This obsession with blue eyes! Anyone else?

[Lelophants]

Honestly, I know it's a minor thing but it's really starting to annoy me! 🤣

Dh and I both have hazel eyes. We are white but more olivey skin (not that it matters!) Ds is the spitting image of me as a baby and his eyes are still that changeable very dark blue/brown colour, but looks dark in most lights. He has basically the same eyes I did as a baby and most of the time they look hazel, but I guess they haven't quite set yet. Mine didn't set until 1. He is 9 months. (Other babies we know with blue eyed parents have proper blue eyes - ds has never looked very blue!) Also neither DH or myself are blue!!

Pil are both blue and hazel eyed and mil is the blue eyed one and is obsessed that our baby will have blue eyes! Every time she visits (maybe 6 or 7 times now) it's "his eyes look blue! Are they blue?" Then looks disappointed when we say no. I'm not kidding. Every time she comes in! I actually have an intake of breath now. She then makes the odd comment of "well they look blue to me." as if I'm making it up.

I actually find it quite offensive. Dark eyes are attractive you know! Her son has them! And ds has my eyes!
She even made some comment about how her other son has blue eyes and how beautiful they are.

Anyone else have people like this? Blue eyes are no nicer than dark eyes. Hazel eyes are beautiful thank you very much!

I am Italian and have dark brown eyes , quite big and almond shaped and over in the Uk it is very rare , in my younger days we used to go dancing and so many British guys would compliment me on my eyes all the time, they would be mesmerised by them, my friend had blue eyes a lovely looking girl but apparently used to say To me It’s your eyes an exotic looks lol It’s annoying going out with you but we used to have lovely nights out lol. Blue is definitely not rare here no way! My daughter has big green eyes that get her compliments as they are a very rare green too. Almond shaped eyes too..

My eldest had blue eyes until he turned 3, then they went a gorgeous green grey and have stayed that way. Middle child has beautiful clear blue eyes, and my baby has beautiful dark brown eyes. I was so pleased to have a brown eyed baby at last, only because they are the same as mine and my husband's - that doesn't mean I like my lovely blue or grey/green eyes any less, in fact I'm chuffed to have ended up with one of each!

No definitely green here too

😂😂 At the ‘lying eyes’ accusations

@DeeTractor

Has anyone pointed out that blue eyes aren't rare in the UK? I'm not sure that anyone has mentioned it have they...?

😂😂😂

I personally do have a preference for blue eyes and have them myself, most people I know personally have them. But its rarer to see people with sky blue eyes. Without using certain shades of eyeshadow, my eye colour is a bit 'meh'. I am envious of people who have a deeper/darker skin colour with chestnut brown eyes and dark hair.
Random question to anybody who has them or knows, Is it possible to be black/mixed race. Or asian and have blue or green eyes? I know I have seen black people with bright blue eyes and they looked stunning! Always wondered if it was contacts or possible

I must admit that despite most of my family having grey or blue eyes, I am partial to a bloke with long dark hair and definitely dark brown eyes.

But all eye colours are lovely in their own right. There are so many shades of brown, blue, even green can be different shades.

They now say that blue eyes aren't simply the result of two recessive genes for blue, one inherited from each parent. It is now thought that eye colour is influenced by the interaction of a number of genes.

The way these genes interact can control the amount of melanin (which gives a brown colour) in the iris by reducing the amount by varying degrees. Dimmer switches, really! Mutations. Human eye colour is brown and we all have this basic instruction. Maybe brown is our light switch and along with that some people also have dimmers to give different degrees of melanin in the iris.

Babies can start off with blue eyes and subsequently their eyes darken. This is because their melanin is still forming and as they develop, more melanin is laid down in the iris.

I have one cousin in my extended family who has brown eyes. However, both her parents have blue eyes. I guess something happened to her 'dimmer switch' and she expressed the default instruction for brown eyes, despite her parents mutations.

As to MIL. I suspect she just wants the grandkids to have an obvious little bit of her.

My Dd2 has very very blue eyes. She's 10 so don't think they will change. She is incredibly blonde - proper icy blonde. Her eyes are striking because they are very vivid not because they are blue.

Dd1 has green eyes but so does my mother and my husband so not a surprise. All 3 are blond but dd and dm are warm blonde whereas dh is icy blond as is mil.

My dbro, df, fil, bil and sil all have beautiful rich brown eyes. All but sil have very very dark hair and skin (Welsh). Sil has red hair which is amazing with her brown eyes.

Mine eyes are grey and my hair is mousy. So not fair.

My grandmother had beautiful auburn hair when she was younger, and green eyes. My mum has brown eyes and my dad has hazel eyes. I have weird eyes which are darkish brown with greenish hazel centres! My husband has blue eyes, and both my kids have brown eyes, one fairly light, the other really very dark brown.

It's funny what we look for in our children.

My DD1 has blue eyes like DH and I was so pleased when DD2's eyes were more like mine. Though hers are actually prettier, hazel with a gradation of colour, mine are more a murky sludge green colour.

CANCEL THE CHEQUE!

The most hot-tempered people I've known are my sister and my late father, both blue-eyed. My mother used to say their eyes flashed like sharp steel weapons. My mother's were green and mine are hazel.

Dunno. I wouldn’t let it bother me much. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I know in laws who wished their grandkids were more white - now that bothers me, then saying every time ‘oh, has she gone lighter skinned yet?’

I guess MIL just wants her grandchild to have the same colour eyes as her.

I have blue eyes, DH’s are a sort of murky hazelly colour. I was pleased when 2 of my DC had eyes the same shade of blue as mine. If I’d been the parent with hazel eyes, I’d probably have wanted hazel eyed babies.
My other DC has heterochromia (2 different eye colours). Not sure where that came from, but it makes his eyes very distinctive.

It’s definitely a MIL thing.... I have three kids. DD1 and DTs, (B&G). DS looks like a clone of my DH, and is very much the same colouring as his paternal grandfather (from whom she’s divorced. Hazel eyes, for what it’s worth.) She barely acknowledges that DS exists. DD1 & DD2 look like me. (Blue eyed blondes, all of us.) DD1 looks almost exactly like me, and gets similar treatment to DS. To make MIL feel better about not getting a look-in, (she was complaining) when DD2 was tiny, I stupidly said that DD2 had her shaped face. (She doesn’t) Since then, the open favouritism is nauseating. DD2 loathes her. She sent bday cards to the twins with $50 for DD2 and $5 for DS. (I’m so done with her. It was the very last straw in a long list, but her narcissism and use of my children is beyond belief. Fortunately she lives a looooong distance from us.)

My daughter has the most striking blue eyes, as does her father. I however have heterochromia, and one of my eyes is blue and the other green. Its subtle, but obvious enough in natural daylight.

Hazel eyes are beautiful too. On a personal level, i couldn't give a rats arse who has what, because it makes zero difference to me or my life.

She would have loved me. I was born with blue eyes but they turned green when I was in primary school. I can imagine her disappointment 😂

I’m really pleased that DD has Blue eyes. Mine are brown, as are most of my family, so it’s just nice they are different. I don’t think Blue are better and know nobody that thinks thus.
YABU as you just sound unnecessarily irritated by your MIL, it’s not about eyes.

I feel your annoyance OP. My children are both mixed race and one has dark brown eyes and the other blue/grey eyes and everyone always comments on how beautiful they are or ask how could this happen as me and partner both have brown eyes. It's so annoying and actually sad, I do worry how this may affect my other child in the future.

My mum was really excited when I had blue eyes up to the age of two. TBF she's Indian so it would have been really something if the blue eyes had stayed! Mum's eyes are very dark, and (English) Dad's are mid brown. Mine are between the two. DBro had brown eyes at birth.

I was excited that both my Dds had bright blue eyes up until two too (DH has blue), then they went green and both have settled at a beautiful hazel colour now.

I think people get excited either by what is unusual for them, or, conversely, what is very familiar (family traits).

MulticolourMophead “Blue eyed parents bb x bb can only have blue eyed offspring.”

Rubbish. As I said above, both DH and I have blue eyes. Our families have only had blue eyes, both sides, back several generations. We have one brown eyed child, others are blue. Child is definitely ours biologically.

I think you are using a simple primary school style schematic of genetics that’s not right for this.

Sorry, not MulticolourMophead, I was agreeing with the comment they made which was refuting that statement which was made by Leafy...something.

I remember my coworker saying something like, “I have the perfect family with my amazing husband and blonde-hair, blue-eyed children”. I was genuinely shocked. My kids have hazel eyes. I think they are so beautiful. Blue eyes can be very striking though. I must admit James Mcavoy has such beautiful eyes.

It’s definitely a “just like me” thing. I had the same with my MIL, just the other way around. In fact I had to do a genetics 101 talk with her because she was basically implying that as DH had dark brown eyes, DD’s blue eyes were suspicious (I have blue eyes, as does FIL)