Headbands and Bows on bald baby heads,

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Why do people do that to bald babies, when i see photos of tiny baby girls with this stuff i think god that must be so irratating , i feel sorry for them, i mean as hair gets thicker, etc not as bad, but am i being unreasonable in thinking wtf do people do this it looks so uncomfortable???

Awful things, I would hate one of those on my head all day,must be uncomfortable. And they look ridiculous imho.
Not quite as bad as earrings on babies tho

They usually come hand in hand with baby earrings

Ewww... I literally cannot stand them. They scream 'chav' 🙈

This, and getting a baby's ears pierced. It's so tacky!

They’re just awful.

I remember when DD was a few weeks old someone called her a “he”

The poor woman was mortified when I said she was a girl. I wasn’t fussed, they all look the same at that age but I wonder if the lack of pink and bows made the default suggestion she was male?

People teach girls that they have to accept physical discomfort in order to ‘look right’ from day one eh. So depressing.

Hannah Gadsby put it best:
www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p05dbvrk

Transcript below for those who don't do links (but her delivery is better than the written word so I really would click on the BBC at Edinburgh link if you don't know the skit already)

''You know what’s weird? Pink headbands on bald babies! That’s weird. I mean, seriously, would you put a bangle on a potato? No, that’s organic. I paid a lot for that potato. Of course I understand why parents do it. Clearly they’re sick and tired… of their beautiful baby girl… being mistaken for a boy baby because of the no hair situation. I understand that. But the thing is, I don’t assume bald babies are boys. I assume they’re angry feminists, and I treat them with respect.”

Ewww... I literally cannot stand them. They scream 'chav'

I don’t like headbands on babies because they’re a bit pointless, look a bit naff and are possibly dangerous. I don’t like the pressure to be pretty that girls are subjected to from the beginning but the thing I hate more is the smug use of the word Chav. I’m afraid it says far more about the person flinging it around than the “chavs” (who are they exactly?).

They're tacky and ridiculous. Just let your baby be natural! Plenty of time for adornments later.

Hideous.

I keep wanting to sing the thread title to the tune of My Favourite Things.

Re. boys wearing pink - there is an excellent Scottish writer, the books are all set in Edinburgh. There is a young boy whose mother insists on him wearing pink dungarees and a few grown men who wear pink jeans - BUT - this clothing is not pink, it is "crushed stawberry".

@SerenDippitty

I keep wanting to sing the thread title to the tune of My Favourite Things.

😂😂😂😂

@IgiveupallthenamesIwantedareg0

Re. boys wearing pink - there is an excellent Scottish writer, the books are all set in Edinburgh. There is a young boy whose mother insists on him wearing pink dungarees and a few grown men who wear pink jeans - BUT - this clothing is not pink, it is "crushed stawberry".

Bertie from Alexander McCall Smith books? I remember that I think!

I feel like I have found my people! 😂 big bows on babies make me roll my eyes so hard. YANBU (or if you are then I am too 😄)

@YouokHun

Ewww... I literally cannot stand them. They scream 'chav'

I don’t like headbands on babies because they’re a bit pointless, look a bit naff and are possibly dangerous. I don’t like the pressure to be pretty that girls are subjected to from the beginning but the thing I hate more is the smug use of the word Chav. I’m afraid it says far more about the person flinging it around than the “chavs” (who are they exactly?).

I agree, up to a point...

but there is literally nothing redeeming about them and normally I'm with you on the use of the word "chav" which is usually pointless snobbery.

But in this case I think the sentiment is warranted. You're forcing a horrible bit of gender stereotyping on a brand new baby at just the point in its life when it should be blissfully free of all that.

And just a breathtakingly ugly way to deface a baby.

I just think anyone who does this has either been living under a rock or has sensory perception issues.

WhereTheCrawdadsSing: yes, poor little Bertie, but also Matthew from the art gallery in Dundas Street who wore his crushed strawberry cords with his "distressed oatmeal" sweater!

Oh I hate the headbands... on the subject of boys v girls I was chatting to my neighbour over lockdown and one of the things he said was that he worried about my boys (aged nearly two and 8 months) would "turn" because they have a pram and a play kitchen to play with.
I asked him if he never cooked for himself (He lives alone). And god forbid my boys have a chance to practice being parents... Honestly!!

I hate to see babies in Jeans and plastic trainers

I liked @Strokethefurrywall post.

I’d also question the assumption people put them on kids so they are not mistaken for boys.

Mine wore the occasional bow, dress and frill but also dungarees and blue clothes. Sometimes they were mistaken for boys. I couldn’t have cared less.

The assumption parents who use bows are empty headed and vapid is quite offensive as are many of the posts on here. I am highly educated, with several post graduate qualifications in traditional subjects (including STEM subjects) as well as having what is generally considered a “high flying” career. I am in no way a “chav” or any of the other offensive terms being bandied about here.

I put my children in clothes I like because I like them. I assume others do likewise. It’s nothing to do with anyone what a parent dresses their child in. I would not judge on appearances, and hope my girls learn that from me.

The mum shaming and class shaming on this thread based on a bloody bow is disgraceful.

I have 3 boys. One of the things I’m grateful for in having boys is that there’s absolutely no danger of anyone buying us the awful stuff they make for baby girls: headbands, stupid frilly things, stupid shoes and so on.

I’d prefer a wider range of clothes that don’t have dinosaurs or cars on them (why is this a thing?) but at least the stuff that isn’t incredibly ‘girlie’ is generally practical and comfortable.

DH has a girl and a boy from a previous relationship. I’m pretty certain the girl spent all her time in headbands and bows and such like (based on his ex’s taste). He was very cagey when I mention how horrible I think all that is. I regularly give him filthy looks when he insists she needs a pink X ‘because she’s a girl’. 🙄 Then he claims that her extreme stereotypical girlie interests all came from her and no one influenced them (it couldn’t possibly be that both her parents and all her grandparents have continually reinforced that throughout her life - which they clearly have).

DS3 is 10 days old. People just tend to ask if he’s a boy or girl because he’s a baby with a bald head in some sort of not particularly gendered sleepsuit. Today’s is cream with small teal triangles on it. Neither he nor I care that people cannot immediately work out what genitalia he has from a quick glance.

You're forcing a horrible bit of gender stereotyping on a brand new baby

So you never once dressed your daughter in something pink, floral, or a dress? This is no different.

They absolutely look ridiculous, especially the big trashy bows.
The glue is 'only' sugar I think so is safe but the concept is bad not the ingredients, however could stick in babies hair or wisps of.

Ahh yes, I remember the girlie glue. Absolutely ridiculous, but how else will you make sure everyone knows you have a girl if you don’t glue a massive ribbon with glitter and rhinestones on their head?