mad given the sleepless nights, the nappies, the pain if giving birth, the responsibility ...

But some people have a strong desire for children. It's not exactly unusual!

@popcorndiva
Fingers crossed and best wishes to both of you.🤞😊

My friend is over 40, she was just starting ivf then lockdown put it on hold, now shes started up again. This could be her only chance.

Im 8 weeks, unplanned but very much wanted and its brought a lot of hope into both our families lives- multiple miscarriages & infertility on his side of family, first grandchild for my parents, and both sets of parents have been through the mill over the last few years so its lovely news for them.

We have the financial and family support.

The world will never be perfect. Ever. It never has been, never will be. You just have to make the best of things. Don't forget media saturation overhypes negativity.

My city was in "managed decline" in the 80's. Im glad my parents didnt think "Gee, better not reproduce with this recession going on!" Otherwise i wouldnt exist!!

People have got pregnant during recessions and pandemics before. It’s not that long ago that many illnesses were untreatable - you could die of all kinds of things we don’t worry about now. Child mortality was much worse. Life goes on.

Because people want to get on with their lives and not be governed by a virus that may or may not cause problems in the future. Enough time has been wasted, it’s time to get cracked on.