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Headbands and Bows on bald baby heads,

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PasstheBucket89 · 13/08/2020 10:31

Why do people do that to bald babies, when i see photos of tiny baby girls with this stuff i think god that must be so irratating Sad, i feel sorry for them, i mean as hair gets thicker, etc not as bad, but am i being unreasonable in thinking wtf do people do this it looks so uncomfortable???

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Pobblebonk · 13/08/2020 22:52

[quote LivingoffCoffee]@Pobblebonk my 18mo DS is always stealing mine and pulling them on his head. I've got tons of pics with him in mine or DSIL's. He's still pretty bald too, so you'd all probably hate on him too 🤷🏼‍♀️[/quote]
I don't "hate on" any baby, and have never suggested that. Why would I? So far as I'm concerned, if your DS wants to put headbands on, that's absolutely great, so long as you're checking that he's safe - it's his choice, just as much as he might decide to play putting on a hat or grown-ups' shoes.

CallmeBadJanet · 14/08/2020 17:26

Can't stand it!

cherrybath · 14/08/2020 17:32

I just think it looks awful, draws attention to their baldness and their ears, sticky out or not

FelicisNox · 14/08/2020 17:48

Oh get over yourself.

I think judgemental posts on MN looking down your toffee nose is far worse than headbands on babies.

I think they're actually quite sweet.

《Massive eye roll》

GreenLeafTurnip · 14/08/2020 17:50

My sister in law did it to her daughter because she had no hair for agggges and she hated it (still does now because she still doesn't have much at 2 years old). Her daughter was forever pulling it off and she just kept putting it back on. She's one of these who also wants to place her ears young and I'm desperately hoping she won't go through with it.

zaffa · 14/08/2020 17:53

When DD was born I was so excited to put her in cute girlie outfits and dress her up as a bunny. I did this precisely twice before I realised that

  1. babies were not meant to wear jeans or tutus
  2. she wasn't a doll and wouldn't tolerate being dressed up like one
  3. there is a reason sleep suits are so easily purchased - they are the easiest thing to put her into with little fuss
  4. she will absolutely not tolerate a head band so that's an instant waste of money.

She'll be living in dungarees and sleep suits until she becomes an active participant in getting dressed (and not one who fights every step....)

inappropriateraspberry · 14/08/2020 17:58

My daughter was born with a full head of dark hair and it had to be clipped out of her eyes from a few months old. Even with pink hair clips and a dress on, people still asked if she was a boy or a girl! Some are scared to assume, some are not very observant!
I hate those little hair bands though, particularly pointless with no hair!
I don't think you should feel that you have to 'identify' your child's sex. My daughter still wears a lot of boys clothes at 5. Like pps have said, there is very little practical clothing for girls - all pale pink, frilly etc.

Commonwasher · 14/08/2020 18:04

I agree. It’s awful. And dangerous.

I put baby ear piercing in this bracket too.

It’s all about making sure females know that their primary role in life is to be decorative. Even when they are a week old and sitting in a pram.

Sweeptheleg · 14/08/2020 18:21

It looks so crap!

zaffa · 14/08/2020 18:41

@bananamonkey

They are absolutely hideous.

DC1 once got mistaken for boy because she was in blue polka dot dungaree shorts. The bright pink vest and frilly socks didn’t matter apparently, they were really off with me when I said she was a girl and said I shouldn’t have dressed her in blue Confused

This happened to us just the other day! I don't care though - DD was comfortable and that is probably the most important part
janj2301 · 14/08/2020 18:58

Can't stand them either but my big hate is pierced ears in very very young children. That should be banned until at least senior school

D4rwin · 14/08/2020 19:01

Just as bad as a " my parents like to flaunt their hatred of science by making me wear this pointless Amber trinket". People do have weird ideas.

SurroundedByIdiotsEverywhere · 14/08/2020 19:36

Some women dress up their dogs too... I think they are just continuing into adulthood of playing with dolls!

spottedbadger · 14/08/2020 19:48

YANBU - I don’t see the point. We have a baby girl, she is occasionally mistaken for a boy as we dress her in blue a lot. We laugh and move on. We are visiting my family and my lack of ‘style’ seems to be offending my sister - she already mentioned sequinned tutus, headbands and suggested we get baby’s ears pierced and paint her nails. She is TTC and hoping for a girl - I feel sorry already for the little bugger. Babies are perfect as they are, treating them as fashion accessories is selfish and daft.

Enderman · 14/08/2020 19:51

@SurroundedByIdiotsEverywhere

Some women dress up their dogs too... I think they are just continuing into adulthood of playing with dolls!
And then there’s the ones who push dogs in prams. Hmm
Diva66 · 14/08/2020 19:55

It looks stupid.

Hatscats · 14/08/2020 20:00

Sooo naff

Ravenesque · 14/08/2020 20:16

The headbands are pretty ugh, but my god pram shoes with heels?! It's official, our culture has declined, fell, has no pulse and is officially fucking dead. What in the name of holy fuckery is wrong with people!

Wanttolearnmore · 14/08/2020 20:28

I don't put bows/headbands on my daughter as it's not to my personal taste. And that's lucky really as I wouldn't have realised headbands were a health risk,or that there was such a thing as girly glue! Honestly!
It also annoys me how many clothes are gender stereotypical pink / blue , I don't see what's so wrong with yellow or green clothes. Is the retail sector reflecting an increased demand for pink or blue clothes for girls/boys ? I don't know where this would have come from especially now concepts such as gender neutral are in the public consciousness? It doesn't bother me whether people mistake my children for the wrong gender.

Bramleyapples13 · 14/08/2020 20:50

I think some parents think of their children as human accessories.

Diverami · 14/08/2020 20:50

In my birth family, all babies were fat, fair and bald (except me, dark and bald). My siblings, all boys, and others in the family grew up dark and craggy). My first born fat, fair and bald. The nice people we passed in the street used to say, "What a bonny lad!" I was not much bothered but made an effort to put her in a pink dress after one such episode. That day we met another nice person who exclaimed, "What a bonny lad!" Eventually, after a year or so, she grew some hair.

karen2402 · 14/08/2020 20:52

I've never understood this either. Looks very uncomfortable. Or they silly tiny ponytails on the top of their head where the baby has hardly any hair 🙈 my dd is 5 and has just recently started to tolerate bows and the like in her hair.

Diverami · 14/08/2020 20:54

I should have mentioned that my eldest daughter is now 53. Pink was for girls. But a few years before, Princess Grace of Monaco chose a layette (it was all over all the magazines) in pale yellow and pale green. I think she did this, because if there were no male heir, Monaco would have to be ceded to France, and she was making a point that a daughter would be welcome.

Celestine70 · 14/08/2020 21:24

Yes it's horrible. And shoes on a little baby and uncomfortable clothes.

CoalCraft · 14/08/2020 21:33

People just think it looks nice? I don't really see why whether or not a baby has hair should matter in how you dress them.

Lots of common ways of dressing babies aren't to my tastes, but I really can't get up in arms about it. Sure babies might not like then and pull them off, but that's true of hats too. Using glue is a bit weird though, never heard of that before.

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