This thread is repulsive in the vile ignorant comments so many are making. No wonder it is so difficult for people with trauma to receive the care they need in this country when so many people lack the basic human empathy to even recognise it exists or respond with a modicum of compassion.
To those pps: it is irrelevant whether you personally would not have cared or would have consented because it is not you, your body, or your consent under discussion here. You don't get to decide whether or not another person should consent to something or whether that person is allowed to be traumatised or distressed by their experiences! A healthy baby and being traumatised are not mutually exclusive.
Op, I'm sorry your consent was violated, I'm sorry the people who should have made you feel safe when you were vulnerable let you down so badly, and I'm sorry you have had such brutal and ignorant responses from posters on here.
I can see what you mean, OP. That it made you feel that you weren't a human patient, in terrible pain, that you were merely some inanimate object to be observed, a curiosity. That your wishes and feelings were completely irrelevant to the humans in the room. Feeling dehumanised can be terrifying, instinctively, because of the poor care which can result.
That your husband participated, rather than acted as your advocate, must make you feel so unsafe - he didn't have your back when it counts and that will make you wonder if he would adequately advocate for you in future medical events.
This, from page one, was a good summary and it was what I saw and felt too when I read your op. I am sorry this happened to you. You are allowed to feel distressed by it. You have every right to expect to be heard and respected when you speak about how it has affected you.