This obsession with blue eyes! Anyone else?

[Lelophants]

Honestly, I know it's a minor thing but it's really starting to annoy me! 🤣

Dh and I both have hazel eyes. We are white but more olivey skin (not that it matters!) Ds is the spitting image of me as a baby and his eyes are still that changeable very dark blue/brown colour, but looks dark in most lights. He has basically the same eyes I did as a baby and most of the time they look hazel, but I guess they haven't quite set yet. Mine didn't set until 1. He is 9 months. (Other babies we know with blue eyed parents have proper blue eyes - ds has never looked very blue!) Also neither DH or myself are blue!!

Pil are both blue and hazel eyed and mil is the blue eyed one and is obsessed that our baby will have blue eyes! Every time she visits (maybe 6 or 7 times now) it's "his eyes look blue! Are they blue?" Then looks disappointed when we say no. I'm not kidding. Every time she comes in! I actually have an intake of breath now. She then makes the odd comment of "well they look blue to me." as if I'm making it up.

I actually find it quite offensive. Dark eyes are attractive you know! Her son has them! And ds has my eyes!
She even made some comment about how her other son has blue eyes and how beautiful they are.

Anyone else have people like this? Blue eyes are no nicer than dark eyes. Hazel eyes are beautiful thank you very much!

Why Change17?
I tend not to use, read or watch the type of media that would say that blue eyes are desirable.

No-one I know is shallow enough to think that either.

Just a personal view, but I find the stereotype of "beautiful" women with blond hair and blue eyes rather wishy washy in comparison to a brunette with dark eyes. Not to say that blue eyed blondes aren't beautful though.

I'm irish and have brown eyes but I know many more blue eyed people than brown.
Apparently 57% of irish people are blue eyed.

I think it's odd to base anyone's beauty simply on their hair colour & eye colour. A beautiful face is a beautiful face regardless of your eye colour.

Ginfordinner oh I agree! I don’t know why. Perhaps it’s more a generational thing. Perhaps somehow it’s become the “ideal” in terms of beauty standards. I’m really not sure but I’ve certainly often seen/heard the idea that blue is more desirable than brown. My brother has hazel and he often commented he drew the “short strAw” since my sister and I are blue and green. And parents are blue. Always found it silly because he has lovely eyes but he certainly was always envious of my sister and I

"Scientists have tracked down agenetic mutationwhich took place 6,000-10,000 years ago and is the cause of theeyecolor of allblue-eyed humans alive on the planet today. New research shows that people withblue eyeshave a single, common ancestor."

Just googled! I found this quite interesting

People are weird. She obviously wants your ds to have her eyes.

That’s probably all it is tbh. My husband and I both have dark brown hair but our two year son’s hair is white blonde and my MIL is constantly harping on about how he ‘got it’ from my husband (who was blonde as a toddler) and FIL (who was also apparently blonde as a toddler) even though I also had very light blonde hair as a toddler and so did my dad and brother.

But yea, clearly it only came from her side. 🙄

I love. .blue eyes. Especially with dark hair.

But.. your pil should be told to shut up and that there is nothing bad about brown eyes.

I've only ever experienced this in North Africa and Turkey where blue eyes are a rarity.

My daughter has lovely hazel eyes.

Today is a good day, Iv learned something new today and I like to learn.

Due to this thread I thought I'd have a bit of a Google into eye colour. I'm not quite sure why except I suppose because of my own experience but I thought that brown eyes were the most common but in fact I'm completely wrong Iv found this and the statistics were the same in quite a few of the latest articles I read about eye colour.

While blue eyes used to be the least common colour and were seen as a rarity, 48% of the British population now have blue eyes. This is followed by green eyes at 30%, with a mere 22% of the British population having brown eyes. Globally, however, brown eyes make up 90% of the population, blue eyes 8%, and green eyes a tiny 2%. Eye colour can also change over the course of someone’s life, with many babies being born with blue eyes which gradually darken over the coming months or years to become brown. This is because human eyes don’t have their full amount of pigment at birth, resulting in temporarily blue eyes. Pigment levels can also fluctuate after childhood, so the eye colour you have in twenty years’ time might not be exactly the same as you have now!

Blue eyes arent rare! Blue eyes are my least fave but I'd never say that to anyone in real life! She needs to stop it, its offensive to say it to you.
Green and hazel are my fave.

Ginky, I believe pigment also fades with older age certainly in blue eyes.

I believe pigment also fades with older age certainly in blue eyes

Iirc blue pigments don’t actually exist, it’s just a lack of melanin. The science behind the blue colour is the same as what gives the sky and water a blue colour.

There’s a term for this I’m forgetting.

@WaxOnFeckOff

Ginky, I believe pigment also fades with older age certainly in blue eyes.

I did wonder that as I know a couple of people who are now would be classed as elderly who Iv been sure their eyes have shifted in the 20+ years Iv known them.

My fathers hair also darkened as he aged he had quite red hair to the point of having the nickname ginger but by the time he died his hair was distinctly browner (not brown exactly but definitely not the red from his youth) although that may be nothing at all to do with what this thread is about.

Genetics and the human biology are so interesting aren't they!

Ah @MangoFeverDream, not sure then but certainly seen my own and my parents and siblings blue eyes become paler as we've got older.

My preference is for dark hair and dark eyes even though I’m a blue eyed blonde.
My mum had incredible light, clear green eyes, same lightness as mine, which are very pale, but green. They were amazing and I’ve never seen anyone else with them. Lots of self professed green eyed people have what I’d call hazel eyes with green flecks, very lovely but not a true green.

One daughter has my blue eyes and blonde hair, the other has her father’s hazel eyes and dark hair. Both lovely.

My DD1 had blue eyes that changed to green, DD2 has big chocolate coloured eyes and DS has grey/green. All eye colours are beautiful, hazel is lovely.

She just wants to be able to say he is like her which is really sweet. I would just humour her. I agree with the poster about black hair and blue eyes, oh my!

I think grey eyes are rarer than green arent they?

I once knew a woman with yellow/amber eyes and light blonde hair. People used to stop and stare she was so stunning.

I have very unusual eyes. Mine are brown in the centre then olive green with a dark navy outside circle. I say Hazel but they are unusual.

My mum has very dull blue eyes, My dad had brown eye, my brother has blue eyes. Both his children were born with really big dark blue eyes, people commented on my nieces eyes all the time. Their mother has green eyes and is a ginger.

Ginky, I believe pigment also fades with older age certainly in blue eyes.

Virtually everyone in my family gave blue eyes & they all have changed colour over time.

My dd1 has blue eyes and never had any comments but dd2 has deep brown eyes and everyone says look at those chocolate buttons.

Its mil wanting a link to her directly. My mil does the same with my LOs features. She never points out any nice features that might be from my family haha.

YABU.

My children have different eye colours and it's never occurred to me to have a preference for one over the other. What an odd idea - are you sure it's not just in your head?

Everyone knows blue eyes are much prettier than boring brown eyes.

I’m joking!

Your MIL is obv just hoping your son will look like her. My MIL claims my curly blonde haired child is just like her side of the family. Every single one of them has straight dark brown hair! It’s annoying when she says it but fast forward the years and she sounds ridiculously silly more than anything else.

*iirc blue pigments don’t actually exist, it’s just a lack of melanin. The science behind the blue colour is the same as what gives the sky and water a blue colour.

There’s a term for this I’m forgetting.*

Rayleigh Scattering 🙂