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Blocked by the youngest son

69 replies

moolady1977 · 06/08/2020 20:11

I've been at work all day finally get home and sit to down and receive a message from my youngest son ' I want some boots' no hi mum or anything just that message , I didn't reply straight away so he rang me and ever word out of his mouth was bad language so I said 'ds I'm your mum speak to me like it not like I'm one of your friends stop swearing at me ' he kept saying he hadn't swore . He then put the phone down on me and I received another message saying BLOCKED , he is 16 I don't want to hear that coming out of his mouth every word he speaks .
I spoke to his dad about it who said that's the way he is and how he speaks to everyone and just to let him get on with it . Am I so wrong in wanting him to at least from swear in every sentence he uses

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june2007 · 06/08/2020 20:16

I,d say he won,t get the boots unless he stops swearing.

Purpleneonpinkunicorns · 06/08/2020 20:19

I'd tell him that manners and respecting your mother is far more important than demanding and swearing for a pair of boots..

I would also because I'm pretty refuse to buy them a extra few days later for every day that he keeps you blocked.

Purpleneonpinkunicorns · 06/08/2020 20:19

I mean I'm petty not pretty Blush

katy1213 · 06/08/2020 20:21

Let him stay blocked. And keep your purse shut.

spacepoppers · 06/08/2020 20:21

My 16 year old would be in for a shock if he EVER dared to speak to me like that. He would lose everything. Phone, Playstation, pocket money, freedom...the works. It's a slippery slope OP, once you accept behaviour like that then it's all over, they can do what they like. What's next, is he going to start pushing you around if he doesn't get his own way?

PoodleMoth · 06/08/2020 20:21

I'd be confiscating his phone and turning off the wifi so he can't use any devices until he sorts out his act!

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 06/08/2020 20:23

I'd let him get on with it - and maybe he should get a part time job and buy his own boots.
Also, block him from meals, getting laundry done.....

billy1966 · 06/08/2020 20:23

Seriously?

I hope you are not paying for his phone?
Because if it was my provider and I was paying the bill and I was being cursed at, that phone account would be frozen.

If you are married to a man who is telling you to suck it up, it's hardly surprising.

I certainly wouldn't put up with it.

I wouldn't do a single thing for husband or son.

I'm very, very petty when it comes to being treated with respect.

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 06/08/2020 20:24

And who is paying his mobile bill? Unless he pays his own, I'd block that as well.

GennyCrabby · 06/08/2020 20:26

Does he live with you or his dad?

Aquamarine1029 · 06/08/2020 20:29

If my now adult children had ever spoken to me like that their lives wouldn't have been worth living. Totally unacceptable and there would be massive consequences to be had.

Dugsbollox · 06/08/2020 20:29

His dad is in for a time of it if he accepts that is "just the way he is". Your son needs to learn some manners.

Rhubardandcustard · 06/08/2020 20:29

Are you paying for his phone? I would cancel the contract ASAP if my son spoke to me like that. You are right here op basic manners he doesn’t get to speak to you like he trash talks with his friends.

Let him have his blocked tantrum and don’t engage until he apologises.

missyB1 · 06/08/2020 20:33

No wonder he’s so rude and disrespectful if his dad thinks that’s perfectly acceptable!

No boots and ignore the blocking. In fact he gets nothing from you until he apologises and acknowledges how bloody wrong he is!

Frannibananni · 06/08/2020 20:34

I love you but you don’t get to treat me like that.
Honestly I would be pretty firm and just stop paying for everything.

FiveToFour · 06/08/2020 20:39

Let him get on with it?
Absolutely no way would he be left to " get on with it" in this house,it's unacceptable behaviour, both the swearing and the blocking.

Shizzlestix · 06/08/2020 20:54

I love you but you don’t get to treat me like that.
Honestly I would be pretty firm and just stop paying for everything.

Bang on.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 06/08/2020 20:59

16 and rude, I’d say buy your own boots

Mintjulia · 06/08/2020 21:04

He’s 16 so he’s still dependent on you. I’d confiscate his phone and not buy him any boots.
Once he’s apologised and managed a couple of weeks without swearing I’d let him have his phone back.
If he wants new boots he needs to earn them - for school work or chores maybe.

Tunnocks34 · 06/08/2020 21:10

Not a chance would I have ever been allowed to speak to my mum like that. Never.

Take his phone. No football boots.

HouchinBawbags · 06/08/2020 21:16

If you pay for his phone, call the provider and block it. Now!

Vodkacranberryplease · 06/08/2020 21:19

Awful! You can't let him go out into the world behaving like that! He will be unemployable and a total arse to women he dates/marries. Do him the biggest favour of his life and draw a line.

WhereYouLeftIt · 06/08/2020 21:20

"I spoke to his dad about it who said that's the way he is and how he speaks to everyone and just to let him get on with it "
Let him get on with it? In what way is that 'parenting'? Hid dad (I assume you are not together?) is clearly part of the problem and not part of the solution.

I'd be treating him like a two-year-old fixated on the word 'poohead'. He'd be on a metaphorical naughty step which he would be allowed to leave ONLY once his behaviour merited such a privilege. I may well physically block him on my phone just to make the point. And he wouldn't be getting boots, meals, laundry or anything else until I'd had an acceptable apology.

Are you the resident parent, or his father?

Vodkacranberryplease · 06/08/2020 21:20

@HouchinBawbags If you pay for his phone, call the provider and block it. Now!

Evil genius! But actually a great idea.

Purpleartichoke · 06/08/2020 21:20

His phone would be in my pocket.