To ask guests to take a test

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Supposed to be getting married next spring, who knows if we can go ahead as planned.

Assuming we can, would you be happy to take a covid test before attending?

If it's feasible we would like to ask all guests (and pay for them) to take test pre attending.

If it's negative obviously you can't come.

Would you think that was too much of an ask / bride and groom - zilla?

I don't think it'd go down too well, who would pay for them?

@AfterSchoolWorry sorry, I said in my op - we would pay for them.

I'd decline. Weddings are intolerable enough without having someone ram a swab down your nose and throat in order to attend. I'd be grateful of the excuse not to go though.

Well you could be tested and it be negative then be carrying it by the time you get your results so a pointless exercise really.

I just wouldn't come

So you only want people with Covid at your wedding ? That's bizarre

@Redshoeblueshoe yikes! Vital typo there..... 🤦🏻‍♀️

No point as they could be riddled with Covid after receiving the test result and even they might not know.

Definitely bridezilla. I know not everyone shows symptoms but I would hope my friends and family would be sensible.

No I wouldn't get tested to attend your wedding, I'd rather not come.

I would follow guidance on symptoms, isolating etc and going by that, decide whether to go to a social event.
Any suggestion of attendance based on a test then I would have to decline the invite and wish you a lovely day.
Sorry I think its very invasive.

I think this would be a waste of money on your part as unless testing massively changes by then in the sense that you can tell if someone is incubating and not showing positive yet then a bunch of negative tests tells you nothing.

They could pick it up on the way there etc.

If you were a close friend or family I'd do it at your request and expense but I'd think it pointless.

How far in advance would you test? Between the test and attending they could pick it up. You have said you will uninvite those with a negative test!!

Ok thanks and interesting!

I had assumed we are going to be tested much more frequently before going about our lives in future so didn't think it was a big deal.

For what is worth, I've had one - the whole thing is less than 3 seconds and really nothing to bothered by.

No that's really odd. I wouldn't come. The only exception would be if the person getting married was terminally ill or something and therefore incredible vulnerable but assuming that's not the case then nope!

You can ask but I would decline the invite and think you were daft

No, that's very strange. I'd just not come.

For what is worth, I've had one - the whole thing is less than 3 seconds and really nothing to bothered by.

The few people I know who have had one found it incredibly uncomfortable to painful. It certainly bothered them.

@IllustriousToad one of the immediate family is, not terminally ill but would certainly not survived covid.

Just desperately trying to find a way for them to safely attend.

It would be a gigantic waste of money. They can test negative that day and catch it that nogjt

No I wouldn't, why don't you just get married quietly, you and your fiancé with a few family members? Surely recent events have shown that planning a 'big' or even 'modest' wedding is really risky?

Less than 3 seconds?

Really?

@AllPlayedOut

It doesn't feel nice but your nose is swabbed in a split second and the throat one didn't bother me at all but I guess that depends on how squeamish / dramatic people are!

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Supposed to be getting married next spring, who knows if we can go ahead as planned.

Assuming we can, would you be happy to take a covid test before attending?

If it's feasible we would like to ask all guests (and pay for them) to take test pre attending.

If it's negative obviously you can't come.

Would you think that was too much of an ask / bride and groom - zilla?

Like a chicken pox party? How will you manage to get all test positive at the same time?

@WorraLiberty yes - it's in and out of your nose before you even realise.

Throat maybe longer but imo that's really not uncomfortable. Maybe I had a gentle nurse!

Bonkers OP. Even if it wasn't a ridiculous idea to ask guests to do this all the test would do is tell someone they don't have it at that moment, but they could catch it at any time after that, plus the test has a 30% false negative as far as I'm aware,

There is no magic answer to your dilemma, just as with so much in life at the moment things carry an element of risk.....