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Headbands and Bows on bald baby heads,

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PasstheBucket89 · 13/08/2020 10:31

Why do people do that to bald babies, when i see photos of tiny baby girls with this stuff i think god that must be so irratating Sad, i feel sorry for them, i mean as hair gets thicker, etc not as bad, but am i being unreasonable in thinking wtf do people do this it looks so uncomfortable???

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jessstan2 · 13/08/2020 18:26

It's just a phase or fashion and will fade out as quickly as it faded in, like tattoos (not that babies have those). Not all mothers do it.

I was a bald baby and had a bald baby! Bald is good.

startrek90 · 13/08/2020 18:35

I think one of the worst things about baby girl clothing is the ridiculous sayings that get written on them. I was looking for some baby stuff for my dd and it had things like 'sorry boys dad says no dating' for a newborn! Also saw a 'future sex kitten' on a top for a 3 year old. It's insane. I really don't like clothes for girls that would be better suited for a 20 year old woman going clubbing. It's too grown up. Why does a 5 year old need hot pants for goodness sake!

I realise that probably makes me old fashioned or something but I really don't like it.

Alabamawhirly1 · 13/08/2020 18:38

There are so many stupid fashion choices people make for girls.

It annoys me when you see girls in the park in dresses and they can't go down the slide properly on bare legs. Or can't run properly in silly sandals. All the boys are in sensible sandals or trainers and shorts that they actually slide in.

When I had ds I used to see the massive girls section and wish for a little girl to shop for. Then I had a girl and realised the clothes are not practical, overly fussy and embellished, more effort to wash and iron and more expensive. I now buy alot of her stuff from boys sections, just so she doesn't have to have sparkly shirts with "unicorn lover" or "daddy's princess" or some other crap on it.

labazsisgoingmad · 13/08/2020 18:40

chavvy and must really irritate the poor babies

ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble · 13/08/2020 18:41

And if it helps put people at easy, DD got her "revenge". Now at 9, she will only have her hair up for school(because she needs to) and only in a simple pony tail. No headbands,frills , hairclips or bows have touched her hair in years.Grin

tobee · 13/08/2020 18:46

This thread title has made me howl with laughter! It's bothered me for years; but I thought I was irrational. Glad to see I'm not.

Gingerfish91 · 13/08/2020 18:53

Agree it looks ridiculous and usually in really uncomfortable looking frilly dresses.

Danni91 · 13/08/2020 18:56

My 10 & 2 yr olds had many comments calling both boys 'a pretty girl' 'ar she is good aint she? 'Aw she sleep well?'

My 5 month old (girl) hasnt had to deal with any of that bar once - feel a bit shit i'm judged for having a pink pram tho! My boys had a green one and a grey one and they never had a comment. Whys it bad to have something pink?

Regardless my little bald baby girl came out in a pink sleepsuit, pink car seat, pink hat, pink blanket at the grand old age of 1 day. Couple days before lockdown, a couple stopped me 'oh hes lovely, is he just new today?' Grin Grin

No bows here, not for any reason other than i dont care. People can do what they want. I used to feel the same way about bow ties on boys many years ago! Most are clip ons, i just dont care why. I assume mostly picture purposes and then off again

Cant see many kids under 5 keeping anything on they didnt wanna wear

lachy · 13/08/2020 18:59

My DD wouldn't have worn one - she'd have whipped it off in a heartbeat.

Having said that, I never liked them, DH can't stand them so they were never going to be something we bought.

crosstalk · 13/08/2020 19:19

The only opinion I have is that children (once parents have stopped choosing for them) should be able to choose for themselves. DC should be in practical garb throughout and wear their hair however they like. It was only last century that girls stopped being in blue and boys in red or pink and even then for those who could afford to choose colours or previously (lord help us) dress them in white dresses, boys and girls, presumably for long suffering maids to launder.

My main problem is the "gendering" of things like toys, colours etc. We're all on a curve from ultra feminine to ultra masculine.

PhilSwagielka · 13/08/2020 19:31

@startrek90

I think one of the worst things about baby girl clothing is the ridiculous sayings that get written on them. I was looking for some baby stuff for my dd and it had things like 'sorry boys dad says no dating' for a newborn! Also saw a 'future sex kitten' on a top for a 3 year old. It's insane. I really don't like clothes for girls that would be better suited for a 20 year old woman going clubbing. It's too grown up. Why does a 5 year old need hot pants for goodness sake!

I realise that probably makes me old fashioned or something but I really don't like it.

That's so creepy. And again, it's a new thing. I don't remember clothes like that when I was little.
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PasstheBucket89 · 13/08/2020 19:37

id just like to reiterate i dont have any issue with cute, pink, frilly clothes as long as practical, lots of babygros, leggings, girls tshirts, floral., girly hats its just headbands on. bald heads must be uncomfortable x

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AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 13/08/2020 19:43

[quote LivingoffCoffee]@Pobblebonk my 18mo DS is always stealing mine and pulling them on his head. I've got tons of pics with him in mine or DSIL's. He's still pretty bald too, so you'd all probably hate on him too 🤷🏼‍♀️[/quote]
No one is “hating on” the babies.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 13/08/2020 19:44

@Alabamawhirly1

There are so many stupid fashion choices people make for girls.

It annoys me when you see girls in the park in dresses and they can't go down the slide properly on bare legs. Or can't run properly in silly sandals. All the boys are in sensible sandals or trainers and shorts that they actually slide in.

When I had ds I used to see the massive girls section and wish for a little girl to shop for. Then I had a girl and realised the clothes are not practical, overly fussy and embellished, more effort to wash and iron and more expensive. I now buy alot of her stuff from boys sections, just so she doesn't have to have sparkly shirts with "unicorn lover" or "daddy's princess" or some other crap on it.

It was the same 15 years ago when my dd was little. Am sorry to see things haven't changed.
Pinkyandthebrainz · 13/08/2020 19:46

Looks cheap and tacky. Bloody awful.

goose1964 · 13/08/2020 19:53

My middle son had light blond curly hair and was mistaken for a girl, I think he was wearing shorts and a t shirt, he must have been 3 or 4. At the same time , holiday in Greece, I was spoken to in Swedish because the two children with me were very fair (DD was white blonde ) . My granddaughter is still bald at nearly 18 months old and neither parent has felt the need to stick a it I'm a girl marked on her head.

SnugglySnerd · 13/08/2020 19:53

I agree, they are awful! I also hate seeing babies in jeans, they must be so uncomfortable sitting in car seats etc dressed in stiff denim.

I also used to hate seeing little girls in the park in impractical dresses but try telling that to dd2 who wants to wear a party dress every single day! To be fair it doesn't slow her down at all, she is up the climbing frames, down slides, riding her bike etc and keeping up with her brother and older sister who both only ever want to wear t shirts and shorts.

IlanaWexler · 13/08/2020 19:56

@PasstheBucket89 If it was uncomfortable then surely the baby would protest or remove it? DS has immediately removed any hat I've ever put on him.

Enderman · 13/08/2020 19:57

There’s a mum in the school playground who I see at pick up time, who has a DD around the age of 2.

Whenever I see her the DD is always in a tutu, nails painted, big bows in hair, and the last time I saw them the mum was standing in the playground wiping glitter into the child’s hair (because we all do that at pick up), it just looked like she was dressing a doll. Hmm

Jellybeansincognito · 13/08/2020 20:00

It’s like people that put their baby girls hair in a really tight pony tail and it sticks up on the top of their head like a unicorn.

I don’t get it?

Mommabear20 · 13/08/2020 20:02

While headbands do look ridiculous, nothing infuriates me more than people that get their babies ears pierced 😡😡😡 poor kids don't have a choice!

TrashKitten10 · 13/08/2020 20:07

A nice old man in the post office queue remarked what a lovely little boy newborn DD was. Then said they all look like Winston Churchill anyway when I said she was a girl. Winston Churchill would look ridiculous in a bow so I left her little bald boy head be. Now at nearly ten months I have enough difficulty trying to wrestle a sunhat onto her to be bothered with replacing bands and bows 37643 times a day.

SnugglySnerd · 13/08/2020 22:08

@Jellybeansincognito

It’s like people that put their baby girls hair in a really tight pony tail and it sticks up on the top of their head like a unicorn.

I don’t get it?

I thought the same but once we started weaning I understood! It is better than constantly having to wash dinner out of hair Grin although I went for clips rather than a tight ponytail.
Dee1975 · 13/08/2020 22:14

Yep - utterly ridiculous!

talkingkrustydoll · 13/08/2020 22:27

My dd never wore girly clothes as there were loads of unisex stuff in 2005. She's still not what you would call girly but that may be because I'm not.

What I do find weird is when parents treat their kids like dolls. There's a woman at my sons school who wears the same clothes, hairstyle and nail varnish as her 2 year old. It's very strange. She also posts constantly abut her gorgeous princes and her smart boy. It all just seems so sad.