This obsession with blue eyes! Anyone else?

[Lelophants]

Honestly, I know it's a minor thing but it's really starting to annoy me! 🤣

Dh and I both have hazel eyes. We are white but more olivey skin (not that it matters!) Ds is the spitting image of me as a baby and his eyes are still that changeable very dark blue/brown colour, but looks dark in most lights. He has basically the same eyes I did as a baby and most of the time they look hazel, but I guess they haven't quite set yet. Mine didn't set until 1. He is 9 months. (Other babies we know with blue eyed parents have proper blue eyes - ds has never looked very blue!) Also neither DH or myself are blue!!

Pil are both blue and hazel eyed and mil is the blue eyed one and is obsessed that our baby will have blue eyes! Every time she visits (maybe 6 or 7 times now) it's "his eyes look blue! Are they blue?" Then looks disappointed when we say no. I'm not kidding. Every time she comes in! I actually have an intake of breath now. She then makes the odd comment of "well they look blue to me." as if I'm making it up.

I actually find it quite offensive. Dark eyes are attractive you know! Her son has them! And ds has my eyes!
She even made some comment about how her other son has blue eyes and how beautiful they are.

Anyone else have people like this? Blue eyes are no nicer than dark eyes. Hazel eyes are beautiful thank you very much!

I have a blue eye obsession. It's entirely irrational. I care not a jot about having a boy or a girl but I'm pleased he seems to have my eyes. It's the most ridiculous thing. DH has lovely brown eyes! Why am I so obsessed with DS having blue eyes??? (He's only 8 months so karma could definitely still get me here.)

Most Caucasian babies are born with a dark blue coloured eye that lightens or changes entirely but my DD2 was born with brown eyes.

Literallynoidea

I don’t think this is fair to say. Irs actually fairly common for blue / green eyes to be as the “desirable” colour. Trying to make it seem like OP is some peculiar in her assumptions about mil isn’t fair. “What an odd idea.” Really? Not odd at all.

It’s very insensitive for your MIL to keep banging on about it.
I come from a family of blue eyed, black / dark haired people, with Irish great grandparents, and My husband has light brown hair and hazel eyes. My boys take after me with blue eyes and v dark hair and it was a big shock to me that my DD got his light hair, tanned skin and green eyes!
Don’t know why it was a shock but secretly I am pleased that I managed to pass my blue eyes / dark hair combo on too.

@ShinyMe Blue eyes are rare? I have blue eyes, had a few comments on them over the years but never considered them rare.

Now green eyes, they are rare.

I kind of get this.

It's the MIL finding similarities between herself with your child, and judging by the thread it's a fairly common occurrence!

Have to say I didn't realise blue eyes are rare when thought of globally; like PP have said, it certainly isn't in Northern Europe, and usually blue eyes go without comment - the only time I've been struck by someone's eye colour is when they have a 'true green', which is very rare and an eye colour I find very striking.

Have to agree about the blue eye/very dark hair combo however - Ian Somerhalder anyone? Yes please...

I didn't think blue eyes were rare? Aren't they the dominant colour? Mine are blue and I think they're pretty boring

@PerfidiousAlbion I know quite a few people with grey eyes but have met less than a handful with true green eyes.

People with grey eyes often look like they have blue eyes as it depends on what they are wearing. So you tend to have to meet them a few times unless they tell you they have grey eyes.

@chubbyhotchoc

I didn't think blue eyes were rare? Aren't they the dominant colour? Mine are blue and I think they're pretty boring

This getting boring now. There's a big world out there you know, it's not just Western Europe. 🙄🙄

@Skyliner001 thanks for putting me in my blue eyed place!

I want to know what someone could say that gets deleted on a thread about eye colours 😂😂😱

We have something similar but the other way around. Mum, hazel eyes. Dad, brown. DD1 brown, DD3 hazel like mom. DD2 randomly very very blue. I’ve lost count of the amount of mentioning of how she must be the ‘milkman’s’. Bloody offensive really.

Oh yes!

My MIL used to go on about the kids having brown eyes "just like Gran"

And her husband, & me & my husband & my mum & dad, 3 of my 4 GPs, all 4 of my husbands GPs...

I find it fascinating too that blue eyes are meant to be recessive. I have blue eyes; my older 2 DC's dad has green eyes, my younger 2 DC's dad has brown eyes. All my DC have blue eyes. My two DGC have blue eyes too (youngest's mum has brown eyes). I definitely think my strong genes have come through but I would never say it to anyone.

Blue eyes aren't rare. The rarest colour is green 👁 any eyes can be beautiful.

Everyone in my family (parents, grandparents, sister, cousins, aunts and uncles - even the ones I’m not biologically related to) has blue eyes. Often with dark hair (my dad and his siblings had black hair before it went grey). When DS1 turned out to have hazel eyes (my ex’s eyes are green), my family we’re all shocked.

Most people in my class at school had blue eyes too. I’ve never thought of them as rare.

All eye colours can be lovely. DH is obsessed with darker eyes being better. Although he seems put out that DS3 (10 days old, so who bloody knows what the end result will be 😂) seems to have darker eyes than DH’s hazel. He keeps referring to DSS as having ‘creepy pale blue eyes’. 🙄 (they’re not creepy obviously , just very pale blue)

@oakleaffy

Blue eyes are recessive , but it is possible for two brown eyed parents to produce blue eyed children, but usually blue eyes are blue at birth.

Bb Mum x Bb Dad

will give BB , Bb, Bb, and bb {3 brown eyed, one blue eyed baby...so basically a 25% chance of having a blue eyed baby .

If Mum is BB and Dad BB = All offspring will be BB brown eyes.

Blue eyed parents bb x bb can only have blue eyed offspring.

BB and bb =all offspring will be brown eyed.

Don't know why MIL is obsessing about blue eyes?

What is extremely sad is the amount of Brown eyed people in some Countries who are damaging their sight by having ''eye colour surgery''...It is ghastly.
{look on you tube if you dare}

But the comments are from people saying ''Brown eyes are not as attractive as blue''...
WRONG! Brown eyes are beautiful.
💕

There is more than one gene that affects eye colour, so it is indeed possible for 2 blue eyed parents to have a brown eyed child. Rare, though.

I have blue-grey eyes, with a dark ring around the outside of the iris. DC both have steel grey eyes with green flecks. Their dad just had grey eyes.

My mum had blue eyes, dad has one hazel and one darker brown eye, DB has hazel eyes. Db reckons he's always had hazel, but I'm sure I recall him having grey until he was about 10 years old.

I must remember if/when I’m a MIL not to do this as it does irritate me when she constantly tries to claim my children. I vividly remember when my eldest was a baby and his hair was turning blonde she said it must be because of DH’s cousin who has (dyed) blonde hair. I was standing trying not to do a WTF face and said it might be something to do with the fact that I, his mother have blonde hair.

I have very bright blue eyes, ex has very dark brown. 2 of my dc have my bright blue eyes, 1 has grey eyes and 1 has very dark brown eyes, I was so happy to get one that had lovely chocolate brown eyes! I always wanted green eyes when I was younger.

I have green eyes and my husband brown and we produced blue/green with a gold ring around the middle, Chocolate brown and green blue/grey. It is an interesting subject

Rayleigh Scattering

Yes, that’s it! Cheers 😊

How rude of her!

I am dark haired with bluey green eyes and very fair skin. Exh has hazel eyes and light hair. DS is olive skinned with dark brown eyes! DS is miles better looking than me and exh

DH has really dark brown eyes (Almost black sometimes) and I love them! I really thought DS would have brown but his are bright blue (he’s 16 months)
My dad is obsessed with the fact the blue eyes are from him (He’s the only one on either side with blue eyes) but I have green and based on my basic biology knowledge I thought green was the most recessive therefore the blue must come from DH side.
I don’t say anything mind, just nod and agree. DS is the spit of my husband so I let my dad have this!
Perhaps someone with more knowledge can explain.
I don’t really have a favourite eye colour, I love them all and we have all 3 in our little family!