To think I've met 'the one' after 3 weeks?

[NorthernGal9]

I don't know if I necessarily believe in the idea of 'the one' but didn't know how else to phrase it.

Met just over three weeks ago in a pub. Talked all night til 6 in the morning. Seen each other every free minute since. I feel like we both just know.

I've had some utterly horrific experiences in the past and this is so so different. It's like my gut knew as soon as I saw him. He's incredible. I'm just so happy.

Anyone else experienced something this? I didn't even know it was possible to feel this way. It took me a year last time I was with someone to even feel about one-tenth of how I feel now. Eeeeek!

Lovely stories amongst some sad threads

@chardee. Love yours

Not exactly the same but years ago I was going away with Girlfriends, I asked my sister to come, she told me in the car in on the way down 'i'm going to meet my husband this weekend' I laughed.

We were standing in this awful nightclub. One of my best pals at the time (absolutely stunning girl and utterly lovely too) said she was going to the loo. Next minute I saw sister talking to this guy. That was the last I saw of her that night till I got back to b & b. They are together 19 years, married 15 with 2 kids, very happy

But he stupidily told my sister a few weeks later that he was actually heading to chat up my stunning friend. The big bloody ejit. She is quite a jealous person so never wanted to meet her again.

Sadly my gorgeous best friend met a controlling abusive bastard (I knew this after a few nights out with them both and he cornering her as men were 'looking at her' , she moved away, married him, had 2 beautiful children. She never contacted me again (as much as I tried). She took her own life 5 years ago. I'm still devastated for her children and family.

Enjoy every moment cautiously OP

I didn’t personally but I don’t discount your feelings at all!

It happens, we were married and pregnant within a year. DS is now 10 and we’ll be married 11 years this time. We have dd now too and I’m hoping for another baby soon

My mum is adamant that the first time she set eyes on my dad, she knew she would marry him. They've been very happy for 43 years. I don't know how they put up with each other!

Oh @OrchidJewel I am so so sorry. I welled up reading that. Your poor friend and her beautiful children. Such a sad story. Sending love, I’m sorry you weren’t able to maintain contact

"The One" is sometimes a 'happily ever after' One. "The One" is sometimes the person who brings up your deepest issues to address. It's a crap-shoot. You're hearing from a lot of the lucky ones here, but, as PPs have said, there are just as many people who met "the One" and they were their worst nightmares, or there was nothing when the lust wore off.

@trujay thank you. I'm welling up again myself. I met her kids 2 years ago (her family invited me) I got such a shock as how alike they are to their Mam. One had the same quirky habits. They loved my stories of her life before she had them. I sometimes get the odd call from 1 asking me for more stories (the other lurking in the background) I've kinda run out of stories but I normally think of something

I met my husband on a tuesday, he told me he loved me on the Friday. I told him I love him on the Sunday. Our friends we were out for dinner with were laughing in shock and so happy for us at the same time
We got engaged 3 months later to the day we first met and at the restaurant we had our first date. Been together 14 years since I was 18 and we have 3 kids and expecting our 5th.

I truly believe God brought him to me . He is the best man in the world. We laugh at the same thing, hes also very religious as am I. Hes romantic, caring, ambitious and so gorgeous. He makes me laugh until I cant breathe, he is a family man. I would do anything for him.

That was meant to say 4 kids, expecting 5th hahaha

Well I think it could be perfect and true love, or it could not be.

Just keep your wits about you til you know.

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

They are all in their best behaviour and out to impress in the first few months.

I would be ultra wary of love bombing too.

A year is about right to decide if he's possibly a keeper or not.

Enjoy the butterflies for now though, it's a great feeling.

This.

My 'the one' did the lovebombing and mirroring thing very, very hard. Once I was smitten, blissed out and invested in both emotional and practical terms, his mask gradually began to slip. Gradually he became mean, miserable and abusive and I was lucky to get out relatively quickly - it was hard to accept how bad things had become, and hard to give up hope, when I recalled how wonderful everything had seemed to begin with.

So I think caution and a slow pace is very good advice - but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy every moment! As others have said, if this is the real deal then it will still carry on being the real deal if you take things slowly.

was he the one OP?! 😂

@NorthernGal9 now i want to know too

I forgot about this post! We are now married, homeowners with a baby, and very happy 😀

Aww, that's lovely 😊

Wonderful! Thank you for the update

Knew the night I met him. He said later that he’d known too.

First date 4 weeks later (due to living 3 hours apart), we met at 3pm on a Friday for late lunch. Date finished at 6pm sunday.

We were married a year later. First date was 14 years ago now.

I bet it was a blast from the past to see. I am so happy for you. sometimes you just know.

I posted on here i think i'd just got married to after a similar feeling. We are now expecting our second :)

What a lovely update.
I met mine 50 years next December, I knew straight away.
I'm having a lazy morning, he's just brought me a cup of tea in bed.

Yay! Love a happy ending.

That's lovely op, I wish you a lifetime of happiness together.
I married my husband eight weeks after we first clapped eyes on each other.
Over forty years, two kids and three grandchildren later, we're still as much in love as we were when we met and looking forward to doddering into old age together.

This … engaged after 2 weeks married within a year- 44th wedding anniversary coming up. Go with how you feel.

DH proposed to me after 3 weeks, we married 7 weeks later. We’ve just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. I won’t lie, it wasn’t plain sailing in the beginning because we didn’t really know each other that well but we stuck at it… and he we are.

Thanks for the update @NorthernGal9 !
Sounds really lovely and wishing you lifelong happiness 💓

Also love the other happy stories, God bless you all!